Go fired after walking out of therapist Office. Is there any point in trying to be attractive anymore.

HitEmWiththeHein · 2019-09-05T01:14:23+00:00

You weren’t fired for taking a day off. You’ve been off your meds, stop playing a victim and get your life together. Take your meds!

maxomai · 2019-09-05T04:44:33+00:00

Getting fired over a basic misunderstanding sucks. Getting fired over a basic misunderstanding while you're trying to take better care of yourself REALLY sucks.

But, you are still moving in the right direction, and you can and should be proud of that.

Take your meds, move on to the next gig, and keep advancing. You can do this, OP.

cutezie · 2019-09-05T06:47:44+00:00

It’s a temp agency, it’s not like you got kicked out of a board room. The bigger deal is you got meds so take them. Fuck “attracting women” or feeling hurt about your temp agency, you’re on a road to getting better feeling and that’s a step far too few people will take, so focus on that and remember that any discouragement you feel along the way is your unhealthy brain attacking you.

Once you feel better you’ll get a better job than a shitty temp agency, you’ll want to socialize, you’ll meet people. One foot in front of the other.

Krexington_III · 2019-09-05T08:54:56+00:00

I'm saying this with well-meaning: you are connecting data points that are in reality disjunct from each other. It is very common in people with depression or anxiety to feel like "the world" is against them. But there isn't a unified "world". Some days are just shit - bad things may happen at the same time. When you are mentally ill, most days are shit.

It all begins with you. Take your meds. Work out - not because of "SMV" or some dumb shit like that. Go on a strength program, or a conditioning program - something with measurable results, so that you are making some kind of progress.

And then slowly try to identify things about yourself that don't really work, and put in the work to fix them.

When you are a good you, your life will be a good life. I promise. I was a depressed, anxious, shut-in misogynist at 22. You can do this. Take your meds. Try to think slowly. Don't connect things that aren't connected - your getting fired has nothing to do with how attractive you are or whether you took a day off. When you connect the things, they become a big monster. But it's just a big swarm of tiny monsters. Squish them one at a time. It's not easy. But it's what you have to do.

snowdrone · 2019-09-05T01:01:04+00:00

Looking presentable also helps in the working world, good luck

rhapsody98 · 2019-09-05T12:21:48+00:00

If they’re going to fire you over something that stupid, either there’s something your not telling us, or you REALLY don’t want to work for them anyway. I’ve worked for companies like that and it’s Hell, walking on eggshells, getting written up for having a computer issue, or something else stupid.

Look at it another way: This is a blessing in disguise. What a great day! You got your meds, AND you have the opportunity of go find a job you really like!

TheRainMonster · 2019-09-05T02:02:46+00:00

That really sucks. I'm sorry. Good on you for working to get your medicine, and I hope that your next job is better.

Rhazelle · 2019-09-05T19:33:06+00:00

The first problem I'm noticing with you is that even at this point, your concern is that having lost your job knocks down your "smv". (For the record I think the concept of smv is full of shit, but that's not the point of this post.)

Your priorities are way out of whack. Getting a job and doing well (both physically and mentally) should be something you strive to do because it betters your life as a whole, not because you're thinking about how girls perceive you. Your motivation to do things really does matter. If you want a job because your goal is to "be more attractive to women", you're not going to be as focused and motivated and do as well as if your mentality is to "have a good career and future for myself".

For fuck's sake if you're having trouble holding a job and being mentally stable, then yes, there's no point in trying to be attractive right now. You need to get your shit together and make sure you can provide for yourself financially and emotionally before you even think about bringing someone else into your life, because it seems you are in absolutely no position to do so right now.

Stop focusing on women and this aritificial concept of "smv", and start focusing on yourself and what you need to have a successful life.

_Ulan_ · 2019-09-05T10:50:55+00:00

It only gets better when it can't get any worse.

Temp agencies suck, you either have a shit job, no room for improvement, or you're treated like a disposable napkin. Since you have to go though entry-level jobs in non optimal condition, got and apply for entry level contracts in companies where you'd have a chance to be hired after a few month/year of work. Low-paid intern in law, marketing, media, will give you a chance to observe the surrounding, talk to people that interest you and seek opportunity. If you're a temp no one even looks at you.

pizza_tron · 2019-09-05T11:20:26+00:00

Keep at it man. Times like this are the best to step up and kick life in the teeth.

Title	Go fired after walking out of therapist Office. Is there any point in trying to be attractive anymore.
Author	defo18
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Date	September 5, 2019 12:24 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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