Please remove if this isn’t allowed, but men who have left TRP seem like a good group to answer my question. I originally asked on RPW. You guys are basically my last stop before hiring a divorce lawyer.
About 6 months ago (February), my husband lost his job and had to take a lower paying one. However, I have always made significantly more than him, so while it was a big cut to his individual income, it was less than 5% of our combined income. We haven’t had to change lifestyles, we still moved into the home we built, we still took vacation in June. Even still, he’s been pretty depressed since the job loss.
Anyways, about a month ago (July) he began picking himself back up and in a better mood. He told me he had seen the light, and the reason he was unhappy was because he was living a lie as a blue pill man. He told me he was red pill now, and there were going to be changes in our relationship. He wanted me to take on all of the “women’s work” that he had been doing. We’ve been married 4 years and cook dinner together most nights, we do most of the cleaning as a couple. In moving into the new house, I had been considering having a service take over the cleaning because it is a lot now compared to the little place we were in. Now he wants me to do all of it, but he doesn’t want me to quit my job.
More pressing, we had a plan for having kids- in 2-3 years we were planning for me to go off birth control and try then. He wants my IUD removed by the end of the month so that we can be pregnant by the end of the year.
Finally, he has gotten aggressive, disrespectful, and sexually violent.
The reason I’m sharing all of this is that I want to know how to snap him out of it. This is not my husband. I don’t even recognize this man. RPW said that you can’t get men to leave TRP, but you all left right? Why did you leave?
Currently, I am staying at a long stay hotel taking some time. I know my friends and family would tell me to divorce him. Many of the women at RPW said I should divorce him.
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