The following is a collection of 5 posts that i came across in the last 3 or so years. These were the posts that helped me the most in my "recovering" process from the Red Pill. The posts that first made me see the obvious amount of bullshit behind TRP.

The Myth of the Alpha Male - This post, written by Scott Barry Kaufman, an evolutionary/positive psychologist who co-wrote "Mating Intelligence Unleashed", tackles the Alpha vs Beta distinction from a scientific point of view. He believes that being dominant and agressive isn't really attractive except to some people or on certain contexts, and that being a prestigious person who can be both confident, assertive but also kind and compassionate is a much better strategy. He also believe that people can't be divided in neither alpha or beta, because kindness and dominance can co-exist in the same person, leading him to conclude that being a person with both "beta" and "alpha" qualities is what ultimately will make someone attractive. He bases his data on psychology studies, studies on tribes worlwide and animal behavior. Remarkable Quotes:

  • "As the expression goes, when all you have is a hammer, all you see are nails. When we impose just two categories of male on the world, we unnecessarily mislead young men into acting in certain predefined ways that aren’t actually conducive to attracting and sustaining healthy and enjoyable relationships with women, or finding success in other areas of life."

  • "In our species, the attainment of social status, and the mating benefits that come along with it, can be accomplished through compassion and cooperation just as much (if not more so) as through aggression and intimidation."

  • "It is neither the alpha nor the beta male that is most desired by women. Taken together, the research suggests that the ideal man (for a date or romantic partner) is one who is assertive, confident, easygoing, and sensitive, without being aggressive, demanding, dominant, quiet, shy, or submissive. In other words, a prestigious man, not a dominant man."

Butchering the Alpha male - In this remarkable post, Mark Manson, author of "Models: Attract women through honesty" shows how the "Alpha Male" term is illogical and unreliable, how it is actually counter-productive in the long term and exactly what is there to learn that is positive about this alpha male stuff. Here are some remarkable quotes:

  • "You may disagree with me, but I challenge you to define what “Being Alpha” really means within the PUA/MDA framework. From what I can tell, it amounts to some vague combination of being confident + assert yourself over others + lead and make decisions + social proof + a splash of testosterone for good measure. Implied somewhere in there is communicating effectively and being persuasive (after all, if you’re leading and no one follows, that’s not very Alpha). But as you can see, there are no definitive Alpha traits one can point to. It’s a nebulous concept. Kind of a one-size-fits-all prescription for any guy anywhere who is being a pussy, bitching out and/or not acting too manly at the moment."

  • "Conning your way into a club for free, inching your way into a VIP table owned by someone you don’t know, stealing their drinks, then intimidating some poor girl’s boyfriend into letting you talk to her all night all can be labeled as “Life Changing” for a guy who just spent the last eight years in Mom’s basement. When the neophyte’s previous lifetime achievement involved a Lvl. 50 Warlock on the Aestimus Craekus server, doing the actions described above can make him truly feel like a man for the first time."

  • "But what typically happens next is the neophyte’s new-found success from Being Alpha begins to cement the Alpha worldview into his mind as what defines success and failure. It makes sense, after a lifetime of being Beta and failing repeatedly, it wasn’t until he became Alpha that he ever experienced success. Therefore, the idea that Being Alpha = Success seems wholly logical. A devotee is born."

My Life as a Pick Up Artist - Although this post is specifically targeting Pick Up Artists, i can safely say that what it's said here it's also valid for Red Pill. Regardless TRP admits it or not, it converges in 90% of their beliefs with Pick Up Artists. This post, by Mark Manson, is about his story as a former Pick Up Artist, specifically, how having lot's of sex won't necessarly make you happy and how tieing the idea of sucess with sex and being alpha will lead you to nothing but depression. Here are some remarkable quotes:

  • "A realization hit me — what’s the big deal? I get laid a lot. Congratu-fucking-lations Mark, you’re a normal part of society now. So why are you spending hours a day posting on forums, reading theory, dissecting phone calls from girls with your roommates and going out four nights a week? For the love of God, I live on a fucking couch. I ride my bike all day. I don’t even have my own computer to type these blog posts on. I haven’t done anything that didn’t involve alcohol, a vagina or a television screen in months."

  • "You don’t end up in the Pick Up Artist community unless you are incredibly unhappy or unsatisfied about something. It may be conscious, it may be unconscious. It may be short-term, or it may be deep-seated and long-term. But the fact is, the community acts for a lot of men as a diversion or scapegoat from dealing with their real issues — their emotional issues."

  • "these men band together in attempt to quantify and objectify their emotional lives together, under the auspices of “improvement." And by their shared metrics, improvement is “I had my first SNL.” “I banged my first 9 last night.” Etc. But there’s no yardstick for happiness, fulfillment, meaning or significance. This may sound lame and campy, but when you’ve met as many miserable guys with 100+ lays as I have, you may take it seriously."

Reclaiming Manhood: Detoxifying Toxic Masculinity - Here, famous author Doctor NerdLove explains what is toxic masculinity and why is bad. Toxic Masculinity is a set of beliefs about men and women, that is promoted by movements like The Red Pill, and bases men's self-worth on how dominant, agressive and sexually conquering he is. The author very eloquently explains why this set of beliefs is bad and how one can overcome it: Stop viewing women as enemies, stop assuming the worst about men and don't allow yourself to be an asshole just to prove yourself and others that you're a man. Remarkable quotes:

  • "Moreover, toxic masculinity only allows men to interact with women in one of two ways: the mother or the whore. Women are the nurturers – the ones who are able to feel and express the emotions men cannot – or the providers of sex. Any relationship outside of these can’t exist because of these definitional issues. Men and women can’t possibly be friends because men want to have sex with them. This intrinsic conflict means that men are cut off from the only acceptable outlet for their emotions – women’s role as sex-provider and men’s eagerness to have sex supercede emotional vulnerability."

  • "One of the more bewildering aspects of toxic masculinity is that while it demonizes women and supposed feminine traits, it is equally as dismissive and insulting to men. Traditional, toxic masculinity holds a deep and abiding disrespect for men, assuming that we are, at our core, animals at best. We are beholden to our most damaging traits, our insatiable sexuality, our poor impulse control and need for violence. Intellect, passivity, emotional comprehension, compassion and sensitivity are all feminine coded traits and thus suspect."

What's wrong with "Taking the Red Pill" - This post is about the sister of a Red Piller talking about her brother's experience with the Red Pill and her perspective on it and reaching Dr NerdLove for help. It gives us insight on how the people you love view you when you take the Red Pill. It also gives us insight on how the Red Pill can go massively wrong. Doctor Nerdlove does a well-thought criticism of Red Pill. Here are some remarkable quotes:

  • "The Red Pill philosophy isn’t big on internal consistency. After all, Red Pill-ers want to fuck the hottest women, yet these women are also the ones who are, in their words, “on the cock carousel”; so they want to fuck hot women and then turn around and shame the same women for fucking them. Women manipulate men, but men should apply dread game to get laid. They decry women for spinning multiple plates – RP jargon for “keeping men on the hook” – while also insisting that only betas settle down and alphas have harems. Women are manipulative and Machiavellian, forever plotting to fuck alphas and use betas but are also incapable of logic or rational thinking and instead rely on the “rationalization hamster” in order to settle cognitive dissonance."

  • "It’s a classic recruitment technique, one used by hate groups for centuries: prey on someone’s insecurities and fears. Tell them that they’ve been wronged and then tell them “this is how you get to be strong.” Give them an enemy and tell them “this is why things are so bad for you. They’ve hurt you. They’ve wronged you. Don’t you want power over them?” They offer secret knowledge, helping you “wake up to see the real world”, unlike all those blue pill manginas. By being a Red Pill man, you’re proving yourself superior to others. You know things that other people don’t. You’re special. Not like those other people. The world of the Red Pill is one of “us vs. them”. An alpha fucks, a beta bucks, bro. Other guys are manginas, average frustrated chumps (because you’re not average or a chump, bro) or “white knights” – poor, deluded men who think that being nice to women will get them laid. Not like you, Red Pill devotee; you know the truth. "

  • "Part of what helps is to look around, to really look and recognize how he’s been fooled. The Red Pill ethos is predicated on misdirection; as long as the person is distracted, they never notice the flaws in the logic. Once you stop and actually examine it, it crumbles like a sandcastle at high tide. When you strip away the gaslighting and the abuse, Red Pill tactics just don’t work. It’s Dumbo’s magic feather, if that feather kept whispering in your ear that all women were whores. What did he do that really worked? He started eating right, dressing better, working out, making new friends and actually asking women out. Everything else in the Red Pill philosophy led to his abusing every woman in his life and chasing them all away."

So what about you? Do you have good posts that had an impact on you and want to share? Let's make a library of helpful posts out of this thread :)