So as the title states this is something I've really been hung up on.

I was raised in a very Christian home (private Christian school, the whole shebang) which naturally drilled into me this value for virginity and entering marriage as a virgin.

Then to top it off I got myself seriously into TRP a couple years back and while I'm thankful for some of the bits TRP drilled into me such as a passion for self-improvement and confidence, once again TRP also did a good job of further cementing the whole 'If a woman is not a virgin or low partner count when you start dating, she's not worth dating' thing.

I've been in an LTR with a girl I really like for a while now, and I haven't even asked her partner count for suspicion that it is high when I have no proof of that fact. Plus it shouldn't matter right? But in the back of my mind I know it still does. Also worth noting my virginity was a thing of the past when I met her so it's not like I was saving myself. I guess I'm just fearful that if her partner count IS high it will ruin what is otherwise a good relationship and I don't know how to stop my brain from thinking that way. I don't even know how to breach such a question.

How can I get past this? Has anyone had success in this regard?