TLDR: the few nuggets of wisdom of TRP, extracted from piles of crap; the advice has been re-evaluated (to be less stupid and) to help people regardless of gender or viewpoint

First, a little about me.

I am a twenty-something male who has struggled with severe OCD, anxiety and depression my entire life. I was bullied as a kid because of my scrawniness and academic focus and come from very anxious parents who have had a tough life. I am a liberal and support progressive policies. I absolutely love countries like Denmark and Germany and Sweden and think they do a lot of things right and I plan on voting for Hilary (or Bernie) next year.

Despite my anxiety and depression, I have almost always had friends and romantic interest from the opposite gender (mostly screwed up by my low self-esteem and insecurity). Long story short, for many years (as an adjunct to therapy and medication) to cope with my anxiety and depression I have voraciously read self-improvement and empowering self-help books and websites. When I came across The Red Pill, I saw some good advice (described below) but the longer I stayed, the more I cringed. I found that the good advice was buried under piles of hateful crap.

So you do not have to wade through a bunch of crap, I have distilled (and modified) the pieces of advice I found useful with regard to dating:

(1) Exercise. Don't "lift" weights if you don't like it. Find something you enjoy. Exercise makes you more confident, calm, happy and you start to appreciate your body (even if it doesn't look like what society considers ideal).

(2) Focus on your passions and let love happen. If you have been fixated on finding a partner, focus on yourself for a bit (monk mode). Do activities you enjoy, spend time with loved ones and find fulfillment outside of romantic validation.

Love will happen when you least expect it.

(3) If you want to attract a mate, focus on improving yourself and what you can control. You can't make someone like you, but you can do things to improve your life. Having goals and trying to achieve them is attractive, no surprise there.

But don't do something just to improve your "SMV." Don't learn another language or travel if you don't like it. Set goals that are meaningful and work towards them, regardless of how "tingle-inducing" they are.

(4) Don't put people "on a pedestal." Just like you, they fart, say awkward things, have bad hair days, etc. TRP encourages male-superiority beliefs to take women off the pedestal. This is not a good way of doing it, for obvious reasons.

A better way, would be to seek out the humanity in others. Instead of the expectation of them you have in their head, see them for what they are - good and bad, prince/princess crown and stinky feet. Be as present with them as you can and see the complete picture of them, not just your mental version.

In closing I don't totally regret seeing TRP as they have some good ideas. But then again, I believe that you can learn something from anyone, no matter how different they seem.The above pieces of advice are from me, someone who disagrees with most of the postings. The realizations I had about exercising to improve my mood, focusing on my passions/hobbies and goals and seeing people as people and not some high and mighty creatures helped me a lot.

I hope this advice helps display the good advice, so you can avoid the negative posts on TRP if you are interested in self-improvement.