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Soft nexted a married MILF who was blowing up my Snapchat

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December 17, 2019

She (33F, 7/10) had been sending me mild photos on Snapchat and messaging me every day for a few days. We set up a date for a night this week. She implied she wanted to have sex and was genuinely interested in me.

But I saw a Snapchat of her 3 year old daughter. It wasn’t much to me at the time but over the course of 3 days it was enough of an excuse to say no. I got her off my Snapchat and my Tinder.

Don’t care if another Chad comes along and blows up her life. It wasn’t me. But abundance is not a thing for me right now because of my poor communication skills. So I know I’m going to doubt and kick myself sometime in the near term future.

Any words from the community

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Title Soft nexted a married MILF who was blowing up my Snapchat
Author therealbigoso
Upvotes 133
Comments 73
Date 17 December 2019 07:26 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]hatethiscity247 points248 points  (17 children) | Copy

A lot of people think RPs ultimate goal is to get pussy at all cost. This is very far off from TRPs core foundation. You can believe in red pill and still have your own set of values. Regardless of having abundance or not, I also wouldn't want to be the guy cucking the milfs poor husband. There's nothing wrong with soft nexting that whore even without abundance. Keep working on yourself and your communication, that is what I'd focus on.

[–]opper-hombre149 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy

Say it louder for the people in the back

[–]D4rkr4in36 points37 points  (8 children) | Copy

I also wouldn't want to be the guy cucking the milfs poor husband

unless he wants it, then it would be acceptable

[–]theeverydayhustle47 points48 points  (4 children) | Copy

Agreed. It's his choice. He decides whether it's acceptable or not. Morals are specific to each individuals.

P. S. My morals got eaten away by the dog ever since my ex cheated on me while I was about to buy a house and get into 6 digit debt as a university freshman for her. Wow cool 5 seconds rant HAHA

[–]D4rkr4in31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

wow, that's ruff

[–]theeverydayhustle4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]LethalShade6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

So you saved yourself the debt? Cheers to you, I hope you thanked your lucky star on that one. Getting cheated on is always rough but you could see it as the dude doing you a huge favor by letting you know your girl is a whore when you're not quite smart enough to figure it out yourself.

[–]theeverydayhustle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah man saved my own ass. Now I have the money which I had been working for since 15 to head to Korea for my exchange and plate some Korean chicks

[–]666Evo7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

If he wants it, I'd rather have a conversation with him than participate in degeneracy.

But that's just me.

[–]x50_Spence0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

maybe just gauge the situation by asking directly about him.

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck that, he likely would want to watch and then join in when you aren't looking.

[–]Elvis_Death5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

The ultimate message of RP is "define your own values, " "strive to meet your own goals", and "grow the balls to walk your own path."

Resist getting sidelined by the cheerleaders who need proscriptive ideologies sodomized into their juicy, tight little brians.

Stripped down to the barest.... "Grow balls, build your own world..."

The rest is static and reassurance for the hesitant

[–]Nergaal1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I also wouldn't want to be the guy cucking the milfs poor husband

devil's advocate: there will be another dude lining up to do that

[–]hatethiscity5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Youre not wrong, but that's what I think having your own set of values is import. I've been the guy with the cheating wife pre red pill. I don't wish that on any other man.

[–]1MrTheFalcon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are what you fuck

[–][deleted]  (2 children) | Copy


[–]abomba249 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. I think most people even find RP because of shit that's happened with women but the further you get in it's less and less about women

[–]MassiveLeftist50 points51 points  (9 children) | Copy

Either bang and forget, or understand you made a good choice.

Married women will get clingy, and always get caught.

[–]therealbigoso[S] 21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy

I was thinking the same thing, how long before her secret gets out and I’m caught up in some major frame crushing BS

[–]WinterRice23 points24 points  (3 children) | Copy

Or worse. I used to not care about the sap getting cucked until some girl's boyfriend blindsided me at a bar. Now I like to avoid it.

[–]Snowaey31 points32 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's kinda crazy how boyfriends get mad at the guys who their girlfriends are cheating with, the girl is the one who allowed it, the guy might not even know she had a boyfriend lmao

[–]dpgproductions6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think they’re conflicted by still trying to cling to their idealized version of their gf. “There’s no way this was her fault! This asshole must’ve tricked her into it without her even realizing!”

[–]WinterRice0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah that's what got me. I had no idea he had started dating her. Worst part was getting banned from my one of my favorite bars.

[–]muricanwerewolf16 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Man, the clinginess. My “mrs Robinson” moment when I was in my early twenties blew my mind. I had to end it because I blew her off to take my dog out on my lunch break at work and she ran into me and got mad. Like alright lady we keep going you’re gonna end up on my porch with a suitcase some night, no thanks.

[–]PhaedrusHunt9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude they get obsessed. It's like bitch why don't you go be obsessed with your husband? I'm just a guy that's fucking you I'm not here for emotions.

The married woman I was hanging out with reminded me way too much of the character Maggie Gyllenhaal plays in the movie The kindergarten teacher. Scary shit.

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

They are obsessed because you don't care. Human psychology 101. (I think.)

[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've definitely had some clingers but I had one played in particular that was a polyamorous woman. Good Lord she took it to 11.

You can look at my post history if you're curious

[–]Foolishoe13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know man, going with your gut is critical. Right action lives there.

Sucks to live that part of life where a woman is being a dishonorable piece of shit.

[–]__TheDon__13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Props my dude. I never fuck any married women. I don’t want to be the reason her husband ends up shooting himself, or her kid ends up being traumatized by his cheating whore of a mother. So many horny milfs are available and easy to pick up, but I don’t think it’s worth it. I avoid fucking not because I don’t want to, but for the husband and the poor child instead. Like you said, another chad can come in and fill her holes, I could care less. You have to let go of FOMO mindset. Abundance mentality is heavenly once you acquire it. Take pleasure in turning these cougars on, and move on to the next target.

[–]fannyfire10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

If anything man, this shows that you have true abundance.

[–]mksu91110 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Getting involved with married women is a bad idea. You never know how crazy her cuck might be.

[–]Herdsengineers8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

You made such a good decision here. A woman like this going to inject drama into your life one way or another, and getting laid isn't worth it. Go find a woman that doesn't have a kid, doesn't have a husband that can get pissed off, etc. Don't invite this kind of drama into your life.

Again - good job!

[–]unnatural_by_nature16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

I never fuck with married women. Enjoying the decline is one thing, but I’ve been on the other end of that scenario and don’t want to be part of that.

[–]BurnieSlander10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Second this. Also, the whole getting the shit beat out of you by the husband thing.. Not worth the risk.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

more like some psycho dude pulling out a piece...

[–]strainer1235 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Find her husband and send her the photos, I'm on the guy's side everytime, no honey, I'm not going to be your lover, I'm gonna be your husband's informer instead.

[–]yumyumgivemesome5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

The fact that she has a kid doesn't mean that she's married. Nonetheless, if you're not interested, then there's no reason to continue.

[–]therealbigoso[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

She was very clear with me that she was waiting for her husband to come home. I don’t necessarily dislike single women with children. If she’s hot and I’m into it, I can make it happen. SMV is more important to me than parental status.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t care if another Chad comes along and blows up her life

Why assume this? She might be discreet and just needs the itch scratched.

[–]oldslut2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

only you can decide. if you didn't feel it, for whatever reason, you're right. don't think too much about it. just know, if you continue on your red pill journey, she won't be the last married chick with kids that wants to fuck.

[–]SalporinRP2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've fucked a few girls who've had boyfriends before but fucking a married woman just seems next level.

Dude might fucking go apeshit and murder you or something when he finds out, especially with a kid involved. Just not worth it. I think you did the right thing.

[–]jrterry19698 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

I've lived a long life. The only sex I have truly regretted was the sex I turned down. You are probably making the right decision, but ....I'd probably go for it. Her life will probably blow up anyway, with or without your help.

[–]Monitorul4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

The only problem is your life might blow up as well if she tells hubby she was "raped" and hubby decides to go after you with a shotgun.

[–]readytohelp1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

How is that possible, when she has been communicating with him with her pictures through snapchat

[–]jrterry19693 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jealous husbands are not going to review evidence of his wife and OP's guilt objectively.

[–]Monitorul1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If he decides to fuck her they'll probably end up at his place since "she has a family". Right away she knows where he lives and through his number (if they take the conversation off snapchat) can also has get his identity (yellowpages). It's just a matter of her giving this information to hubby who's seeing red. Or he could get careless and hubby could be expecting them at one of their meetings. Tons of ways this could go south.

[–]jrterry19691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree. Risky. But everything is risky. I've taken that risk and nothing bad happened to me. Luckily.

[–]frognads1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's definitely a 'not a big deal & move on' situation. I don't fuck around with single mommys.

[–]4thAndLong2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Doing what you want is RP, my guy. As long as the decisions are made in your frame that's what matters.

[–]RPNorvell[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Snapchatting single mom.

Many red flags.

More trouble than they're worth.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You do you, man. A lot of guys on here enjoy fucking other men's women, and that's fine, but for me it's just not something I like to do. It feels seedy and like a shitty thing to do. I also get turned off by women who hit on and flirt with me when I know they have a boyfriend/husband, like they're a shitty person and it just doesn't work for me. It feels like a big gross elephant in the room in my mind and it makes them unattractive to me. Maybe it's a BP part of me, and I know other people would do it to me but I believe you should hold yourself to your own standards and not the standards of other people. But I'm also a guy who likes to only have one woman at a time, so I'm not your typical RP guy who likes to spin lots of plates. I have abundance mentality still knowing I could find another very quickly if I get tired of my current one, but I just like having that monogamous thing going on even if the life cycle is short and I move from one to the next quickly at times.

As a lot of people say, TRP is a toolbox. Pick the tools that work for you and use them to live the best life you like and be the best version of yourself you can be.

Anecdote: I matched with a hot nympho on Tinder recently. She told me she likes to line up about 5 men a night to just come to her hotel room and bang her one after the other, but they never meet. She times it just right so one guy leaves before another arrives. Sounded like a bit of dirty fun, and she was hot af. She even told me she could hook me up with other women for similar things, kind of like a gateway to a dirty ring of sexy nymphos. Anyway, of course because I had her WA number, IG suggested her as a friend and she stupidly had an open profile where I could see photos of her husband and kids doing family stuff. Instant turn off. I just didn't respond after that.

[–]MVWeiss2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy


Women are moral-less creatures, if we as Men don’t implement morals society will never flourish.

I’d have warned the husband

[–]jrr6415sun5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

I know plenty of men with no morals

[–]liquorbaron1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Which is why society is where it is today. Men set the standards.

[–]PUA_Fan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]bumbuff0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The core of RP is to have your own set of values. You don't need to copy and paste some of the PUA's that visit these forums.

You have values, they are part of your frame. In this instance, however meek, you kept frame. Small win for someone still bettering themselves.

[–]Monitorul0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you did the right thing for yourself. Who knows what would happen if her husband was crazy and went after you with a gun, you don't want to get into such shit. I had a fling with a married woman and she kept contacting me, it became a nuisance to try to get rid of her without the situation escalating against me.

[–]Zero-Milk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

As others have stated, redpill philosophy isn't about putting women as your priority. It's about putting yourself as the priority. Make no mistake, getting laid is all well and good, but not if the pursuit of it comes at the expense of your own growth. Sleeping with that whore would've crippled your self-worth because your personal moral code rejects the idea.

What I'm trying to say is this: you stayed true to yourself, man, and that's what this shit is all about to begin with. Have a beer and enjoy the evening, sir.

[–]NationalLurkersParty0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Post-wall women will literally do anything for a bang. They make 19 year old freshman guys look disciplined and picky by comparison. But whatever you do, don't ever get anywhere near women like this, they've made a life out of fleecing guys by using their coochie as a "get anything I want" card.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That sounds secretly gay

[–]SpicyYeetJuice-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

You self-cucked yourself I did this shit a couple of months ago I heavily regretted it and never let it happened again I suggest you do the same. Also don’t fool yourself you know why you came on this sub.

[–]marianasentmenudes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol ikr?

Very subtle but also very obvious flex

[–]Protocol_Apollo-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck girls that you want to fuck.

Do you not to fuck her because you genuinely want to or because society told you not to?

If the latter is the case, why do you feel the need to uphold someone else’s contract? Look up “trees” on the main sub.

If you do fuck her, make sure you do it at her house. You don’t want him knowing where you live.

[–]Tousen713 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hotels are better my friend.

[–]yute931-1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

How easy is it to pull a milf off tinder??

[–]LucidBananna0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

First girl I fucked off a dating app was a milf and she initiated it too.

[–]yute9310 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Damn ok imma need to put my range higher lol

[–]LucidBananna0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

May have been a fluke idk was kinda wild lmao. Fucked her like 8 times the first night I met her and she initiated every time. Milfs are very tiring creatures to please.

[–]yute9312 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds like a problem I’d like to have

[–]LucidBananna0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It was really fun the first two weeks.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

Any words from the community

You had doubts because single mother has child? I don't fucking get it.

[–]therealbigoso[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Respectfully, as the title says, she was 100% not single. Married. I was reluctant to correct anyone who brought up “single mother” because it focuses on the woman in question more than the RP development. That, instead of the lack of solid defenses - at least prior to this post - against the intrusive thoughts that maybe I fucked up. Before you were a RP endorsed contributor, you probably had some degree of I-don’t-know-how-to-build-from-this fuckedness like I do.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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