This is pretty much an update to my previous post Basically after being put on a "hold" by this girl that I asked out over a month ago, because of poor, unconfident, and unsure behavior. I've tried my best to "game" her but she wasn't receptive. So I had to do my thing, I stopped giving her attention, I focused on improving myself and on what is going on in my current season. I've made lots of improvements and changes this month, and she noticed it. And it seems like she's starting to invest in me, starting to get curious about me, although she is showing interest, she is not doing it explicitly, I know she is starting to get attracted but she's trying to hide it from me, she doesn't want to look easy. When we talk, she is curious and asks questions about what's going on with my life, but then she doesn't give much eye contact with it, or tries to at least. There's just lots of signals going around that she's attracted to me but she's not making it explicit. A s-test maybe? How do I overcome this s-test?

I think it's becoming more of a frame-battle or ego-battle now? Seeing who breaks, I've gone on and changed my style more into the Bond frame/game now, rather than the one actively pursuing, a more passive approach, but an approach that I personally feel doesn't show much intention or desire. It's working but I feel like this one would take too much time. Although I do admit my approach before made her feel creeped out, I guess I was too overt and too trying hard with that one.

What do you do when a girl is liking you but isn't showing it? I can notice the IOIs and I feel like it's a bit of a risk move now to over-game her, heck, I'm quite afraid to start gaming her a bit more and showing more intention, since she got creeped out before. I'm still not calibrated on that part. I'm pretty sure she won't get out of her way and ask me out, she's a timid girl, never even had a boyfriend, quite boyish too. How could I lead properly?

Also, how can I be honest and vulnerable with her without looking weak? I feel like the reason why she got creeped out was because I played "weak" game with underlying deception in it. I guess I expressed my vulnerability wrongly and showed a "false" identity that wasn't natural, which led her to feel unsafe with me. At some point I would have to be honest and vulnerable with her sticking with my identity, but I don't want it to backfire on me, looking like a manchild or beta.

And how do you polarize women who may want to be courted or want to get into that "phasing" before they get into a relationship/dating. In my country's culture we have a culture of courting, where it is up to the women on how long they would answer a man to get them to date them or get them into a relationship, and it's not even a sure yes too.

I'm also thinking of asking her out again next week, since I don't want to waste time. I'm thinking of coming up to her when only it's the two of us and saying something along the lines of "I still think you're cute, let's continue our date on Saturday next week around 4PM, you won't regret it." Or maybe something better? Or maybe more of a soft-invite now? Is being direct still quite applicable?

Mission: To be a proper "influencer" to people who are my age, this is not to just earn money but to help my generation in need. With that I would need to be improving my social skills as well.

Stats: 225LBS, 5'8"

Reading: Bible, NMMG

Finances: Family is having a hard time with finances, debts are racking up. Need prayer on this area.

Spiritual: Just did a whole week of fasting, recently joined new ministries in church, volunteering more on church programs, events and conferences, stepping out of my boundaries and doing new things with Him.