21 y/o ,5'11, 67 kg, 15 kg bicep curls // 40 kg bench // new to reddit (read fairly little) // student, no money problems // fairly mature Christian, read Bible and pray daily

Context: Asked out a whaman, they said 'no'. I'm predominately but not exclusively same-sex attracted.(i.e. 95 % of people that I turn my head at are men). Dw ain't gonna get with a fella tho (either I find the 5 % or remain single).

Background: Over the past year I have gotten particularly close to one girl who over the past 6 months I've found to be attractive. Due to difficult circumstances (difficulties in her life, summer break between uni years, one of my friends hitting on her [#RIPme]) I waited this long.

The problem I have too is that I waited 6 months to 'test the waters' to see if a relationship, given my predominant sexual inclinations, would work. This, I felt it wise, to take time over. I did not want to kid myself into pursuing a relationship that I couldn't love / enjoy / lead in etc. . Consequently, as I should have presumed, I fell under the wrath of the friendzone and although seeing me as a very very close friend, that's all I'll ever be seen as.

Question: Hopefully that is enough background to me. My questions are:

- Should I tell a potential woman I find attractive about my predominant sexual inclinations before dating / asking them out?

- How do I reconcile, given my sexual preferences, that I (i) wait - to see if a given relationship I could flourish in (ii) not wait - ask them out / start dating without true personal conviction that they're someone I can love?

Cheers all,

Chazza_Lazza

God's Word is the only objective truth <3