Brothers,

I want to share a word of encouragement with you all. I swallowed the pill about six months ago, but struggled to integrate certain core principles (including but not limited to the heavy reliance on evolutionary psychology over the primacy of scripture) into my Christian faith. Since discovering this forum a week ago I have read through the sidebar and learnt a great deal, satisfied that I am not only (re)learning to communicate with my wife, but doing it from a position that is rooted in God's word. This forum is exactly what I was looking for!

I come from a city where it is well known that many key evangelical leaders do not lead their families well. I preach at various churches in the area, averaging out at about 20 times a year. During this time I always make a point of asking the other ministers if they are doing Family Worship (Bible reading and prayer at minimum) with their wives. It's amazing how many men are so willing to lead groups and disciple youth, but fail with their first ministry, the spiritual leadership of their family. I don't want to come across as too condescending, this is something that I am only starting to implement as of the last six months, but I strongly recommend to any and all Christian men out there: it's not simply a duty but a great privilege too.

My reason for delving into the RP world was wanting to increase sexual intimacy between my wife and I. Our engagement was short and (regrettably) physically charged, but much of this passion seems to have vanished having been married for a few years. While I still aim to work towards a healthy sexual relationship, I understand that I may have a leadership problem, not a sex problem!

Of all the things I have learnt I want to share the main difference this community has already made in my life. I now see the respect of my wife (and her sexual attraction to me) as something to be earned. I can (and regrettably, have) sat and moaned and complained about not being respected, I now understand the error of my ways. I will seek to lead by example, to embrace the biblical manhood, and by God's grace, have a thriving, biblically shaped, sexually active marriage.

I look forward to our time ahead,

God bless.