The way the church has handled sex for the last 2000 years is the gateway drug for sexual deviancy. When you make something taboo, it’s just a take-away sale. When you make it taboo, you make it attractive...

The church has made every sexual topic taboo. Christians in general have almost no idea how to deal with the topic of sex. They don’t know how to talk about it. They don’t know how to engage in healthy sexy relationships without dumping shame gravy everywhere.

Church goers have no practice in talking about sex. They can’t put together a coherent defense of it, so they just resort to shutting down any and all efforts at dealing with it. They just get out their shame-taser and zap any attempt with more and more shame. And the shame shuts down all opposition. Not on its merits, but through fear of isolation.

As a result, Christians in America have not developed any productive way to process their thoughts and feelings about sex.

In Europe it’s quite different. They think it’s hilarious how Americans are so uptight about sex. They laugh at how American Christians are so addicted to porn and sexually deviant practices, yet they shame any one who brings up the topic.

Most church people in the states have learned to deal with sex by shame-tase ring it. They just zap someone and end the conversation. They shame-zap people with off beat random topics such as talking about shoes. They also cherry pick scriptures by throwing out their favorite random scripture. We call this tactic the Biblical cop-out technique. A newer tactic is to complain about the length of the post. Lol. They will talk about anything but the written content itself.

Modern Christians also use new strategies to shut down conversations. For example they focus on random non-topics like font-size or other newer tactics like accusing people of not providing “enough unique Christian specificity.”

So instead of letting legitimate conversations run their course, Christians never deal with sexual topics.

So how has the church turned sex into a deviant practice? By shaming everything related to sex. The church has denied almost any version of healthy sex either as a practice or a topic of conversation.

So what are people to do? Well, pre-marital sex is a sin. So that’s out. Porn is a sin. So that’s out. Masturbating is a sin. So that’s out. I guess we can all just choke it down and get prostate cancer...

A healthy sexual release is a natural bodily function. The sexual hormones have to be released somehow. If you dam up those outlets, the raging river will overflow the sides and flood the whole valley, so to speak.

The first step in restoring this area to some level of normalcy is to learn how to talk about it. So many married couples have Dead Christian Bedrooms. They simply cannot even say the word sex.

Wow...that oppression has done a lot of damage to the human psyche.

And even as I post this I know that most moderators will have the first instinct of banning the post. Or they might even issue some other “infraction” as they try to keep us all back in our 2nd grade time-out corner.

And yes, it is a Christian problem. I have friends who don’t regularly attend church. They are not hung up on porn or other related issues.

The solution has to start with healthy conversation. What say you?