Hi all,

Stats: 26yo / barely lifted / 14% body fat / 6'2" / 168lb. Virgin.

*Reading*: I've read everything in "For Singles" and selections of "Post Series" from the sidebar. Still reading.

*Finances*: Great job and income quality (top 2%). To borrow this sub's vocab, I've gone "monk" since I dropped out of college at 22, and have worked for 4 years now at exclusion of almost all else. Still not where I want to be with work, but I do want to start balancing my life a bit.

*Spiritual*: I was relatively spiritually mature in college, and got really into "Grace"/"Trinitarian" theology. Favorite teachers: Baxter Kruger, Andre Rabe, John Crowder. Favorite book of the Bible: Colossians.

I also did a lot of evangelism in college. Christ seriously transformed my life, and I have seen him transform others' too, some in radical and supernatural ways. It's "too late" for me, there's no way I can go back on what I believe.

I took a big fork in my life and went from "hyper-spiritual, I want to be a pastor, this career thing sucks" in college to deciding "hyper-business, I want to be extremely rich" and dropping out of college to start doing my own thing - because I realized the latter would allow me to have a larger impact in the world. It already is, I'm able to do a lot of good with my money. But I want to do way more.

These last 4 years in "monk mode". I have almost "turned off" my faith, and everything else besides work, too. I still believe everything I did, and my faith is even stronger in some ways by adding JBP's psychological/secular angle to my beliefs. I stopped going to church. I still pray/bible sometimes, still evangelize once in awhile, but it's not central in my life anymore. I'd like to get it back, and have started visiting church again after 4 years of not doing it. I also don't have a social circle outside work, and I'm working on that too.

I know with 100% certainty that God is as close as he ever was, his opinion of me is unwavering, and it is only my awareness that has been turned down.

In addition to deciding I'd like to get balance in my life again, I recently decided I'd also like to start dating, and started researching advice online about dating, vetting women, and avoiding the serious dangers of marriage. I've seen Divorce Corp and I listen to Stefan Molyneux's call-in show (anyone familiar?), and those 2 things made me very wary. Finding theredpill sub, I found some good info and also a lot of aimless, hedonistic, and uninspiring advice. I was really relieved to find RPChristians.

What you all have written here make me excited about living my life "right" again, and only attracting women as a consequence of everything else. I'm excited to get super-fit for the first time in my life (I've done extreme trail running but never lifted seriously), strengthen my "frame" of identity in Christ, clearly define my "mission", learn "game" (flirting etc - women already hit on me and I'm totally clueless in responding), and attract the best women as a side effect. Not the other way around. 'Seeking' a mate seems so beta now, and like it will end in one-itis and settling.

What you all have written has really inspired me, and that's a rare thing. I really appreciate it.

That's a brief (or not so brief?) intro from me. I'm excited to start participating in this community and getting my Self in Christ back on track. And living from *my* frame again really excites me. Solidifying my identity in Christ and my mission, and living from that.