So my last post generated a good deal of helpful advice, but the crux of my question was missed (due to my lack of clarity, and making it too personal) so I will rephrase it:

One of the fundamental tenants of the Red Pill is that women are hypergamous by nature. Therefore, if a man wants to keep a woman attracted to himself (i.e. have an enthusiastic sex partner, not merely a faithful one) he must maintain a certain sexual market value (SMV) that puts him in a position above her own. (If you disagree with this, I question whether or not you are really red pilled.)

SMV is determined by comparing one's value within a "market" of options. In the case of Christian men, the "market" (i.e. one's social circle) is generally, the Church. This puts the red pilled man in a somewhat awkward position, because in effect, our competition is our fellow brothers in Christ, whom we are called to love.

How can a Christian man simultaneously hold the desire to be of more value than his brothers, and at the same time show sacrificial love to them? There seems to be an inherent contradiction between the red pill and Christianity here. How do you all resolve the two?