I was going to just put this in my OYS this week but it ended up being pretty long.

The past week has been a pretty rough week for me. RockandRollChuck and Careless Bowler gave me some great advice but I am struggling. I did not realize how much in my wife’s frame I still was and am. I probably have been for about a month or so now (Basically since she blew up at the basketball game a while back). At the time she said we were not communicating. She was right, but I have not been communicating in the right ways. Instead, I have entered her frame and I have been talking too much instead of STFU in our arguments. Not by not talking, but by saying stupid stuff or snarky comments in retaliation.

This week I tried to change all of that. Probably too fast and I was not ready for the frame battle incoming and I DEERed a lot again. We ended up in a scenario on Sunday afternoon similar to what was happening in my OYS when I first started here. She was being grumpy with me from the second we woke up and was fussing at me in the bedroom for moving too much and waking her up. I went into the kitchen and made myself some scrambled eggs. She comes into the kitchen saying I am basically a bad husband for not making her anything. I say ok babe and go to the couch to eat my eggs. She makes herself pancakes then sits on the couch with me. She then makes a big deal out of me leaving a blanket on the floor next to the couch because I walked in the apartment with shoes on the day before so now the blanket was dirty. I really did not care to listen since I was watching the Mandalorian. I say, "Ok babe."

I leaned over and picked up the blanket then put it in the basket. Then I continued to watch TV. She then said that is not the right place for a dirty blanket and it needed to be washed. Now go put it in the washer. I look at her like she is crazy and say, "Who the hell are you talking to." then kept watching TV.

Then she yelled at me for not paying attention to her and started blocking the TV. I told her she was being immature and a brat this morning and I was starting to get tired of it. I got up and said I was going to go ou for a bit. Clearly she was upset and she needed to take her feelings out on something besides me. She runs to the keyring and won't give them to me. I then try to leave the area and begin walking towards the guest-room. She did not start physically pushing me, but she started blocking my path again not giving me freedom of movement to walk around and DEMANDED I be nice to her. I told her that is not how this works and this behavior is unacceptable. I swim moved her in the hallway and she followed me into the guest bedroom and closed the door and took off the handle.

Basically in the guest bedroom, it was me saying “Leave me alone” and after saying that like 10 times it escalated to “Leave me the hell alone” and me saying “She does not respect me and I am tired of this BS so right now I want nothing to do with you.” Then she said I do not respect her because I cannot do simple things around the house like taking my shoes off at the door, leaving blankets on the floor. Also being inconsiderate (too loud in the mornings and I did not make her food and I was talking crazy to her a few seconds ago and swearing at her). While she was talking I had this IDGAF look on my face because I thought this whole argument was stupid and unnecessary.

After that, we just blankly stared at each other and she asked me if I had anything to say. I just say nope and then after a few seconds, she storms out and gives me the silent treatment until we start getting ready to go bowling with one of her co-worker's family.

On the way there she told me to not say anything “mean about her” or how “I am mistreated” to her co-workers. (I normally do not mention this stuff, but her co-workers are older ladies who think I am like super sexy). I just smirked and stayed quiet. They normally end up saying stuff like “Dang. How do you keep your wife off of you? And then she will end up giving me “the look” to not say anything stupid about our sex life. Or they will say they like my outfit and she will chime in “she bought like 90% of the stuff I am wearing.”

Basically everything above happened. Her co-workers' family was a mix of older people, younger (20s and 30s) and kids. One of the younger cute girls said I had a really nice but, etc. I started joking with her and looking at her and poking my but out and posing before I threw the ball. Everyone thought it was hilarious and my wife also started acting extra flirtatious and touchy. Her co-worker commented on it and told us to find a room. My wife started laughing and then I said, “Don’t worry, she is only putting up this front because we are in public. She has been mad at me all day. Ain't nothing gonna happen.” This received a pinch on the leg.

One of the older ladies commented on my shoes and said they were nice. My wife blurted out that she bought them. I have met these ladies a few times now so I say, “Dang babe, why you always trying to downplay me, you know I was slaying with style before I met you right?” This got a laugh out of everyone except my wife who again started giving me “the look”. They asked about “me slaying” and what I meant by that. I just said, “Ehh, I did pretty well for myself. But I am not about to tell you any rated X stories. I am a Godly man now and there is no point in bragging about that (with a smirk)” and we all started laughing.

After bowling, I had to hear about it on the way home but I already knew it was coming. At this point, I was actually in a good mood so I just deflected all of her accusations with some well-placed banter. She was still frustrated but I did nothing wrong so I just let her simmer and went about my business.

She was still pretty frustrated with me most of the night and we watched a new Netflix series for a bit before going to sleep.

When it was time to go to bed she got frustrated when I gave her a kiss in the bathroom and told me to stop touching her. At this point, I was tired of her being a brat so I told her I was going to sleep on the couch. That basically sums it up....