Really battling with the decision I just made and It was extremely hard but I decided to end things with my LTR of one year after she crossed a major boundary.
She's thrown out little testers here in the past to gauge my response but nothing quite nuclear like this.
I'm in another state for a week or two getting surgery, she couldn't come with me due to work.
I asked her tonight what she was up to and she tells me last minute "I'm going with my female friend to such and such a club to get crunk". (Crazy drunk).
I really didn't know how to handle this and it completely threw me off guard as she's been nothing shy of a great LTR up until now (Lot's of attention, affection, comfort tests, favours, sex).
I didn't want to do anything stupid like throw out ultimatums or deny her night out so I simply called her immediately and told her she wasn't what I was looking for in a girlfriend and promptly ended it. (Naturally my phone blew up after this. I ignored.)
It really hurt, but I'm hoping I did the right thing. Despite all the positive behaviour signs from her, I just consider this completely unacceptable dropping this on me (not asking) at the last possible minute. And only after I asked her.
I can tolerate an LTR going out in general, seeing friends, but putting yourself in such a position like this with lots of alcohol involved without myself present can surely only lead to sex or lots of male attention at the very least.
This disappoints me so much. I feel like I really ran this relationship well and instilled so many Red Pill traits and I'm mad that in the end I was still put in a lose/lose situation.
I really just want some advice right now on whether I may have overreacted or what you would have done personally in this situation.
Edit: whether you agreed of disagreed with my actions I really appreciate all the input here. I'm extremely surprised about how many of you nailed it in terms of the situation and my feelings towards it all. I really resonated with a lot of you. Thank you.
As predicted, LTRs friends and family are now contacting me and trying to shame me into contacting LTR again or reversing my decision. Naturally I remained completely unreactive and politely reiterated my stance. Now I am ignoring such messages.
Edit 2: One final thing I'd like to add to this is that although my decision may have seemed abrupt, I had already considered that this would be a possibility one day and also how I would react, hence why I didn't hesitate in ending the relationship immediately.
Those who are saying I must have a real abundance mentality, I have to be honest and say although my mindset is solid, I am far from having other options at this stage. What I do have is Red Pill knowledge and the core belief that I can do better and that this behavior will only lead to me getting hurt. Also the belief that I can start again, improve myself even more, and find a better quality girl.
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