Getting my shit together, but in need of some advice from the pros.

justpickanyusername · 2019-12-28T20:13:33+00:00

It is 100% in your head. Yeah, I’m sure there are some medical cases out there, but seeing where you are in your journey I doubt that is the case and not all that unusual from what we see here.

When I started three years ago I had similar issues. I don’t think it was quite as severe as letting it fly during foreplay and I was never a two pump chump. But, I consider premature ejaculation finishing before you want to and I could never hold it as long as I wanted.

The further along I got in my journey and the more distance I put between where I started and my changes I noticed I could last as long as I wanted and finish when I wanted.

You are still needy and lack abundance. Subconsciously, you know this is the only pussy you might be inside for a while and you bust a nut quickly. You are also likely putting that pussy on a pedestal as well.

The cure. As much as many people don’t like to hear it, but it is the sidebar. In my opinion, there is no one trick or tip to fix this. You have unravel and unfuck yourself step by step. As you make progress in changing yourself you will notice this aspect of your sex life will improve.

My advice, yeah it sucks a little right now, but just ignore it when it happens and focus on everything else. As a side effect of making those changes this will follow suit and improve. I can finish whenever I want to now which would have not been the case before I started. It wasn’t because of some quick little mental trick, but a complete mindset shift.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2019-12-28T22:02:02+00:00

Surprised nobody's mentioned the ILYBINILWY.

UltimateCrypto · 2019-12-28T20:30:43+00:00

Just own it. Bust all over her. Call her a dirty slut and go round 2 right away.

HeckleandChide · 2019-12-28T22:18:47+00:00

HoA already addressed early ejac better than I would.

Re the rest of your post, read the "Cut the Shit" post stickied at the top. You aren't a special snowflake who gets to shirk the rules. Post your damned stats, books, etc.

Next, recognize that you are at the starting line of a long journey. Your post reeks of the idea that MRP is just something you check off a list rather than someone you forge yourself into being. That's not an uncommon mistake for a dude who spends too much time playing video games. Grow up.

Finally, 90 days ago she said gave you the ILBINILWY? And you think things are improving dramatically? Maybe... or maybe not. That's an extremely short amount of time and chances are high - even if she is rewarding what she sees as good behavior - that she still thinks you are a faggot. Maybe a slightly more useful faggot now that you are starting to resemble a functional adult.

Chances are also high that she started seeing someone while you were "on break" and "moved out" and she still is seeing that guy. That's why she is willing to fuck you now... she's getting it on the side and part of her wants to cover up what she sees as wrong by sleeping with you too.

You have a long way to go.

The_Litz · 2019-12-28T21:15:06+00:00

You spread your seed and emptied your sack.

You have achieved your mission.

To extend YOUR pleasure, try this. If in missionary lift your leg/s ie knee upwards to the headboard so that you almost end up looking like a frog. You take some pressure off the prostate and last longer.

second-last-mohican · 2019-12-28T20:36:14+00:00

Either a) stop when you're close and focus on her for a bit.. then go again b) bust on her or in her mouth, then play with her until you are hard then go again. c) make her cum first, then pound away.. can work that into a. Try and say it's her that's making you cum quick, she looks hot or whatever.

simbarlion · 2019-12-28T21:09:43+00:00

1) Let go of your fear of losing her.

2) Let go of your fear of her disappointment afterwards.

Then it will go away

tap0988534 · 2019-12-29T16:56:35+00:00

This can be related to drugs and hormones. Stims like meth, caffeine, pre-workout stacks, eca stacks, can turn you into a two-stroke man. Also prostate swelling can do the same. 2.5-5mg daily cialis is safe to reduce prostate swelling significantly, and allow you to last longer.

Find Jason Julius - extreme stamina. It is by far the most useful material of any I have found. It sticks to the physiology and mechanics of the various techniques to last and have without getting into the tantric spirituality bullshit. It also helps you learn to due the right thing at the right time. Most materials tell you to do the right things at the wrong time, which ends up causing more problems.

To get to the heart of hormone balance dopamine makes you hornier and harder and come faster, serotonin makes you less hard, less horny, and last longer. Some guys can't come at all on antidepressant SSRIs. Dopamine and serotonin compete to a degree. An occasional use supplement for serotonin, like 5htp before activity, may help.

When I found that I was coming almost instantly and it was a new thing, I was able to pinpoint stuff that did it: yohimbine, and bronkaid. The bonkaid has a lot of expectorant, which was causing my prostate to swell with fluid all the time, that fluid pressure is major factor in coming. Also since I have learned how and when to kegel properly, and strengthened the muscle. I can force most of the fluid out of my prostate and last much longer than I prefer.

Breathing control is another factor. As your arousal level goes up, your breathing automatically tightens. Controlling your breathing can help keep you from reaching PONR. Also checking out your sex hormone levels is important. Both high e2 and low T can make you come too quick. High e2 makes your arousal go up too fast. Low T makes you come at a lower arousal level. If you are overweight, there is a good chance you are aromatizing a lot of T into e2.

HornsOfApathy · 2019-12-28T20:44:09+00:00

All you retards giving advice in his wife's frame.... smh....

Just do you, OP. Get in the mindset of "fuck it - I'll bust whenever I want". Then you'll last longer if you unfuck this mental model you have based upon fear.

Doesn't matter; got laid.

Over60_FireTempered3 · 2019-12-29T00:48:30+00:00

I always busted quick. No worry if you can own it.

Early on, like 17, I had a woman that showed me a solution.

When I got up to the point of letting it go, she would grab my balls and give them a gentle pull. That would hold things off for a while. She sometimes would do it several times, as she liked things to last. She was a good teacher.

RoccoPinkman · 2019-12-29T10:05:40+00:00

I used to suffer this problem with my ex, when we had bi monthly starfish, I used to come in about a minute.

You aren’t fucking regularly enough. I have sex about 4/6 times a week now and last a lot longer.

Hugenstein41 · 2019-12-28T22:26:46+00:00

The less I was in my wife's frame the longer I lasted. It's a significant mental effort to nut from oral now, for example.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-12-29T01:11:36+00:00

ILYBNILWY

Mmslp has an entire section dedicated to this. It means she’s already fucking someone else.

For the premature nut, try “edging” that Bobby Peru talked about. Combined with getting out your head, you’ll turn into marky mark.

amrit21chandi · 2019-12-29T19:06:57+00:00

First, for premature ejaculation there could be many reasons. Best bet is to consult a physician. Then you could get your blood work done to check if there's some physiological reason for this.

Lifting and Cardio will help a lot. I've found sex after 15-20 mins running is 10 times better and obviously longer. There are some vitamins, supplements which can boost your testosterone and other good stuff in your body but better consult a doctor before taking them.

Strengthening your thighs, abs and lower back muscles is essential. Also there are some kegel exercises and yoga asanas which helps strengthening your pelvic floor muscles and in return give you better erections and more control.

More often than not its in our heads. The anxiety of performance and our own hamstering. But after doing the above-mentioned things you'd be feeling more confident. And at the end of the day its all about confidences. Confidence to fuck the world as you would your woman. Good luck to you.

screechhater · 2019-12-29T23:37:42+00:00

Gonna have to decide what you are doing with your life moving forward.

Getting your shit together is a marathon not a sprint in a game of capture the flag.

It’s difficult to grasp pin the tail “on the getting the shit together” donkey, but you need to be methodical and make each move like a game of chess.

aita2899 · 2019-12-31T17:11:15+00:00

Anytime you think of her as the only cunt for you, this is the song you need to listen to.

https://youtu.be/cZaJYDPY-YQ

Perfectinmyeyes · 2019-12-29T09:00:30+00:00

I've never understood the whole concept of premature ejec...

If you don't want things to happen so quick you make it happen and same with her. Simple.

Title	Getting my shit together, but in need of some advice from the pros.
Author	Six-String-Samurai
Upvotes	12
Comments	33
Date	28 December 2019 07:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/303358
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