I had the same start as many of you. Oldest child of a single mother who raised to be a 'nice guy that any woman would want to be with', never learned how to express anger appropriately, etc, etc, ad nauseam. It's funny because I look back and I can see some serious RP moments in my life and then crazy swings back to BP because I didn't really understand what was going on and how my mindset, responses, and behavior were the key.

I went through the phases where it was all about game, then "self-help" and new-age bullshit. It wasn't until I read No More Mr. Nice Guy that I really started understanding the realities of my situation and the way the world has changed. At least I'm blessed with enough introspection to see what I was doing right in the RP moments of my life and wrong in the BP moments of supplication and beta-jumpingflapjacks. I have been the beta bucks pining for that scrap of not all that good vagina and I have been the alpha who banged the 6' tall blonde valedictorian while her boyfriend was waiting for her.

Career-wise, I have been in a career I have passion for, but I am often the only guy in the building. This has taken some deft maneuvering and some horrific BP moments, but it's clear women of all ages, marital status, etc respond to an assertive, alpha male. Even when I'm not "in charge", I'm always consulted before decisions are made.

The biggest thing for me has been establishing my priorities in this world. I read an article about Patrice O'Neal yesterday and one comment was about his supposed response to a woman regarding where she fell on his priority list...1)ME, 2) My family, 3) my career, 4) you.

Putting me first has been a long time coming, but my life has improved immeasurably because of it. I'm proud to have gulped down the red pill and to share my successes and failures with like minded people.