After being raided by a gang of germs last night, I called in sick this morning and stayed home so I can masturbate, play video games and call my mom and cry to her because life looks tough today.

Or did I? That’s what weak, irresponsible, victimized men with no value and meaning in their lives, do.

Instead, I woke up, swallowed some pills and decided to offer you guys a free pill. The pill of being a responsible man.

Rights Vs Responsibility:

Haven’t you heard? It’s 2020 and nobody gives a fuck about your rights. Nobody cares how tough your life is and especially, nobody gives a fuck whose blame it is. You got fired from your job? “My boss is a prick”. You failed your lift at the gym? “I haven’t slept well”. Your unicorn accidentally jumped on a stranger’s dick? “She’s a bitch”. Your friends are mad at you? “They don’t understand my value."

Get over it. You make mistakes. We all make mistakes. Searching for reasons and/or other people to throw blame is a waste of time. Nothing good comes out of it. Mistakes won’t be fixed; improvement will not be achieved. Lessons won’t be learned. Instead, own up to your mistakes, accept responsibility and spend your time finding how to fix them.

The “ARRR” Method:

Simple: A – Accept: Own up to the mistake/failure. Realize what happened and accept it.

R – Reflect: Spend your time to reflect on what YOU did wrong. Not what he/she have done wrong or what went wrong. Its YOU. Take responsibility.

R – Respond: How do YOU fix this? What can you do better next time? Why? Because there will be a next time. There’s always more mistakes to be made.

R – Repeat: Mistakes are lessons. Lessons are knowledge. Knowledge is power. Power is improvement.

Difference from a man and a child:

What does a man do? A man lifts. A man lifts himself, his family, his friends, his woman. A man must be able to pick something and lift it up, thus a man must be able to tolerate himself. If he has no power to accept his own failures and pick himself up, he becomes useless.

What does a child do? A child cries. A chold blames the furniture for his swollen finger, blames the air for the broken toy, blames the siblings for getting no ice cream. A child seeks for the love of his mom to overcome reality and heal his mental/physical wounds.

If you take no responsibility, you are weak, vulnerable, like a child.

Easily hurt, easily killed.

The alternative?

Victim complex. Feeling entitled. Impulsiveness. Low-class pleasure junk dopamine rushes. Nobody will pity a weak man. Nobody will help a weak man.

Now press the shut down button on your expensive gaming console, change clothes, put some deodorant and go lift. Meditate, find where you’ve been wrong, where you failed and fix your mistakes. Go grab life by the balls like a man and claim what you deserve.

If you take no responsibility, then you have nothing to live for.

P.S: A great video of Jordan Peterson, discussing responsibility. Take a look if you want to tackle this a bit deeper.