24 y/o male. In grad school. Working two part time jobs. I lift 4 times a week for ~40 min each. 6’2”, 152lb, 1-2% body fat, leading book club, creating events at church and hosting them, etc. (not sure if I hit all the stats... oh well).
Met a chick at church and shared the faith with her and may have come on too strong at the beginning. Long and the short of it, I invited her back to church this past weekend (she is already Christian, just exploring churches) and she joined me. After the service, we chatted a bit and then a group of my other friends joined us and we all talked for a bit; random stuff of no depth. She told me that she went out to a Halloween party the night before and she showed me her costume (a White Claw drink; comes into play later). She carried one of the service books with her outside where we were all chatting and she didn't know where to put it, so I took it back inside for her when she offered it to me (beta move on my part... I should have invited her along and showed her where to put it... oh well, learned for next time). Long and the short of it, she thanked me for inviting her and then left after a bunch of small-talk and conversing with everyone. Later that day I sent a flirtatious text with a picture of me and a pumpkin I carved and said "My question is, can you carve a pumpkin better than me "White Claw"? considering she showed me her costume and I thought that it would play off of our prior conversation at church. She read it and had no reply. So this was yesterday... I then was listening to a podcast on The End Times this morning and it reminded me of a conversation we had the first time she visited my church, so I sent it to her today. So I double texted with a little less than a day in between. No reply today yet. Low enough investment that I’m not wasting my time, but enough investment to show her I’m “assuming attraction”.
So, my question is mainly, is it wrong to text like that considering it may have come on too strong without major prior flirting beforehand that day, or not?
I invited her to two events I planned: one is a book club I'm leading (she said she wouldn't be coming to that) and the other is a question the Priest night (which she said she would be interested in and coming to). This was prior to my text with the picture/etc. - Not sure if I came on too strong with the flirtatious text and ruined that opportunity for evangelization. Trying to invite potential help-mates to events I have already planned is my goal in that I’m not wasting my time in doing so, but the texting in between asking them to those events is where I’m wondering how to proceed in.
Any advice on this situation (can provide more info if need be). Not a oneitus, just trying to learn from this situation for the future with other girls that I come into contact with. Also, how to proceed with this one, if it's salvageable?