I had a failure in frame on Saturday.
My wife and I had some disagreement. I don't even know what about anymore. She started to become disrespectful and challenging my authority.
So, I told her, "I'm going for my run now" instead of later that day like I had planned.
On that run, I made sure I came to the end of that workout so that I had an extra-long walk home.
To withdraw my presence from my wife to punish her. She wanted me around, and I changed up my entire workout routine to try to make her feel bad.
In hindsight, this was stupid for a couple of reasons:
- I didn't just withdraw from just her but also from my two kids - on a Saturday.
- I completely wasted nearly half an hour with that extra walk home, time that could have been used profitably.
- The only reason I did this was that I was trying to yield a response in her: guilt, disappointment, etc. (a very "nice guy" move).
That's not frame. Not mine. Not Christ's. It's foolishness.
I'm glad I went for the run. I'm glad I did it when I did it. However, the extra bit tagged onto the end was not representative of who I want to be.
I wanted to share this moment with you guys to help you avoid doing the same sort of thing.