Changed my life after swallowing TRP but can’t get over my ex?

MarkJohnPaul · 2020-01-12T07:12:06+00:00

All good to be upset. No shame in it.

It’s your ego acting up man. Sometimes it makes us crazy because they’re possessions to us. So when they go do they’re own thing it’s almost a shock to us. You can’t control her bro.

Just sit back and accept that it is what it is, and you’ll never get it back.

To that point it’s obviously been onwards and upwards. If you’re laying pipe once a week and lifting thinks are looking markedly better for you.

Meanwhile, your ex is out there just being crazy like she always is.

Just because you swallowed TRP when you broke up doesn’t mean she had some existential moment as well. From the looks of it she just went into full rebound mode and replaced you.

As far as the ego goes, I’d run by the old adage of “it’s not you, it’s just your turn” one. She needed a bf - you were that guy. She’ll always need one.

You on the other hand - are a free man.

If I was you I’d put a marked number on how many girls it’s going to take to fill the void your ex left behind.

Musicgoon · 2020-01-12T07:18:45+00:00

Bro, here's the rub of this shit. You do have slight PTSD. I left my BPD wife about 7 or so years ago. She's a total piece of shit human.

The thing is you get addicted to a certain level of arousal. And I don't mean arousal like getting a hard on. You get used to the fight or flight endorphins she brings. After I left her, I banged several plates and just didn't feel excited. I thought she fucked my head up.

I met another plate. She was a raging alcoholic, popped benzos like candy, and fucked like a porn star. The sex was amazing! But she was mean AF! Abusive I would say. We would fight, she would drink, I would leave for days or weeks at a time, but I came back all the time just to bang her. She cheated on me incessantly so I would one up her. If she slept with one guy, I would sleep with 6 women in retaliation.

I couldn't figure out what the hell my problem was. It was a few things: A. The challenge. She was a worthy sparring partner. I would fight and win. I would dominate the thot. And when she would say ,"I'm not sleeping with you tonight". I would laugh on the inside because she would always break after a bit of escalation. B. The sex. She was beyond filthy and really really good. C. The endorphins. I was addicted to the rush of endorphins when we fought.

So I had to admit that I loved the drama first and foremost. So I did other things that would make the endorphins go nuts instead of dealing with her being a bitch. I got a sportsbike and would rip though country back roads to get a rush, I lifted really really heavy shit and punished myself in the gym, and I approached the hottest women that I used to assume we're unavailable. All gave me that endorphin rush without the drama or toxic bullshit of that hoe.

Find a different rush and your feelings for her will die out quickly.

Good luck!

lolomotif12 · 2020-01-12T08:09:32+00:00

You said you miss her "loyalty/company/sex" but everything she was to you she is so easily and freely now giving to some random dude within days after your break up. Hell, she might have even been sleeping with dude behind your back. Dont be so blind. Why do you even care about someone like this, someone that has given you hell and clearly wasnt worth your efforts. You can do better than that!

Jamesdane123 · 2020-01-12T07:47:52+00:00

Did we date the same chick? Not even joking lmao

44361066 · 2020-01-12T09:39:50+00:00

When did you break it off? Will take you anywhere from 6 months to a year until she’s a memory that you appreciate but don’t care about anymore.

It happened to me. Just be patient brother.

idontevenlift37 · 2020-01-12T09:40:56+00:00

Time. It’s pretty much the only sure way you’ll eventually get over. And the key is to spend that time doing exactly what you’ve been doing: lifting, grinding, bettering yourself. Also consider cooling it down a little bit with banging a lot of girls. I mean it’s up to you, but if you’re still feeling the sting of your last relationship, than doing whatever with all those other girls can slow down the healing process since you aren’t completely over her yet. She’s got another guy already because she’s needy and can’t be alone.

dmi_3 · 2020-01-12T10:06:39+00:00

I couldn't get over my ex (almost 3 years after break up) until I had sex with a hotter girl.

2020-01-12T17:37:09+00:00

Advice? Wait a few more months. There is no piece of ass on this planet that cannot be forgotten within a year. How long has it been? It's your hormones talking. Time diminishes these feelings quickly.

> within two weeks because she literally can’t be alone

Remember that. That is how long it took her. If your relationship was no worth more than two weeks of a respectful dating break, she should not receive more than two weeks in your head.

Every day you are going to think a little less of her. If it ever feels as if you can't get over her, just notice that.

youcantdenythat · 2020-01-12T22:59:19+00:00

You are pining for your fantasy version of your ex. Your feelings are not for the real her, they are for your imaginary version.

You think about the times where you felt that she was loyal, good company and were blinded by her looks.

The real girl was pretty screwed up inside and completely undependable, unpredictable, and wasn't actually who you thought she was.

The sooner you come to terms with the fact that you don't miss her, you miss a fantasy of her, the quicker you can put it behind you.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-01-12T10:59:17+00:00

It takes time for wound to heal. Sometimes, years!

Just don't let this episode make you bitter. I often see TRP men are bitter and mean af.

You got it. Cheers!

TripleDragons · 2020-01-12T13:08:48+00:00

My ex (several gfs ago) was like this. Extended periods of emotional abuse mean it will hit you and hit you hard as she will have created dependency both ways, until your new normal is a living nightmare. Once you leave it, that state will linger for a while and as you meet more people you'll learn of better ways. Once of the benefits of having been through that is that you give less shits about flakiness and people chatting shit, so you move forwards and onwards a lot faster, easier and care free.

impotentludius · 2020-01-12T15:13:46+00:00

track that stomach and get it back bro. you’ll need it when you’re training abs and eating.

and your problem will be solved by meeting other women and time.

FrenCan316 · 2020-01-12T19:32:20+00:00

I think that our behaviour and thought patterns can often be tied to a person. If during that relationship you were still blue pill, you might still have blue pill traits and behaviours as it relates to that person. I have one ex (my last LTR before I took the RP) with which the relationship essentially degraded because I was so blue pill and couldn't stand up for myself. We split up with no hard feelings and in retrospect that was important to me changing my ways. Although I'm fairly red pill with everyone else now, with her I'm still a very kind and at times sacrificial friend. You could say I behave like an orbiter with her even tho I'm not into her in that way anymore. It's just the way it is, I don't see any harm with it. I basically treat here like I would one of my bros. But I definitely am a bit blue pill with her still.

PhaedrusHunt · 2020-01-12T20:07:57+00:00

Due to work, school, and the gym I can’t really go out much to socialize and meet new girls.

What kind of work do you do?

I don't know business so I have to spend time on a laptop. I'm not single but when I was it was always really easy to just during the day a couple times a week for a couple hours when I had to sit on and do some work to go a public place. Coffee shop, cafe, restaurant whatever.

Maybe you don't have a situation like that but the thing is I think it's better to be out and meet people in the daytime. Especially at the point where you're at right now you don't want to be getting involved with alcohol equipment and you meet more of them in public places during the day that kind of have their shit together and probably aren't as big into the night scene.

Try different places out and you'll find some place that you like and fit into, Just a place to work or chill occasionally and you'll just start to meet people.

Alternatively find some interest that you can do in a group setting.

You go to the gym that's cool. Fuck it Why not try CrossFit? It changes your routine some but doesn't mess with it and now all the sudden something that you were doing you can do in a social situation.

CrossFit girls aren't really my thing but some of them are mega hot and I bet you're a lot less likely to find an alcoholic than if you meet girls at bars.

I guess what I'm saying is it sounds sort of like you're in a rut and I think you need to mix things up

Many-Resolve · 2020-01-13T04:41:49+00:00

Dude, one woman is just like the others usually! I used to obsess over one woman at a time, but R. Cooper and M, etc. are correct in saying that women are only to be a compliment, not the focus.

Kabuki431 · 2020-01-13T07:01:25+00:00

3 years and overanalyzing my last oneitis, here's my conclusion. In my case

I missed being desired, being needed, feeling wanted by that person.

Fucking multiple women might help but it won't fill the emotional void.

Solution?

Raise your SMV like a mfer. Work on ur self, make money your primary goal and fitness your secondary.

Just to give you an example. Few years back i accepted that i was just ugly/stinky/unattractive undesirable dude. Then i started lifting properly for results.

The women that wouldn't even come within 3 feet of me, now would touch me, grab my dick in public, slap my ass and touch me every opportunity they get.

beachbbqlover · 2020-01-12T15:47:00+00:00

Aww, is the little bald monkey mad it can't control the universe?

:D

I'm not just being offensive here, think about that one for a bit. We don't control the universe. You're a bald monkey on a wet rock in space. No sense in flinging poo. Relax, and find another one.

Title	Changed my life after swallowing TRP but can’t get over my ex?
Author	Fueidjfnrk
Upvotes	105
Comments	42
Date	12 January 2020 06:38 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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