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Can we stop with this “just dont bring ur gf to the club” advice? That’s literally one of the dumbest comments I keep hearing on threads

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January 8, 2020
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Its 2020, hot girls know theyre hot and will go to the clubs especially if theyre young. You trying to “train her” into not going to a bar or a party or a club is just about the most unrealistic advice that keeps getting spammed on here.

Heres a real red pill reality: most guys who give that advice are saying that because they dont know shit about partying at a club. They suck at it and they know they suck at it. Its like a fat girl who wont let her hot friend talk to other guys cause of her own fat insecurity.

Wanna know what happens to guys who do well in clubs and bring their gfs? Their gfs want them even MORE. Why? Cause the type of guys who do well in clubs r 1. Attractive enough to have other girls eyeing him and his girl knows this 2. Its HER way of showing off her hot bf to other girls aka validating herself 3. Typically these guys have enough social skills to be at these clubs with a large group of their friends anyways, all of who are going to protect their relationship should a weird stranger try to hit her up.

Literally anyone who had friends and went clubbing in uni would know this which says a lot about the ppl dropping this shitty advice.


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Title Can we stop with this “just dont bring ur gf to the club” advice? That’s literally one of the dumbest comments I keep hearing on threads
Author IcyBear7
Upvotes 57
Comments 49
Date 08 January 2020 06:12 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/305954
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/elosjj/can_we_stop_with_this_just_dont_bring_ur_gf_to/
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[–]XT3M346 points47 points  (3 children) | Copy

i actually agree with this seemingly unpopular opinion. while TRP is correct on alot of things, stuff like this is just silly. we say that a woman who wants you will shoot down guys for you in 1 topic, but then say some mate guarding shit the next.

too many people here try to follow TRP so much they end up not living a life anymore. me and my LTR still go out to lounges and if anyone makes a move she shuts them down and i just laugh and say tough luck buddy.

[–]IcyBear7[S] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yepp this 100%. Live life cause experience will teach you through nuance way better than any post can

[–]XT3M31 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

like people who wants to be red pilled needs to learn that you dont need to follow every rule to its core. and as you said seeing examples of trp in real life have dine alot in me truly understanding how it work when i was starting off.

/u/TRPanon1389 brings up a good point as well. the growing amount of people frequenting this sub are showing that they are the last person to listen to for advice.

[–]poortrait1001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The map is not the territory

[–]TRPanon138924 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy

I agree. This place is becoming ridiculous. Ever since they shut down the incel sub it’s been full of unrealistic advice and straight up misogyny

[–]I_Dont_Type14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

I disagree with you. You can spot incels from a mile away. They use different terminology and their way of thinking is far different. There’s far less misogyny here than on subs like mgtow.

And to address the OP, clubs are an advanced environment. They require a different set of attributes compared to normal game. Bringing your GF is fine if you’re good at holding frame, but it can cause situations that are hard for someone who’s inexperienced to deal with.

[–]foreignobjectfound11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

^ this

Bringing your LTR to a club is TRP on hard mode, you move from being shit tested by her to being shit tested by the environment and her, a lot of guys lose frame. It’s more counter productive than rewarding.

[–]Hungboy69694201 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yea that's why it's advised to not bring her, especially if you're starting off. Personally, I'm excellent in a club so I would bring her if I wanted to. It's all about playing to your strengths and weaknesses

[–]mickey__2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Vidi ga braaat

[–]TRPanon13891 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

CCCC

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen31 points32 points  (21 children) | Copy

If you go to clubs you are a degenerate. If you bring your girlfriend with you you are retarded on top.

The fact that you are thinking that you have to qualify to a girl in order for her to "want you even more" and that you think that taking her to a location which is nothing more than an excuse to get drunk, take drugs and engage into promiscuous behavior, furtherly adds to your impression of a clown.

A club is a business that is built on the idea of allowing bitches to have an excuse for sucking juicy strange alphadick and hordes of thirsty beta pilgrims come and spend hundreds of dollars every month for the fantasy of being able to one night snatch a passed out hottie and stuff their limp pecker into them.

Finally the fact that you are posting your idiotic rant in a sub that has the purpose of asking questions and nothing more, cements your reputation as a degenrated retarded clown.

[–]IXseed4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

In a way looking like this, could you consider clubs a form of "beta bait"?

[–]theyearsstartcomin1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

There's literally no upsides to a club over happy hour at a classy bar/restaurant

[–]IXseed-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

IDK...maybe if you're out prospecting and you have better physical game than verbal. Like you can go on a dance floor and get into pussy that way.

[–]theyearsstartcomin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have literally never seen or even heard of comin up on a chick on the dance floor that cant hear you working outside of BET

[–]dominicthetiger6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

Guys who bring their gfs' to clubs are usually unaware they're actually sluts and attention whores. When I want to go out I dont try to justify it by saying I just want to go dance, and at the same time don'want to dance by myself. It's not about me not wanting to bring her along because I'm insecure, it's what the fact she wants to go to the club says about her. Wanting to be in a LTR while slutting it for attention at a club is a red flag by itself, and in my oppinion poor judgement on part of the boyfriend if he allows for that kind of behaviour.

[–]milkywaymaster2262 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

this is the part i have trouble understanding. Some say it’s insecure if you think your LTR going out to club with friends, and without you, is a red flag. On the other hand TRP will tell you that her even wanting to go out into that environment without you is all you need to know about her feelings of respect towards you, the medium is the message.

[–]dominicthetiger4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd say if you're okay with that, go ahead. But you do have to be aware of hypergamy and the reason behind why she's doing what she's doing. Then it's up to you wheather you want to encourage that under the guise of "I don't do that cause I'm not insecure like you!" or not. I mean, you wouldn't encourage your dog to roll around in it's own shit just because you "don't want to look controlling". Why would you ecourage your girl to slut for attention when it's the opposite you want from her?

There's a fine line between setting boundaries and being controlling, and it is a burden you have to carry if you're in an LTR.

FWB and plates are different in that regard since you should put minimum effort into sustaining them because if you have to exert yourself what's the point, but LTR is TRP on hard mode for a reason. You put in a (reasonable) amount of work and in exchange you sustain a relationship and/or eventually a family.

Would you want a mother of your child to be a slut? Didn't think so.

[–]theyearsstartcomin1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is insecure to worry about it and try to keep her from doing it.

You should absolutely be aware she is not worth it and to never upgrade her to ltr

[–]niceguyputin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude what do you expect women to be like? Slaves to men literally? Man you’re not considering technological advancements that are part of human evolution. This changes the ball game.

[–]2ndLion7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP is a troll (and faggot).

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Probably. I still like to answer these posts though, because there enough retards who'll actually believe this horseshit.

[–]satlinrabbow1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Had to scroll all the way down here ti see an EC comment.

It didnt dissapoint. To add to this. Clubs are a WASTE of time. bringing your gf to a club is a DOUBLE WASTE of time.

The one currency we have is TIME, women have their beauty and vagina, we have TIME. and just like real money the rich people know where to invest it, and poor people only know how to spend it.

I hope this is a learning point for OP although Im not optimistic, I'd suggest he spend a YEAR reading and re-reading the sidebar and lifting, untill he gets it.

[–]btrpb1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Or you are young. I mean, I, a middle aged man ain't hitting up clubs so much. But seriously, if you are 19 years old you can go out and have a good time and get fucking drunk every now and again.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

So basically retarded. Yeah.

[–]satlinrabbow-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

See, that's what BASIC 19 year old does.

Did you know that there are 17 year olds (yes that's SEVENTEEN) who make six figures with self taught skills? (software) Which is better, the 17 year old who figured out how to leverage his time or the 19 year old who ejaulates his time and money to every jane, diane, and harriet that walks by?

By the time those 17 year olds turn 19. . .THEY WONT HAVE to go to the club.

It's time to put your brains back into your heads and think leverage.

[–]btrpb3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Oh fuck off your high horse. If you didn't go clubbing at 19 you must have been a dull fuck.

[–]theyearsstartcomin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I only went when it was free and it was totally not worth it even then.

girls are much more impressed with happy hours and are more open even in shitty bars than in clubs, and it doesn't cost nearly as much

[–]IcyBear7[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Thats right! Only degenrates like 99% of celebrities, musicians, athletes, normal fucking college students and young professionals go clubbing! What clowns all these well adjusted, social people are! All of them are just going to clubs getting TrICKED into paying a corporation! Thats not already inherent in capitalistic societies at all! No, only the CLUB could ever be so crafty!

Thats why its important as a TRP Alpha stud to not give into those greedddy corporations who trick you into wearing decent fitted clothes or good looking hair styles! No a REAL alpha doesnt even shower!

Theseee degenerates like chris hemsworth would only ever bring his gf to a club! That cuck! What a clown!

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Stopped at "99% of celebrities". Just proven the retard.

[–]IcyBear7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmfaoooo. Dont forget to hold your frame while you learn nothing about the real world or how to evolve or stay competitive.

[–]temerity188 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Clubs are for picking up women. Not bringing a woman with you who you don't want other men to fuck is bad advice? Sure buddy.

[–]knuglets8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I go to the club to find new pussy and/or to hang out with my (male) friends, not to hang out with the same old pussy that I can get every day.

It's not about mate-guarding, it's making better use of your time.

[–]Ohboohoolittlegirl2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude.. What?!

You don't keep all the stuff you care about safely tucked at home in a fire-proof safe?

[–]barn3r3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

You really want to waste your time at the club with your gf getting hung over for the next day than getting laid? Straighten out your priorities.

[–]IcyBear7[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

No in my 20’s i went to the clubs with my gf and my friends to have fun drinking and dancing. Most people by the time theyre out of college know how to moderate themselves so they’re not hung over barring the occasional banger.

Even nowadays working full time with great careers, we make it a point to turn it up once in a while. Except since we’re in our early 30’s we can afford to go to more upscale bars and clubs.

Dont knock it till you get good at it

[–]Endorsed ContributorMetalgear2221 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s a trash way to spend time and money. If you’re single and want to generate low quality plates, go for it.

If you’re not in a dry spell I wouldn’t fuck with it all. It’s overpriced drinks that poison you and hamper your next days productivity where your surrounded mostly by individuals who don’t give a shit about themselves. You can’t hear a fucking thing anyone says, the music is god awful radio songs with mediocre DJ’s.

Id take playing pool, darts, bowling, laser tag, escape rooms, paintball, anything as more fun to go do with your boys than that dumb shit. It’s all a fake social game anyway. More power to ya if you want to do your pulling there. I’ve moved to generating plates from healthy hobbies like gym Rockclimbing snowboarding etc.

[–]dominicthetiger1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My buddies and I go and play pool at the local place. I feel much better after some banter and quality man to man time than I would going to a club. Just feels more wholesome in the long run too.

[–]Infernir2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Listen to the song girls just wanna have fun. Taking her to clubs, bars, etc can actually get her to want to have sex with you and a lot of action more than hiding her away

[–]theUnBannableHulk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

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Ok OP bring your girl to club, manager will rail all hot girls and your girl while you keep preening about how they are eyeing your goofy ass tryna act all retarded on the dance floor.

It’s a winning strategy OP, I fully support you, 100%

In fact, why stop at the club, just bring her over to my place later, and to really prove you are ULTIMATE ALPHA bring her to my bedroom and then onto my bed and imma fuck her while you strike Mr. Olympia Poses in the other room and scream at the walls while you mire yourself.

You’re SOOO confident braah, just cuz I’m coming on her face and pussy doesn’t means she doesn’t like you, it just means she likes you SOOO much she’s willing to get dicked down by me and all my buddies.

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[–]KillaJewels1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You forget an important thing.

"4. She gets to see you in action leading hard."

The club/bar/concert/music festival is a chaotic place. You navigating her through it and remaining calm is proof to her that she can depend on you not to break under pressure (i.e. maintain frame). It is massively attractive, especially when you provide the fun, which is the most valuable currency in that environment.

[–]yamicaGreenbowl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you like going to clubs and bringing your girl along then you should be able to. Leaving her at home just out of fear is mate guarding. I used to frequent clubs, because of my friend group and gaming women. It was a perfect place for me in that I am a good dancer and the ‘fun’ guy of my friend group. But getting into an LTR I realized that the club lost its appeal, I still like to dance and so does she, but most of my fun came from gaming other women.

Since those single days I have went clubbing a handful of times, with and without my girl. I actually get a lot more out of it when she is with me surprisingly. It’s an event, they love to dress up and be seen. Also going out dancing is a great way to connect, have fun and show value. She knows I’m a great dancer and whether with friends or not I can display plenty of social value.

On the other side, your girl will get attention, and you need to be prepared for it. You can’t mate guard, but also you can’t be disrespected, it is a fine line. I don’t drink much in general but when I’m out with my girl I’m much more reserved. So I don’t go out that often anymore, and I think she is less into it than I am. Nowadays if we do, we go out and come back early, just to get in some dancing which is a good time.

I always thought one of the main principles is to be the fun time, doing what YOU want. If that means clubbing with her, then do it. Definitely don’t leave her home if it’s about fear, but don’t go out if you hate the club. If we’re out she is free to do what she likes, but if she wants to keep me around then she will act accordingly. Also don’t be dumb about the kind of shit that happens in clubs, bars, or late nights in the city.

[–]_nein_danke0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So much bullshit on ask trp these days. The other one I cringe at is “dump/cheat on her bro....if you don’t do it first it will just happen to you”. Like Jesus these people have literally just stopped living actual normal lives. Ironically so shit scared of getting hurt, which is a part of life (not to be confused with getting hurt cos you’re an idiot/pussy), whilst maintaining a confident “alpha” personality.

[–]2ComplexProjection0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Bring your GF to the club and hit on other girls with her. Bring them back home for a 3s.

[–]drevil_-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think it’s more about them not going to the club without you. If you’re there yea obviously it’s not a big deal but when you’re not u have no idea what she’s doing

[–]KarmicPrism0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

And that's fine you never have any idea what she's doing and you shouldn't care either. If she gonna cheat she will cheat if not she won't, it doesn't matter whether she goes to clubs or delivery orders a mandingo at midnight when you're home alone thinking she's asleep. Setting doesn't matter.

[–]drevil_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea but a girl that wants to go out and get drunk is definitely a red flag. She shouldn't be doing this alot. If she is, and you're fine with it, you're a cuck. I don't think that's a stretch at all

[–]hoopingblob-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

I personally don't like clubs while my gf does. We went to the club together once and she mentioned girls were looking at me. Although it was a good way to show her that I can get any girl I desire if I want to, I never went with her anymore. I hated the music and it was too crowded for me. I'm also a terrible dancer 😂😂.

My point is that I didn't enjoy it thus I told her that I am not going to the club anymore. She sometimes still goes to bars or clubs but only as a reaction when I go out with my friends.

I think if you enjoy going to the club sure why not take your gf with you but for me personally I despise going there and filling my ears with music that sounds like it came out of a baby's mouth.

[–]AnneStaz-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

If a guy flirts with my girl I nudge her towards him "babe, he will save me money go get yourself some drinks". Which always results in them wondering why the fuck do I not care and what girl am I secretly trying to sneak in? Works like a charm



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