Been lifting a lot. Feeling great from my new confidence, higher testosterone, and I just wanna start approaching more because I'm sick of dating apps and need to escape a scarcity mindset that's been embedded in me for too long

I don't find it hard chatting up a girl in a supermarket aisle who is alone with me in the aisle. It's easy to start a harmless convo with the context of what's in her cart. However, if there's people in the aisle, I'm too scared to start a convo. every time. People are listening, I'm being judged by a bunch of people... "omg is he hitting on her"

Let's run examples...

1- A cute girl in line with me at the gas station, and there's 2 fat construction workers in front. I'd love to talk to her, but those two dudes will be judging me based on their own inadequacies/insecurities and might be beta/incel enough to chime in and side with her, to fend off me, embarrassing myself for a painful 5 minutes while i stand in line in shame with them waiting to pay

2- Or I'm in line at the grocery store. Girl behind me. That 55 year old clerk lady is listening to what I say to the 22 year old behind me while she scans my chicken and broccoli. I can't stand it

I could even go as far as... 3- The other day I met my mother for lunch. We walked into Zaxby's. As I walked in after holding the door for my mother, I quickly scanned the faces, there was a hot girl, probably a perfect 8 (which i haven't seen for a while in this town) having lunch with her not-so-hot friend. They were just walking out. I wanted to walk over there and talk to them because i knew i had good odds but backed out because my mother would be onlooking and I'd have to deal with embarrassment if I struck out. Are these all lame excuses? How did you overcome this in your early days?