Maybe a stupid question, but I’ve been cheated on twice now and I feel like I really tried my best after discovering RP with the second relationship. It made me happier too to tap into my feminine energy, and my ex told me of his own accord that he felt happy and appreciated with me unlike with his exes.
I posted about discovering he cheated just over a week ago and how he was likely a narc. Since then I’ve sought comfort in my girl friends, only to find out exactly how many of my friends had also been cheated on. It’s scary because they’re sweet girls who look like a 7-8, are feminine, can cook, have great careers and intelligent personalities etc.
I’m back in nun mode but this whole experience really terrifies me. I know I will recover eventually, but idk how I’m going to vet for a guy who values loyalty and commitment, who guards themselves like I do
I’m a 7-8, usually date guys 5-6 but who are ambitious self-starters and highly educated so I don’t think I’m dating higher than I can. Both relationships the guys have told me I made them feel very cared for and explicitly stated they were happy and looked happy. Sex life was also good for the first. The second one was less experienced in sex but somehow still managed to cheat. Both men tended to put me on a pedestal at first due to my career achievements then slowly changed their attitude towards me when they found out in a relationship I’m more submissive and less independent
I’m confused and feeling scared and dejected. I just want a principled captain who I can support and whom I’m their one and only.
Since I’m in nun mode, how to I be the kind of girl that attracts a good quality man that doesn’t cheat? I’m not religious so I can’t look to church
Edit: thank you for the many responses, was really not expecting much of a reply. Very grateful. Will reply in the day since it’s late night now
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