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Friend who turned me onto Redpill is getting jealous

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January 18, 2020

My friend who showed me TRP is getting pissy with me because I'm starting to build confidence around women.

He entered into a long term LTR about a year ago, and only recently has he been acting like a beta. He literally told me last week that "I've become too obsessed with getting women", "that is affecting our friendship". This is coming from a guy who I would Third wheel for all the time, I would wingman for, that I would run interference with a group of girls while he would single out one.

I'm a naturally confident person but that goes away with women, I started gaining it with women by reading the sidebar and using dating apps to just test stuff out and to see how they would react. I've been getting good enough responses that I'm ok enough to cold approach on my own.

How should I deal with a friend whos getting jealous? It kinda pissed me off

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Title Friend who turned me onto Redpill is getting jealous
Author DJCuddlessp
Upvotes 117
Comments 66
Date 18 January 2020 01:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]DarkestShadeOfRed185 points186 points  (12 children) | Copy

It sounds like he's used to you being the Robin to his Batman, and now the roles are reversed. It happens when you start improving yourself, start growing your social circle more and don't look back.

[–]rprookie21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

sees this post

[–]theyearsstartcomin5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

I think the ltr bit is important too. If they both were chasing girls, itd be more positive, but now hes lockeddown and misses the good ol days that hes seeing op live out

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

The thing is he still spins plates on the side though, so idk

[–]theyearsstartcomin2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

Oh weird

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

That's the part where I'm like wtf. It's not even like we go after the same type of women either so there really isnt a competition motivate behind it

[–]MillionaireSexbomb5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

bet his gf or plates made a comment about you lol

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

His Gf tried to set me up with one of her friends last year and I told her friend I wasnt looking for a LTR, so that's a possibility

[–]MillionaireSexbomb2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, he probably noticed them changing how they interact with you. You won’t be able to do anything about this, it’s his insecurity. He will either get over it or stop being your friend.

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He better get over it

[–]555654t45655513 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Kevchenkoo7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuckig facts, he wanted you to play second fiddle but you became the starter in the lineup, while his ass was demoted to the bench.

[–]madfrombrad-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take turns being wingman and alpha

[–]MarkJohnPaul43 points44 points  (8 children) | Copy

I mean, is it affecting your friendship? I don't understand the context of that...

In my opinion, male friendships are more important than getting chicks.

That being said, depending on the context he could definitely just be envious / jealous. I'd just let it go and tell him to be happy for you, unless there is some context to you becoming too obsessed with getting women and how it's affecting your friendship.

[–]babybopp11 points12 points  (7 children) | Copy

Dunno man... if someone has the friendship to show u rp I don’t think they are jealous. I think probably OP is hyper focused on getting laid that he is not paying attention to self discovery and mental growth. Remember the mantra, don’t try to outshine the master. Just seems that OP is reading RP but not really getting what it means. One thing we know is that it is always bros before.. while personal growth is good, it should come at a balanced pace. Either way, it would be good to sit and talk it out...

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's not that I'm focused on getting laid, I'm focused on spending time with my friend who just wants to stay at home and play xbox all night. Like that's fun during the week when I have free time, but on the weekends we'd used to go out and have a lot of fun and BS. I feel it's like hes trying to make me settle down with him at the same time and I dont want to

[–]DaftOdyssey2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

How old are you?

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Both 25, w/ good jobs

[–]theyearsstartcomin2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

don’t try to outshine the master.

Irrelevant here unless hes his protege rather than just his buddy

My bets on the ltr mqking ops friend feeling caged while hes out gettin laid

[–]babybopp1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Op still hasn’t got laid bro.. read it again. He just cold approaches now and he is probably doing it wrong that is why the guy who saved him is telling him that he has an unhealthy obsession

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I get laid, I have two plates. Just not the plates I want, I'm trying to upgrade from paper to ceramic plates

[–]theyearsstartcomin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It doesnt say hes not gotten laid (i got laid plenty before really doing cold approaches, personally). Anyway doesnt really matter for what im saying. The friend misses the hunt

You could also be right, but that was just my take since either is equally likely considering we dont actually know the situation

[–]Bluedog5x541 points42 points  (2 children) | Copy

Call him out

[–]marcus8crassus51 points52 points  (1 child) | Copy

This. Men aren’t women. Relationships that are meant to last between men are based on mutual respect and acknowledgement of that which too often goes unspoken.

[–]LordTutanKhamon3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes OP, tell him what you told us and maybe he’ll say “hey that’s not what I mean, your job is in the shitter, you’re not working out, you haven’t read a book in months, because you’re always working on the game instead of working on yourself .”

Maybe he’ll just say “that’s not true, fuck you” like a little bitch.

Either way you get out of the stalemate.

[–]jenovajunkie10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is what I hate about people, they like you when you're able to be dominated and told what to and what not to do.

He sounds like a typical guy who wanted you there, fixed as his third wheel.

Tell him to grow up or fuck off, you're doing a lot better in your eyes and if he can't be happy for you it's best that he leaves.

[–]RuleTheOne3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man that is so true. People love the ass kissers

[–]audiotrack31 points32 points  (3 children) | Copy

Idk where you got that part that he is jelaous. This is your narrative not his. I can totally imagine his narrative being like man this dude used to be Funny to be around and now woman is his mission and its boring and lame.

You know its like when your friends have Kids all they speak about is their infants

Why not talk to him if you care about that friendship?

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I want to talk to him about it, the way hes been acting has kinda pissed me off. I dont want to lose him as a friend but at the same time it's like wtf

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Men aren't women. You can be overt. Just don't be an asshole, make him understand you are strengthening the bro bond.

[–]Velebit3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, he is not even trying to understand.

[–]PhaedrusHunt12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

So does he have an account here?

Why don't you just call hime out and tell him to come read this stuff and we'll tell him to quit being such a faggy crab in a bucket.

Also you got to realize some stuff dude. There are some friends that you will outgrow or that the dynamic of your relationship will change. They might throw a fit.

Jordan Peterson references are generally frowned on around here (for both good and bad reasons) but here is a good video on true friends

[–]TRedman8818 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Soft next

[–]theUnBannableHulk2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Men are naturally competitive it’s normal.

He’s in an LTR while you’re mackin.

Sit him down and be honest but be willing to walk away too.

There is always gonna be one Alpha more dominant than the other in a group of two.

[–]ChiefFuckingBull3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

tell him to stop being a bitch, and you need to stop being a bitch aswell. The fact that you have a friendship with such a degree of sophistication that you can talk about shit like TRP, is gold. Just enjoy it, man, no need to argue. Be logical, like men. And you cannot change him (but can only tell him the truth) so if he becomes an emotional BETA male just drop him. This is like the 10,000 posts of this exact kind on this sub

[–]Tiberiuss73 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Instead of thinking too much, be direct and talk to him about it. Male friendships are valuable, so repair it if you can. Otherwise soft next him.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't be a bitch. Talk to him about it. That's how you'll get your answer.

[–]PandaLitter4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Isn't he going to read this

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If he even still use reddit

[–]SoulRedemption2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Are you focusing on chicks that you are spending less time wiv him? You flaking on him for chicks? Genuinely asking

[–]DJCuddlessp[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

If flaking means not playing xbox with him every day now then yes, because that's what his weekday nights and weekends have turned into essentially

[–]SoulRedemption-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Flaking means you cancel plans with him for pussy, you put pussy first when planning

[–]Musicgoon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here's what you do. Invite him out. Game bitches. Invite two sluts over for a trip to pound-town. You take one he takes the other. Pound away, then stop, swap and pound some more.

But seriously your friend lacks abundance.

[–]majorketone2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You kinda sound like a bitch. Talk to your friend about it. Not us. Good male friendships are based around trust and speaking your mind. My friends aren't on TRP but I still tell them exactly what I think all the time and they respect me for it.

[–]cleanestballs1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You know the answer... Demote him to anal only plate.

[–]burn-all-bridges0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP, I love what the guy said about finding a new social circle. Reddits approach to relationships is usually hard next. You have to decide if the relationship between you and your friend is worth his new insecurity of you challenging for the alpha spot in the relationship.

I personally lost the best friend I've ever had, BEING the person that your friend is being right now, and it has been a very big regret for me. He seemingly went on to have many years of growth and new friend circles. I suffered, and would have brought him down with me.

Now that I am feeling better and getting back into my power and self control, I see where I went wrong That's a big thing I'm here to really hone.

Off topic, now that you're relatively new to cold approaching, where is it that you're practicing? What is your angle?

I'm going to continue reading and practicing but right now, when I think about it, I still cant think of a good reason to essentially aggressively bother a woman in public.

I of course want to get to where I believe they'd be god damned lucky if I per the sidebar...attack the idea not the person. I'm down for constrictove criticism.

[–]Velebit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You are not trying to steelman his position, but quite the opposite, to strawman it.

[–]red_matrix0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When your friends check you, it’s on you to check yourself. It doesn’t sound like he’s jealous either. Think of it from your friends point of view - how have YOU changed, do YOU act different, are you a good friend? The long view here is he took you under his wing and introduced you to TRP (most guys won’t do that). Do some soup searching here.

[–]poloniuspoet-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next your friend. Ain't got time for negative Nancy's.

[–]kingofclubsmorde-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This sounds strangely very familiar. Your friend is probably just wanting the best for you but you are starting to make up some strange plots to lie to yourself about your insecurities.

Been there, bro. Don't waste your precicious energy on this nonsense.

Learn to care less. Just stop giving a fuck. You'll find life more pleasurable and balanced than before.

[–]throwboi868787-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I bet he’s gonna cuck you soon

[–]Gordon-G-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t chase them..replace them!!

[–]ElOweTea-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I call bullshit, your friend sounds right. Stop being a bitch op and you sound jealous your friend is in a LTR and you are trying to make him sound like he's gone back to the plantation and had become some kind of cuck.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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