There is a belief across The Red Pill that men should not be getting married to a woman without very good reason. You must vet the woman for a reasonable period of time, you must have a clear plan for why you are marrying (usually to start a family) and take any precautions necessary to protect your wealth and assets (such as prenups). Many guys even think you just shouldn't marry, full stop.

One of the reasons I've heard that it's so risky for men to get married is because women don't really want marriage. What they want is the wedding. The special occasion where everyone fusses over them and tells them how beautiful they look. The opportunity to take photos of the occasion to post on social media and show off to their friends and family. It's the perfect "fairytale", so to speak. The groom very much takes a backseat role in the whole wedding process. It's all about the bride. But when it's all over, women don't want the actual lifelong commitment of marriage - which is why the divorce rate is over 50% (70-80% for second marriages) and women initiate something like 80% of divorces (Richard Cooper of Entrepreneurs in Cars on Youtube talks a lot about this).

I'm not saying I agree or disagree with this view, but what do you think? Do women really want marriage or do they just want the wedding?