Disclaimer, I have never to the best of my knowledge been cheated on.
But, that being said, I have the feeling that I wouldn't care so much if I learned that my girlfriend had an ONS at some point with some dude she has no contact with at all, and that it hasn't affected our relationship ever since. At least I feel like I could get over it.
My reasoning comes from the fact that I cheated about 5 times at the beginning of my relationship with current girlfriend, each time being with a new girl that I never met ever again. I have one of them as a facebook friend but we don't talk. I haven't cheated for the past 3 years though. I realized that this hasn't affected my relationship with my girlfriend at all. I love her the same, or more, I want to spend my life with her and she's really the one I chose. My cheating revolved purely around a moment, where I felt attracted to another woman, consumed the desire and moved on. It had nothing to do with my relationship, I just have a strong sexual appetite.
I am also quite empathetic towards the human flaws and I understand how emotions work. I can imagine my girlfriend being somewhere, meeting someone, and being sexually attracted to them. I understand it can happen to any human, and it's just normal. Now I would never WANT this to happen. But if it did, I think I might think, so what? Doesn't make me less of a man. I feel like jealousy is really an ego thing.
I am not talking about an affair or an emotional affair, I think that's very different. And I actually don't know how I would rly feel, this is hypothetical.
Anyone else feels the same way?
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