So yesterday I thoroughly read "The stronger you are, the less anyone cares about you" by u/thereticle, and u/Whisper had a very good and short post:

" Weak-minded people like people who are weaker than them, because seeing and hearing those people makes them feel good about themselves. Strong-minded people like people who are stronger than them, because seeing and hearing those people inspires them to improve themselves. If you wish to improve yourself, hang around people you envy, and teach yourself to respect and learn from them instead. If you wish to stagnate, hang around people you pity, and mentally masturbate about how much better than them you are. "

Which is totally true. I feel much better hanging around people that are more beta than me. I can easily and effortlessly lead the conversation, decide what we are going to do, and be a "contextual alpha" and feel good about myself. This is definitely a "mental masturbation" and a path to stagnation and atrophy. When I'm around more dominant and stronger peers I feel stressed, in competition, self aware and etc. This is good, as it means I'm playing in the big boys league and my shit is not that hot and I can see what I need to work on to become a better man.

Really thought about it for a good while yesterday.

I went to my regular dance club yesterday night and danced my ass off. Right off the bat there was this HB8 that was 6'1". She gave plenty of IOIs and we danced for a good bit. The thing is, I'm still a timid couple dancer, that is, I can dance solo like a mofo but feel a bit awkward escalating once people show interest. So I'm dancing with her, on and off, pushing and pulling her with my attention and distance for a while. I go to a different part of the dance floor, and out of no where this guy swoops in and dances hand in hand and intimately with her within a minute. Within 3 minutes he had her number. Within 10 he was dancing with other women. Now, the old thought process was to get jealous, angry at her, him and myself. But then I caught myself and remembered about the quote above. I tried to be cold and analytical about it:

Her: She is really not in the equation. She is cute, sure. There are tons of other girls that night and out there. I'm not going to remember her in a day. She obviously felt self consciousness about her height which was illuminating. (I asked her how tall she is and after she told me, she asked me "is that a bad thing?").

Him: He was a natural. He was shorter then her and me. (I'm, 6'1" the same height as her) yet he didn't give a fuck. He was way larger and more muscular and defined than me, escalated super fast, and then after he got her number unashamedly kept dancing and perusing other girls (thus the preselction was strong, as more girls kept dancing and interacting with him his value from other women kept raising). Now, if you don't lift or try to work on your body, you don't really know how hard it is to become large and lean. It takes years of dedication at the gym PLUS a very clean and restrictive diet. No one gave this guy his body, he actively worked for it in the past and currently and I recognized that immediately.

Me: I just embarked on TRP journey about half a year ago. Started lifting and focusing on my career. The gains are slow, the readings are plentiful and the approach anxiety is hard to bust through. I did had a few plates, have a single wobbly currently. The only thing really I had over this guy is a few inches of height. We both have similar facial attractiveness level. Obviously his assertiveness and IDGAF and physical heft won the day.

It was a strange thing. As I was drinking a beer and watching them dance my anger and jealousy slowly turned into admiration and respect. The most important thing was, everything he did I could do as well. As in, keep bulking up and lifting. Sure, going to go to the gym this afternoon and keep watching my diet. Become more assertive. Sure, just keep going out and experiencing various situations with girls. I know its going to fall into place if I'll stay true to the path.

In conclusion, don't be angry at "better" or more alpha men than you. Not only you can easily identify and emulate their traits but they set a healthy competition and example to what you should strive for.

Most of us jealous at better men. We should identify what makes them great and peruse that ourselves.

"If you wish to improve yourself, hang around people you envy, and teach yourself to respect and learn from them instead."