Psychotherapist Esther Perel has repeatedly stated that Sexy people and Good partners are two entirely different things. In fact, she claims those two categories are completely opposed.

The traits that make a man a good short-term fling and a good long-term partner are incompatible.

Women express what they sexually desire through affairs, not relationships.

And this applies to both personality and physical appearance. What people want for a one night stand ≠ what they want for a marriage.

And the differences between ONS and marriage are absolutely WILD.

So next time you ever hear a discussion remotely close to the topic of dating and sex, ask first if we're talking about pure sex or relationships. The discussion will be totally different based on that.