Looking through RP lens, story reads almost like a fairy tale.
The long hard road, out of hell
My life was shit. I frequently dreamed of suicide. My biggest problem was my sexless marriage. I logged in to this old account this morning to find a dozen messages asking me if I had killed myself (How would I even answer?) or if I had divorced my wife yet. Neither of those things happened. Something much better happened.
Now quickly, imagine yourself going to r/relationships or similar mainstream sub. What do you think would be #1 advice?
Shortly after I made those posts, my wife and I started seeing a marriage counselor. Everyone in the world told me counseling was the right thing to do.
Of course! Counseling!! Aaaaand ... did it work?
The counselor's advice amounted to something like "So you're horribly depressed because you have needs which aren't being met. Have you considered not having needs?". At one point he floated the idea of trying to get me a libido lowering drug. He was 100% on my wife's side of everything.
Libido lowering drug!? /SMH
After one year of brainwashing he finally gives them both 'a finger' ...
... I told him to fuck off. I told him that his services were worthless and that I would not be returning.
... completely withdraws attention from his wife and starts focusing on himself:
I got back into old hobbies I had been neglecting during my depression, started spending 3 or 4 hours a day at the gym doing heavy compound lifts fueled by repressed anger, and running until I made myself puke.
For 3 months he got no reaction, but at that point he genuinely DGAF anymore. But something else was starting to happen: other women suddenly checking him out and people at gym complimenting his progress. The mark of true success: persistence.
Seasoned RPers already know what you get when you cross Dread and SMV increase:
The next day as I was leaving, she stopped me and said pretty much nothing before initiating sex. That day I missed the gym because we fucked for four hours.
The Alpha is born. Nothing can stop him now.
Starting the next day, I'd text her commands from work. Stuff like "Be naked when I get home." or "Wear the red one. Make sure a lot of lube is easily available." and she would follow them. ... For about a month after, I still spent no effort on her needs.
I can already imagine Roissy linking his skittles man story.
Every single day of that month. Sex happened whenever I wanted it, for as long as I wanted it, however I wanted it. No resistance. No complaints.
And then he amps it up a notch (true mastery way, not asshole way) ...
I started rewarding her for putting out. I started taking her on dates again, and playing card games with her again. I'd bring her little gifts again. If she didn't put out on a given day, for any reason, I'd completely deny her any of my attention or energy.
BRAVO SIR! Operant conditioning 101: reward good behavior, punish bad. He finally Gets It.
This change in our relationship has lasted 9 months now. She's very nice to me now, gets naked whenever I want, and is super affectionate in public. I love her again, and now I feel like she loves me too. My depression is over!
And they say Red Pill is bitter. Yes, immediately after you swallow it, but the more you digest it the sweeter it gets. The comment section turned into a discussion about The Red Pill.
What's really interesting in this story, other than being yet another proof of RP concepts, is that it's very rare that someone unplugs himself without external (RP subreddits, manosphere blogs) aid, without metaphorical Morpheus. But this guy did it.
tl;dr (his own words): Ignored my wife. Worked on myself. That fixed my marriage.