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I don't Believe in myself.

by Luckyluke23 | April 24, 2015 | TheRedPill


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Title I don't Believe in myself.
Author Luckyluke23
Upvotes 15
Comments 50
Date 24 April 2015 07:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit TheRedPill
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/31817
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/33qt9r/i_dont_believe_in_myself/
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[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

I know what I have to do, I just can't cross the line to do them. can you guys please help me.

No. Fuck you dude.

You may not believe in yourself but you made this post and that's the first step in your journey to being the man you wish you were.

I believe in you.

You already identified where your weaknesses are, start there.

There are no short cuts in life.

There isn't anything anyone can say to you that will suddenly make it click for you.

Motivation is fleeting.

Discipline lasts.

Either you do it for yourself, or you won't

[–]unassumingusername73 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who down votes this? This is exactly what OP needs. If you can identify that your lack of fitness and employment is affecting your confidence with women, (and maybe it should, because it affects your smv) then fucking fix that. TRP isn't about shortcuts. Make yourself a catch. Everything else is noise.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

i think where you are coming man...

I was just looking for some PERSPECTIVE on this... my heads in all kinds of fucked up places atm I wanted to see if i could read something meaningful and maybe try get it back on track ( NOT TALKING MAGIC PILL)

[–]TruthOverLiez5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Go the gym first and get results. Your anxiety will decrease when you exercise.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

is this because i Look better there for feel better?

[–]TruthOverLiez1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You will look better and feel better.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (12 children) | Copy

on the surface level I know I am a decent guy, I treat people write and I am a loveable funny guy. sure i have room for improvement ( need a job and I'm out of shape. yes i know i need to hit a gym, yes I have anxiety towards that too)


Get a fucking job you bum and get in the gym. Since you can't afford the gym go to /bodyweightfitness and get started there.

You don't need our help, how can you be anything but anxious around women if you're fat and unemployed? You came here looking for something, anything to get through the problems you already have and refuse to deal with.

Get that weak shit out my face.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (11 children) | Copy


thanks for this tip...

I don't see this has a hinderance... I know i need to get these done.. it's not a fact of HAVING these things, i'm talking about a mind set.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (10 children) | Copy

The mindset is you will die soon and frankly no one else cares about you.

That's the red pill. You have a little time, what will you do with it? TRP isn't a circle jerk self help group, if you want useless advice that comes with emotional support then complain that you're lazy and underachieving in 2XC, they'll care. They won't help but they'll give you a pat on the head.

No one here will entertain you because you don't deserve help. You don't respect yourself enough to get a job and not trash your body. If you can't be bothered to do even that then no one here can help you. No one here needs you to succeed, you do, if you're not bothered enough to fight for what you want then just sit on the sidelines and be forgotten.

If it isn't obvious HAVING a decent job and HAVING a shredded body changes your mindset for you. When you look good and make dollar you believe you can take on the world.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

thanks man this was pretty good... i will take a lot away from it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I'm going to come back to you on this in a month and ask you what you've done with yourself.

RemindMe! 30 days "Hold Luke to Account"

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

It's been one month.

What have you done with yourself?

Digs through Post History

Football football football.

Giving people advice on seduction.

Creeping on some fat girl.

This tidbit:

I don't need to see a women going on the hamster trail either.. once you see like 5.. you know all women are the same and you move on. what I would like to see however is more posts like this. more in depth views of what The red pill is about and HOW i can apply it to my life.

coupled with this;

do you have any PRACTICAL ( do not just tell me to gym or I will reach through the computer and slap the shit out of you)

and this;

can someone explain like I am 5. what IS dread game. i sure hope to god this isn't like monk mode all over again.

(What did you do in Monk Mode - since you didn't get a job or start working out? Note to self, Luke didn't bother reading the sidebar - like, at all.)

oh man... went to the shop the other day and oreos was 2 bucks a pack.. .so good.

oh man... went to the shop this week and got oreos, lollies and chocolate... I'm good. my dad home atm. he's going away on wed, so it's going to be known as weed wednesday.

oh man... this happens when my friends come over ay.. have to sneak food when they not looking... i get the munchies real bad.

So - you're out of shape, jobless, not getting laid, actually get excited about the price of Oreos, haven't read the sidebar, and now start doling out advice to others.

you should get one... you don't get a relationship by not having casual sex. relationships are formed after you have sex. you pick up the girl fuck her and if you like her more than you should you take her out a few times and you get to know her a little more than you normally wood.

There's no helping you Luke, you're a sexless fat stoner chode. You are what everyone else is scared of becoming and you did it to yourself. Willingly. This thread is dead and buried; just you and me here Luke. You let yourself down.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Creeping on some fat girl.

the first 2 are correct but this is wrong.

Bro, it's not attack luke day so chill... I know I have a lot of shit I am working thru right now...

I've seen a lot of shit in this world man... if i can help someone out i will... I posted this a month ago when i was feeling down and looking for help...

I could go through your post history and pick out every post you had made looking for help. man it's not nice doing that to someone...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I didn't ask for your help. You asked for ours.

This is 1 month - it'll be the same a year from now. You're not willing to change, you don't want to change so don't ask how to change. I hope the Oreo's taste good; you sure are paying a high price for them.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

well yeah they will when i'm high on wednesday...

that's not the point though... dude... you shouldn't go around attacking people...

I'm only smoking weed because no one is home then in a few months my sister will be back from her holiday and i will have stopped smoking by then...

anyway smoking weed every now and again is FUN dude... let alone it helps with my ADD

I asked for help because I wanted to see a different perspective in my mental thinking...

I am changing everyone changes day in day out... I learnt a lo by going out this weekend. so it was a good weekend. why do you go around and attacking people man... does it make you feel big or something? like jeese. I'm just browsing reddit...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

why do you go around and attacking people man

You made a thread asking for help on how to not be you. You got told how to do that by a variety of people. I set a reminder 30 days out to hold you to account - this is the rub, you don't hold yourself accountable and believe someone else doing it when you specifically ask for help an attack. You don't understand; I see that, good luck.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

to be honest man, I don't even remember making that thread.

look I'm not trying to put you down because you are doing a good thing... i just didn't expect you to comb threw my post and be all up in my grill instantly.

to me, confronting someone head on ISN'T the way to get someone to change... telling them about the negative shit isn't going to help them in there CURRENT MINDSET.

the best thing to do is be friendly to them and try find out where there mindset is at then come in thew the back door and mind fuck them. WHY because it has more of an epiphany effect on the person. also most of the time they will think it's there own Idea and do it.

telling someone DO X NOW! is dumb... a fat person KNOWS he has to go to the gym, gym is good for them. we all know it. but we just don't do it.. we don't have the mental capacity to do so.

[–]usul16283 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy

Hit the gym, get a trainer if you're struggling. Spend your free time doing cool shit that you like and gets you out of the house. Don't try to get laid. Focus on you and you alone. You'll know it's time to get back in the game when women start trying to get with you.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

thanks for this man... I have been wondering if i should just "walk away from game" all together, as in, Drop going out to pick up girls and just chill with my homies in the club or whatever you know?

I think i need to start something NOW.

[–]AntixD0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

gym and check out MGTOW,or monk mode for a while

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I don't even know what "monk mode" claims to be... so i can't just go off into a cave with nothing but a a can of beans and a lighter.

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[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks really put it into perspective... i really wish it wasn't called "monk mode" sounds so lame.

[–]AntixD0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

https://archive.is/1hQHZ search on reddit trp sub for any term and you'll know

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

thanks man will read up on it.

[–]Postboned0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Try to be open. Go around. Experiment. Talk to a lot of people. Guys even, if there are no girls. Just talk and socialize with people, no matter what the topic is. The more you do some thing, the less insecure you'll feel about it.

Also, it sounds like you asked one girl for a phone number and she didn't give it to you. This is the issue. You asked ONE girl (if I am correct) and gave up too easily.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

no no I DIDN'T ask the girl for the number and i knew the opportunity was there and i knew i should have, I wanted to by the anxiety got in the way and i choked out till the opportunity wasn't there no more...

[–]daveofmars0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Fear is the main factor in what's holding you back. You need some exposure therapy, or a life-changing experience to rewire your brain, because things in reality are not nearly as bad as your brain thinks they could be.

Try skydiving or bungee jumping for the quick exposure. Rock climbing is also a great way to go into "monk mode".

But whatever you choose, get out there and feel some real fear.

[–]daveofmars1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A good mantra From Frank Herbert's Dune:

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

hmm... maybe i should... i did like rock climbing the first time i tired it...

things in reality are not nearly as bad as your brain thinks they could be.

a good friend of mine told me this, he reckons I'm not far off achieving my goals, I'm a lot closer than i think I am... but where i sit i feel i'm so far away.

[–]laith_wavy0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You don't have to believe in yourself if you have set up a good process.

Just believe in the process. Eg I don't need to hype myself in the gym I know exactly what exercises at what weights for the exact number of sets and reps.

I know exactly how much protine I need to eat and the number of calories.

I don't trust myself I trust the process will get me there.

The exact same can be done with pick up if you're doing cold approach pick up, do Tyler rsd six steps to social momentum .

If your overly lacking confidence check your diet make sure it's clean and try no fap and no porn.

Fuck pretending to have unshakable confidence all the time I get nervous as well, but it usually goes after a while in the club.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks man...

can you go through what YOUR process is. I don't understand what i've believing in.

[–]Johnny10toes0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Rejection is your goal. Not number closing is 1 of 10 women you needed to not get that night.

10 rejections a night! That's your goal.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

oh yeah...this wasn't my first set of the night... to be honest with you, it was my best ( had about 10 or so other not go so well)

[–]garlicextract0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If it makes you feel any better I have a job and go to the gym and feel similar. I've "internalized" the teachings of TRP but that magical moment that so many here have experienced has not happened to me.

Going to the gym really does help though, start there, and get a job for sure.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

yeah, I've been thinking about it... i don't really have the money to pay for gym right now, but i know i should be doing more exercise... i should go for more walks and i should be doing push ups and sit ups at home

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[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks man...

maybe i should sit down and be really honest and look at each area in my life and see what, how and where i can approve in that area.

[–]ddundly0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Get off your ass, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do it. Read the sidebar. No one is going to hold your hand.

You either man the fuck up, or stay a beta.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

i think your enthusiasm but it's not just black and white for me.

it's not like.. yoru a whiney bitch just go out and talk to girl. I've done that. it needs be more refined advice.

[–]ddundly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Then you are a needy beta. Enjoy.

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[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

it's on my list to read. though i didn't say i was a text book nice guy, I know how to be an asshole when i wanna be

[–]AlphasEatBetas0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I'm out of shape. yes i know i need to hit a gym, yes I have anxiety towards that too

Let's start there yeah? Working out is paramount, and it seems like you realize this. GOOD. As for the anxiety? Get over it. Nike once said "Just do it." Well just fucking do it man. Find yourself a gym that's got a diverse clientele and doesn't cater to ONLY meatheads. LA fitness is this type of a place. All the equipment you need, and you'll see all kinds of people there so you won't feel out of place for being unfit. Lifting and improving your body will help you feel better and more confident about yourself. The endorphin rush will also help you feel better about all things. Now do yourself a favor and STOP BEING A BETA BITCH. The time to make the change is now. Start improving yourself, stop crying about it. Be a man. Take fucking control of your life.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I didn't really like your post then i read

Lifting and improving your body will help you feel better and more confident about yourself. The endorphin rush will also help you feel better about all things.

this is probably the best information i have got in this thread yet. thanks...

I'm always been saying it's not balck and white for me.. but maybe it is :S

[–]AlphasEatBetas0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I hope you didn't find it too insulting, just trying to light the fire under your ass and get you fired up. Claim your manhood! It's yours for the taking if you grab it. But trust me, there's a reason everyone says "you need to lift." It's not just about making your body more attractive, it's about making you feel better and boosting your confidence. You can do it man. I believe in you.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

thanks man... lovely words...

the only way you could offend me is if you told me the Cancuks are the greatest hockey team of all time!

[–]Greglubs-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

Go to the club again. This time ask every girl in the club politely: "excuse me, would you have sexual intercourse with me?"

You will either break down and cry from all the inevitable rejection, or you will learn to have fun with yourself in social settings.

Plus, asking a girl for her number will be way easier than asking for sex.

[–]1edwardhwhite-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Read Intimate Connections by Dr. David Burns. Do all of the exercises for 3 months.

[–]Luckyluke23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks man will look it up

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