TRP has changed my life so much, I could never thank all of you enough - so I want to give a bit back to this amazing place. I'll share some of the main things which made me who I am today.
Take all of this with a grain of salt - not everything that has worked for me will work for you.
A bit over a year ago, I was a horribly AFC. I was hopeless with women and I could see how disgusted they were by me.
Now, I'm married - my wife has no issues with the fact that I have plates, and I often bring one of my plates home for a threesome with the wife - and she often finds girls for me to have sex with. She's VERY submissive and loves it.
For context, I'm from Brazil, I'm 170cm (5'7" and a hair), have a good sense of style, I live in Bulgaria (2 years now), and I make my money doing well-paying IT projects for European companies.
I'm attractive, well trained, and dress well - but I'm no 6ft tall Chad Thundercock.
Moving on, my main lessons have been these:
Control ALL of your emotions
We often speak about holding frame here, but usually in the context of not letting things bother or anger you. Frame is one of the most amazing concepts I have ever encountered.
But I want to remind to do the opposite - don't let yourself show your excitement too much.
A year ago, I had very fast movements - I spoke and acted as if I was always excited about everything. This made a lot of girls suspect me of being gay.
Forcing myself to always be calm, has made women more comfortable around me - as women want you to be the rock they can hold on to, and if you can't control your own body and emotions, how can they expect you to control them?
Deliberately speaking slower and making my voice deeper
A year back, my voice sounded like a schoolgirl on cocaine. By forcing myself to speak slower and deeper I've made my voice into one that girls enjoy and compliment me on.
This will feel very strange for the first few weeks, but after a while - you should get used to it and it will become my natural voice. This will make a world of a difference.
Take care of your skin
Over the past few months, I really started using a lot of skin products which have cleared up my face a lot, and raised the attention I receive from women.
My "ritual" is this:
Washing face with a scrub and an exfoliator when taking showers (I use this little amazing machine here: http://i.imgur.com/oOKVtif.jpg).
Once a week, putting on a mask (they really clear things up!) .
Every day after getting home, cleaning my face with makeup remover and a cotton pad - this clears a LOT of the pollution which would otherwise clog up the pores.
Before going out, I apply a day cream.
Clothes make a HUGE difference. I fucking love blazers
Reading the top posts on /r/malefashionadvice some years back got me a basic understanding of fashion, and since then I've bought a lot of clothes - some of which I threw away, others which I absolutely love. The main things which made a HUGE difference in how good I look has been blazers - really. I don't wear suits as they look overdressed, but a very nice blazer with a dress shirt, or even a t-shirt (as I sometimes have) can make you look AMAZING.
I don't buy many pants and shirts, but I've spent many thousands on blazers - and they truly make a difference between me looking average, and looking amazing.
Do keep in mind though, the blazer must be something unique and interesting, and it MUST fit you - in style, and fitting.
Nothing looks worse on a man than a ill-fitting blazer.
I also advise to stay away from blazers which look too much like a corporate suit. These make you look boring.
This brand - Desizo Monni has THE most beautiful blazers I've ever found here in Bulgaria - click here to see some photos from Google - so I highly recommend something similar in style.
Reading a lot of books, and watching documentaries
This may seem odd as a tip to help you fuck girls, but as I'm a naturally curious person, I love to learn everything about everything. The only thing I have no interest in is learning about animals.
By having read a lot of books, watched a lot of documentaries on many topics, and browsed Wikipedia endlessly - I've gained a good, basic knowledge about many different topics, which makes it very easy for me to keep up conversations about whatever the other person is interested in, making them feel a connection.
I highly recommend Audiobooks while training, instead of music, if you're like me and need some noise (I use http://www.audible.com/) .
Focus on making girls feel good, and have fun
One way I cockblocked myself a lot before has been by focusing too much on how to seduce them, or just focusing too much on having a "good conversation".
I've learned that if you go around with a girl on a date, even aimlessly around the city - while making conversation about anything, poking fun at her, sometimes saying something very "rude" and overly-sexual, will make her have a lot of fun with you, while allowing you to escalate things without her realizing it.
Make her have a good time - and she'll want to be around you more.
Having a "everything is insignificant" attitude
A way of viewing things I've gained some months ago after watching many documentaries about space, is how insignificant we are, and how ridiculous everything is.
We're a life form, on a tiny planet going around a gigantic sun (which is tiny in comparison to other stars), on a solar system which is one of millions, on a galaxy which is one of who knows how many.
We're so meaningless, yet you have people who think they're the goddamn queen of England.
Just realize that everything is ridiculous and insignificant - if a girl rejects you, she'll forget about it within a week. If you get a bill you did not expect, it'll pass.
Don't let yourself get caught up in shitty events - they mean nothing in the large scale of things.
A combination of the 2 points above for me has been that I'll always say what's on my mind - and if I'm with an attractive girl, what's on my mind is usually all the nasty things I want to do to her.
I've learned that when a girl is attracted to you - not only can you can get away with saying a lot of things that would get someone else slapped, but they seem to love it when you make them speechless by saying things almost no other guy would have the balls to say.
I've made many girls blush and keep falling for me simply by staring at them with an "undressing them with my eyes" look, and when they ask me what I'm doing, I simply tell them some way that I want to fuck them like an animal (in good, good detail).
Being straight forward with what I want
Now, in business, with friends, and with girls - i'm very clear about what I want, and I demand that those I interact with are the same.
I often ask people to get to the point when they're beating around the bush, and I keep in mind to show them the same respect and to get straight to the point.
In a business meeting, I make clear demands, and if a deal is not to my liking, I'll walk.
With girls, I show them that either they sleep with me on the second date, or I'll stop seeing them (this has made many girls come back after the second date to fuck me, looking for another chance).
I don't waste my time on girls only interested in my validation and not my dick - and neither should you.
People will respect you a lot more when you're clear with your demands, and when you're someone who demands for others to treat you the same way. Time is the most valuable asset you have, don't waste it by pussyfotting.
Always be willing to walk away. ALWAYS
With my wife, my plates, my business partners, my clients. All of them I'm willing to walk away from in a moment's notice if they do something I truly dislike, or if the relationship sours.
My clients know that while I sell my hours for money - I'll never sell my self-respect. They know that to work with me, they have to be men of their word and who shows respect (and I always do the same).
My wife knows that if she cheats on me with a man, or if she stops being the way she is - I'll leave her in an instant, and that I'd use every single Euro I have to make sure she gets nothing of what I have.
I do not accept disloyalty, I do not accept disrespect. This has, in turn made me into someone whom people respect a great deal.
Keep your promises
If I make a promise, I will go to hell and back to keep it - even if it's not worth it for me anymore, as I want to keep my reputation.
I rarely make promises, but when I do - those around me trust me to keep it.
As a man, your word is as valuable as gold - or dirt. If other men, and women cannot trust you to keep your word - then you are not different than your average female.