Is it normal that I am extremely turned on by the fact I am my gf's first?

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February 1, 2020
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I took her v-card and she's the first virgin I've done that to.

For some reason I find it extremely alluring that no other cock has been inside her besides me. It's like if you went hiking somewhere and found one of those ponds with pristine water where nobody ever swam in before.

I never wanted to go down on any girl before, but with her I feel the urge to taste the goods.

But lately I've been wondering if this type of thinking is harmless. Is it blue pill thinking and I should correct it? Or is it fine that it turns me on?


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Title Is it normal that I am extremely turned on by the fact I am my gf's first?
Author mksu711
Upvotes 85
Comments 54
Date 01 February 2020 07:03 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/318936
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[–]Blue-Raft151 points152 points  (2 children) | Copy

It’s what we all wish we could have. There’s not one guy on the planet that would pick a girl who’s been with 20 guys over a girl who’s been with none in terms of an LTR.

Fuck all that blue pill shit saying N count doesn’t matter, of course it matters. Chicks know it matters or else they wouldn’t be downplaying their number when asked what it is.

[–]babybopp20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Have you watched Nyphomaniac ...

That one girl that tells all the dudes that each of the them was the very best she has ever had...

She probably has been a virgin like five times before.

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[–]Gr33d3ater10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Conversely him being her first will mean nothing to her within a few weekends of “partying”.

[–]BlackMonkey141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depends on her age. If she’s like 16 then yea, but if she’s 19-22 then she’s likely more k bred.

Should look at the mother and her past or lack there of.

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[–]PhaedrusHunt2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

The sex dried up like the Gobe or Sahara desert, whichever is drier.

The Atacama Desert is the driest place on earth. So dry it is more sterile than a surgery room.

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[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn dude. Being skinny fat is like a pussy fan

[–]Qba19941 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

  1. any specific way of giving abundance signals? what’s your mission if I may ask?

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[–]BlamingBuddha0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I know its probably a stupid question for this thread, but what's SMV?

[–]congo19992 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Sexual Market Value, you can read these on the sidebar, I’m a newbie here too

[–]BlamingBuddha2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

You're awesome, thanks

[–]555654t4565550 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Have a look at the main sub - Reddit/TheRedPill

Edit: it’s quarantined so you’ll have to either google it or type in the address directly

[–]dzmisrb430 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What's your career?

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[–]mksu711[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Oh wow I wish this was the top comment so everyone could see

Never thought about it that way. Mind blown.

[–]GonadGravy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just be careful, if you were her first she will eventually get to thinking how she’s only had you and is missing out on the cock carousel. At the very least she will be curious about other guys, it’s only natural.

[–]partiallypretentious48 points49 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you’re the first, then you definitely won’t be the last

[–]tonguexp7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you are first, you will not be the last first.

[–]gyunbie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This.

[–]Joey_Lopez25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

Congrats bro. You are my hero for the new year 🎉👍💪

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[–]Youngyoda891 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit I’m thinking about fucking Mario fighting bowser on Super Nintendo so I don’t blow up in that bitch in 30 seconds.

[–]dani0984 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I ve Heard this lie before. It was a girl telling everybody at a table that she was waiting for marriage as she sat beside. her fiancé.

I was fucking her and fuck her several times prior. Shame

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (6 children) | Copy

I think it’s normal to feel the way that you, but I also don’t think it’s something that we should let ourselves get too excited about. Being a virgin doesn’t make someone more trust worthy or a better person. I mean if it helps get your dick hard and nothing more than that, I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s like having a friend who has got a lot of money and nice things. Are you their friend because they have nice things, or because you enjoy your relationship with them?

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy

If you're looking for a LTR, it does make it easier for the woman to bond with you.

Girls that have slept around a lot have less and less chance of a stable, loving relationship the higher their number gets. Even 5 or so is very detrimental.

So, while it doesn't necessarily make them a "bad person", for a potential LTR, it is not a good quality. Men know this intuitively and it's fully natural for a low sex partner count to be a turn-on.

The only way your advice there is good is for non-committed, purely for fun sex. Only then is the girl being kinda slutty a plus.

[–]send_it_for_the_boys6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

Lol What rocks are you guys picking up that have women with only 0-5 dudes on their count?

[–]chubz4you1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Right. 20 is average in my experience. Heard girls brag about 100+ n-count. Found one with a 3 n-count and am training her well.

[–]GonadGravy0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So she told you she slept with only one guy before you? Or *3x3=9?

[–]send_it_for_the_boys0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck 9 still sounds low from my experience.

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sad, how uncommon it is nowadays, true.

They are out there... Point is, for a LTR, the lower the better.

[–]liquidocean6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

what makes you believe her?

[–]2319Skew5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

There are a lot of guys responding here that are very confused about blue pilled thinking.

I'll probably be downvoted or insulted by most ignorant guys but the answer is this type of thinking is not harmless.

There are two schools of thought. The guys that are looking for a LTR and value a low or no N count woman due to the fact that it's a good green flag and the guys that don't care because they aren't looking to settle down.

Regardless of which camp you are in, it's an ego thing and being someone's first may make YOU fall into a trap of oneitus and putting her on a pedestal.

Let it turn you on and enjoy it but realize that when you step back and see the forest from the trees that it all matters as much or as little as you choose to make it and that investing heavily into that novelty is as blue pilled AF.

[–]Alphainprogress1234 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly. The first girl that I took virginity from, I ended up dating her and marrying her; together about 15 years. I was very alpha the first 6 or 7 years and I think being her first let me get away with a lot of bad behavior that a more experienced girl wouldn't have put up with. But once we got married and had kids and I decided to be more beta because bluepill society told me that was the right thing to do, the major shit tests started and she eventually started cheating. By that point, me taking her virginity didn't mean a thing to her.

I'm glad I got two kids out of her, but if I could do it over I would have enjoyed the sex for a year or two and then moved on.

[–]Qba19940 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

move on to a girl with higher n-count? or what

[–]Logical_Insurance2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

investing heavily into that novelty is as blue pilled AF.

Unless that means a productive life with a loyal woman by your side to raise your children. If you get one-itis, it's bluepilled. Otherwise, good game.

[–]WiterS21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you enjoy it, there is no reason to take a pleasure away.

Virgins don't know how to behave in bed, but they love to be taught, and is a pleasure to train them.

Removing n-count judgment only helps when doing pick up. Is better to not be judgmental about sex, because it hinders you.

But it doesn't means that you should't appreciate virginity.

The problem with women's n-counts, is that a woman always wants something equal or better than she had in the past, and you will never be the best on all; the wittiest, richest, most popular, entertaining, artistically gifted, god in bed, most muscular, tallest, handsomest, and all the things she had in the past, at once. The highest her n-count, the less attachment she will have to you. She will always think of you as lesser in some aspects, and it means that she will be more prone to monkey branching. Even if you still are the best she can get, she will keep cheating to test new waters.

With a virgin, you are the best she ever had.

[–]BlackMonkey141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well it means she’s potentially wife material which is very rare in English speaking and white countries, so yea pretty normal. It’s the best predictor of a relationship lasting.

Just don’t let it hold you hostage.

[–]ArnoldT10002 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like oneitis

[–]AceMav211 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Is it normal to be a virgin ass nigga at 22?

[–]Idontgetitboyz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A lot of people are virgins beyond that age as well

[–]PiperBigBell0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's just your ego trying to make you feel like the man for fulfilling your biological role in optimal conditions. The book sperm wars talks about how men and women sniff and taste each other's genital to test if anyone else has been there, so they know how hard they have to fuck to compete with either giving sperm or receiving sperm (having thin cervical mucus in the vagina).

Virgins however don't turn me on. They can't fuck. Too much work training them. They have all these weird sex beliefs. They're goofy and awkward. Look man don't let your ego convince you of something you're not. While you are her frame of reference, now you've given her the confidence to leave.

[–]tom-anonymous-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

You are the first of many cocks that will be inside that girl. Congrats!

[–]IWantToHelpSometimes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She already got inter dick. In his post history, it indicates they took a "break" from each other.

We all know what that means...

[–]MVWeiss-4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yah

Everyone wanna come first, no one tryna come second

Going down is a submissive act, however at as far as you know you won’t be tasting any other guy’s jizz

[–]LiftHeavyFuckSteady3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I wouldn't call actively deciding to go down on a girl submissive. Can actively take control of her orgasms and raises emotion levels before dominating her pussy doggy.

If she doesn't mind giving head I don't see anything wrong about returning the favor as long as you don't feel obligated to do so.

[–]MVWeiss6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

🤔 there was an excellent article I read about WHY women like to suck their man’s dick and why it’s a good indicator of who has power in relationship will try to find that out to further throw light on your thinking.

You e got most of the picture correct but are missing the key point which that article addresses, mainly about women getting turned on by being able to pleasure their Man selflessly.

[–]LiftHeavyFuckSteady2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Huh that's fairly interesting, never thought about the selfless pleasuring part.

Would be interested to give it a read, since I generally enjoy going down on a girl to reward her for good head and behaviour.

[–]LethalShade0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can you find it? I'm also curious.

[–]omlaule-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are men so obsessed with virgins. I for one would rather have a partner who knows what they are doing which usually comes from experience.



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