A man's first time having sex with you is the opening show. He should pull out all the stops. Lighting and music to set the mood, massage, oral, and obviously an orgasm for you. Total respect. Total passion, pleasure and joy.

What kind of a man fails the first time and thinks that's okay? I'll answer, a man who doesn't give a fuck about you and has no damn sense. He's too dumb for you. Let the streets have him. He's a loser. And sexist.

99% a man who did give me an orgasm the first time gave me an orgasm every time we had sex. But I never had a man who failed to give me an orgasm the first time ever start succeeding either at all or with any regularity, let alone meeting the bare minimum which is me orgasming every time. Just. Like. Him.

Don't have sex with the guy until he proves himself with his hands and his mouth first. Make him WORK for it. If the guy can't make you come without his dick he's probably not going to succeed with it and doesn't care to. It's really fucking easy if they put in effort and time. He should be researching how to be a good lover to a woman.

Women aren't even orgasming anymore than they were back in the 1970s. 50 years ago! 50 years. And now on top of that we're also being expected to put up with anal rape and abuse, being slapped in the face, spat on, called names and insulted and abused. All for the dude's dick. Why? He's already got enough going on for his dick every time he has sex.

It's our turn!

Let him wear the degrading lingerie and gyrate around to turn me on. Let him talk about how he better service me orally because I cooked him dinner or went grocery shopping. Let him dread the anal abuse on his birthday. LOL not really because this is a gross, disgusting and exploitative way to view sex. But this is how low value men think about us and our bodies. And they show it with their treatment of us in sex.

Sex is the most intimate and vulnerable area of our lives. And it is where women are most exploited and abused.

Equality starts in the bedroom.