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Learn to shut the hell up. Never talk about your sexual experiences, even when asked.

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October 24, 2020

Iron Rule of Tomassi # 2

NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.

When guys who have been sexually / emotionally deprived all their life start committing to self improvement and actually see some results with women, they fuck it up by talking too much. They get laid and blab all about it.

A potential new plate asks them questions like "How many girls are you sleeping with?" or "When was the last time you had sex?" and these newly Matrix-escapees do the worst thing you could possibly do when a woman asks you a question: Answer seriously.

You think telling this woman that you had sex yesterday or that you have a high number count is going to impress her, and actually.... it kind of does. She calls you a player, a fuckboy (which by the way is a fantastic compliment).

But then she doesn't sleep with you.


By revealing any detail, no matter how small, about your sexual experiences, you have shown to this woman that you talk, and that you will talk about her.

She may seem impressed and call you a fuckboy, but now her anti-slut defence has kicked in massively. Her desire for casual sex now has a potential to be leaked to the public because you have just shown her that you will likely speak about your sexual experiences with her to another person.

Never. Ever. Talk about your sex life. Even to most male friends. Nothing good comes out of it.

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Title Learn to shut the hell up. Never talk about your sexual experiences, even when asked.
Author Simptopimp-co-uk
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Date 24 October 2020 07:53 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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[–]strikethrough123236 points237 points  (15 children) | Copy

I agree that you shouldn’t reveal your n-count. But many women (especially young women) are very interested about wild sexual experiences. I have plenty of stories to tell, and the girls I sleep with love them.

The only downside I see to this is if you are trying to use these stories to impress her, she will see through this. Only speak of these things after you fuck her, if she seems like the type to be interested in such things, a lot are.

[–]Gardener4Life4ever76 points77 points  (2 children) | Copy

Talking to a girl you ALREADY fucked is different than one you haven't. IDK why OP misses this point.

[–]lovatoariana34 points35 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because its a shitpost with no actual thought or experience on the topic

[–]Zech4riah68 points69 points  (5 children) | Copy

I agree that you shouldn’t reveal your n-count. But many women (especially young women) are very interested about wild sexual experiences. I have plenty of stories to tell, and the girls I sleep with love them.

Exactly. One of my plates was so intrigued that she called me next day and asked me to finish my story which was interrupted when she had to hurry up to the bus.

I think OP isn't too experienced yet and is just echoing the basic framework others have put out to give guidance to newbies.

[–]MicksPickle16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

Reads like a virgin just finished rational Male

[–]RmX93-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Books like this aren't for everyone I guess

[–]idonthavtitsbcimaguy37 points38 points  (2 children) | Copy

You guys are seriously missing the much larger point of act, don't speak. Show, don't tell. Or as Tomassi says it, COVERT not OVERT. When you overtly disclose your sexual escapades you are blatantly throwing this in the trash. It's a viable strategy to keep getting laid, if that's your goal. But if you truly want to be a winner with both men and women you need to learn to shut the fuck up. Act, don't speak. Want god tier frame? Don't talk about your sexual escapades, let other people do it for you. Imagination is powerful, secrecy and mystery is how you live rent free in it.

[–]Zech4riah2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

nah, you are the one missing. Covert and overt, acting and talking are not mutually exclusive. Everything depends on the relationship stage, of the girl, your SMV etc.

Your statement is true in it's vagueness and good place to start when you are new to spinning plates and you should always go with "action first" principle and guide girl with your behavior. But at certain point you can start verbalizing things - for example talking about sexual experiences. As an example - I usually talk about threesomes quite early to feel her out and set the seed in her head and get her thinking about possibility of threesome.

I'm kind of getting tired of newbies spitting out these binary statements as universal truths. It's ok in the context of announcing basic red pill theory but it's not too cool to bash on more experienced guys who bring up exceptions to the rules.

[–]EagleAtHeart1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only for 'before' sex, 'after' sex is a whole other deal entirely, like Zech4riah said. And really it depends on the woman. Every woman has her own special kinks, both physical and mental.

[–]__TheDon__12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Key words here “after you fuck her”.

I still wouldn’t advise speaking of past sexual experiences. You can hint at something crazy that you’ve done (hookup in the airplane bathroom for example) but I wouldn’t dive into details.

Let her mind wonder fellas.

[–]sehns3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yep, it also depends on the girl. If she's super cool and open minded sexually then it's fine. If she's more timid then learn to keep your fucking mouth shut. It's basic social skills

[–]JameisBong2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

you are trying to use these stories to impress her, she will see through this

Exactly. Don't try to impress her. Always demonstrate not explicate.

[–]Xkirbyx1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

60 percent of the time it works everytime

[–]thrwy754790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There's a way to do this though.

You shouldn't go into details, and you never show all your cards.

It should be enough for her to know you've been there, done that, and she's not with a virgin.

[–]GunnerIronPile85 points86 points  (3 children) | Copy

I never kiss and tell, said with slight smirk, ignites the hamster

[–]ChummyChad13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

I will be stealing this line

[–]GunnerIronPile39 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

Less is more. Here is another one to steal

Its complicated

Couple years ago, I met a lady at a corporate event. She tracked me down the next day and asked me to drinks because Game. Nothing much materialized and then I'd even see her on the circuit and while she was flirty, she loved attention more than the D.

Thus, the next time I saw her was on a 3 day junket, I was polite but not much attention to give her. Ignored her texts to meet for lunch. Spent time at cocktail parties in view chatting other women. Standard soft next.

Two weeks later I got a long message asking if everything was allright because I seemed distracted and distant and is there anything she did wrong etc

Wrote her back Its complicated


Plate for life

[–]Aesthetic_God__4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can say this and then talk about sexual experiences you've had without mentioning names. Just the experience, I enjoy the looks on their faces when I tell them how I fucked no name girl doggy, or if they are friends with the girl I fucked they love to know more and fuck my dick.

[–]1RevolutionaryPea724 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with this. A gentleman never discloses details of his private life. The only people who do are insecure and are trying to maintain a façade. They are almost always lying and any numbers are exaggerated. You should be confident in who you are and maintain a private life, not a façade.

[–]Zech4riah47 points48 points  (5 children) | Copy

Never. Ever. Talk about your sex life. Even to most male friends. Nothing good comes out of it.

I guess having sex is something really special to you. It never hurt me to discuss my past sexual experiences with my plates. With some plates the discussion has been really vague and with some I've gone into specifics but I've never mentioned any names or number of women I've slept with.

With my male friends we talk about sex when there is something new/special worth mentioning but we react to discussion like it's weather forecast. It's normal and there is nothing special about - like listening to weather forecast.

Anyway you have to know when and with whom you can have these conversations. Every girl is different. When you are advanced enough, you can start breaking rules. Some day you will get it too.

EDIT: In some situations I think it's even a mandatory to talk about sexual experiences. Sometimes girls need a bit of a persuasion to have 3some and I've noticed that a great way to do it is to tell the positive experiences about 3somes and of the actual situation.

[–]nananaNate85 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

I genuinely get annoyed as fuck hearing a friend try bragging about sex, i dont wanna hear it. Anyone can get laid and have crazy sex stories and if you seem to gain a lot of value from telling them, its sad.

[–]Zech4riah0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I genuinely get annoyed as fuck hearing a friend try bragging about sex, i dont wanna hear it.

Bragging is a different thing. You sound like a guy who thinks every story is about bragging (maybe that's all you know).

Anyone can get laid and have crazy sex stories


if you seem to gain a lot of value from telling them, its sad

It's fun to talk about sexual experiences but the thing is that I choose carefully with whom I talk about them. In my circles there is only 3-4 dudes who I can talk openly about sexual experiences without them getting jealous or thinking that I'm bragging. These guys are also the ones who get laid regularly. With others I don't share if I had special kind of ONS, 3some or something other I consider worth sharing because they think like you do...that I "brag".

Now, take a look into mirror and think why you consider someone is bragging and why you get annoyed. My experience is that when guys realize that you are an experienced guy, bragging stops right away and a shift happens to peer-to-peer discussion OR even they try to qualify themselves to you by sharing all the sexual encounters. I'd assume you are not there yet. Your peers don't consider you as a guy who is successful with women - perhaps because results aren't ensuring enough.

EDIT: Oh and this group of 3-4 guys most of the time ask themselves if I have a new story to tell. So basically they initiate the topic because they know I usually have something interesting to say.

[–]nananaNate80 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The experience i was thinking in my head was a new friend and it seemed like he was trying to qualify himself as a dude who gets laid all the time. I know my bros can get laid and i hype them up when they get a new one theyre proud of. I dont need to hear you tell me 5 sex stories in a row though

[–]Zech4riah0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The experience i was thinking in my head was a new friend and it seemed like he was trying to qualify himself as a dude who gets laid all the time.

So he is qualifying himself to you. Why are you so upset? Why don't you just enjoy your position in the top of the hiearchy?

If I told you 5 interesting stories regarding travel, investing, entrepreneurship or maybe some sports which you have some interest in, would you be annoyed? Probably not. But suddenly if I told you 5 stories regarding sex, you would be annoyed? I just don't get why are you so annoyed to talk casually about sex. Usually it has something to do with a mans ego. (and like I said, I carefully choose with whom I talk about sex, for example in your case I wouldn't be telling even the first story).

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Or don't answer seriously. She asks "how many girls have you slept with" and you say "what today?" Or she asks "when is the last time you had sex" and you say "oh I'm a Virgin" then wink. Just don't give a straight answer and be playful

[–]Endorsed ContributorRedPillDad11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sex is abundant for women and scarce for all but a few men. You've had 20 partners over the years? She can pull that off in a month, a week if she wants to. Getting a man into bed isn't a woman's challenge, keeping them in a relationship is.

She'll act the wholesome pretender, but her chasteness is as fake as everything else about her. She hides her mileage while resenting the latest crop of untainted youthful gals and the increasingly rare good women who don't 'empower' themselves through hookups.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

That’s true man, women don’t want to hear that a girl gave u a blow job with ice cubes in her mouth.

[–]Rkingpin8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

blow job with ice cubes in her mouth.

One small comment, one giant leap of inspiration for me

[–]ChummyChad14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even tho I’ve racked up close to 25+ and friends insisted on me opening up about myself and ask about my escapades cuz I’m seen as the player with the stories, I’m slowly starting to see how talking about it to my friends (including just guy groups) is getting to them. Even if you’re crushing AND ASKED ABOUT it, people get annoyed for you. It can trigger some jealousy.

I’m also 28 and friends are slowly getting blue pilled (relationships, and talks of marriage and leaving the game) even tho they were red through most of their 20s

[–]chateauhearstielive7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is insanely on the money. Had a ONS a few days ago with a new plate from Hinge. Followed this advice, among other things to a T and banged a younger (21yo) HB7 within 4 days of matching and 4 hours of meeting. She HOUNDED me about my n count!

So we meet up for drinks 7.30 weds... SHIT TEST: within an hour beforehand she tries to push the date 15 mins back. I hold frame and keep it at 7.30 “let’s do 7.30. That’s when the reservation is for. Haha” She says “Ok!:)” And ends up getting there before ME (with wet hair - rushed appearance).

When we got there she said she researched my background and my criminal record. And my social media to see if it matched my profile. She found my accounts complimentary, and no criminal history. As a black man(28) 7 years her (21 W) senior this was notable. undoubtedly a filtering mechanism regardless of race/age.

I made a small riff off of one of her stories that I had no nipples at birth, and that I tattooed nipples. I did this to get her to picture me with my shirt off. I teased her about this later after she saw my normal chest.

She talked and talked. I buttered her with drinks and listened. When the restaurant closed I asked for the check and gently invited her to my house. She asked if it was an apartment or house. (It was half a block from the meetup. Literally on my street. I said “it’s a house-parment, idk you tell me.” As I got up and led her to my place.

It was literally a 40 second walk. She tells me she almost cancelled the date at 7. I laugh and said “I wasn’t when showered at 7. “ “And I cancelled a date Monday night, so I get it.” Shower true. Canceled date, lie. (actually someone flaked on me the night before). Lol @ dating apps

We get to my house and my roommate is there with a neighbor in the kitchen. Instead of rushing into my room. I introduce her. Talk for 15 mins til they start jamming instruments. And smoothly say. “Let me show you my room.”

She followed and gave my space a once over. Complimented my bed. And stood in Front of my full length mirror admiring inspirational quotes on the mirror frame. I grabbed her tits and joked about the quotes to lighten the mood.

TLDR: the moment we got hot and heavy it it snapped in her mind what happened. LMR KICKED IN. She asked how many girls I’ve brought there. Bc it’s so close to my place to the restaurant. She wasn’t planning to do this. Musicians don’t seem sexual and she’s surprised. How many girls have you brought there? Blah blah

Then she KEPT asking “how many women? How many women?”I blankly responded “I don’t know.” “I forgot”... keep escalating... “I used to count when I was younger”... keep escalating...

Eventually she realized I had normal nipples. Lol

The number of partners was a constant theme almost to annoyance. I let her paint her own picture. Since I seemed like a “bachelor” in her own words and I’m in good shape, so meh. Just let her imagine she’s having a ONS with whoever she thinks she is.

Absolutely don’t answer this question. If the number is Too high. Too low. It can only go wrong because she’s “just another #” if you say a specific one. They’re persistent about it too. I’ve also had success with “<100.” (Less than 100) as a response. But that was in the nightclub scene in my college days.

Great work OP. (Sorry if this is overly detailed) her LMR was “how many? many? ... how many?” Truth be told if she were hotter I may not have have handled it as well. Thanks to posts like this, I had another fun night. Thanks Everyone for reading.

[–]z2a1-92 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There are many basic answer to this as stated in the sidebar, such as:

"I don't kiss and tell"

"I lost count after 50"

I does depend on the woman you are with, but the above should keep you golden.

[–]bouncypoo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

After you fuck it’s free game . Women get jealous soooo easily . Competition gets em wet . Just plain moist

[–]1meerita10 points11 points  (11 children) | Copy

Now, start giving examples how to avoid this shit test. Most of the articles agree and tell the same: never tell, but these articles, including your post never tell others how to avoid this. Remember women give ultimatums all the time when they feel you're trying to dodge.

[–]Marcozy145 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

You can go with the typical ‘i don’t kiss and tell’ response, (with a smirk of course, if you say it with a straight face, it looks as though you’ve fucked so many girls you may have syphillis)

if she starts prying, which she will, you can elaborate a bit. you don’t have to, but you can, for the sake of revealing where you actually stand in the male hierarchy .

“I don’t like talking about this bc to me it’s not important. whether you’ve only been with 2 guys, or 15 guys, it doesn’t matter.” (i use a low number like 15, but when i say it, i say it as if it’s high. i say ‘2 guys’ with a dull tone to show its small, and i say ‘15 guys’ with a higher pronounced tone to imply it’s a large number. why? because most girls have slept with 15 or more... so it’ll instantly and subconsciously make her insecure about her real number, instantly realizing that she will have to lie when it’s her turn to reveal her n count, and she’s more likely to drop the subject.

if she keeps trying to squeeze it out of you, stay in frame and don’t throw any numbers out. you can say something like

‘well i will tell you this. most girls i go on dates with, i don’t sleep with.” her- ‘why not’

“eh because i’ve learned over the years that it just makes things difficult. if i know it’s not going anywhere, and usually i can tell on the first date, it makes things much harder to break off. I try to be picky and selective with who i bring home. when i was a teenager, yea, i was young, and i just wanted to hook up with girls. but now i’m definitely a lot more picky”

what this does is now create a little competition in her mind. ‘so if he likes me, he’ll invite me to his house... if he doesn’t like me, he won’t’. subconsciously, she will now try to get to your house after the date, because you’re slowly showing that YOU are the prize. and that YOU decide if sex happens, not the girls you date. YOU turn down women because you know if they aren’t good enough, there won’t be a second date. subtly showing her that you’re an alpha amongst all these little thirsty betas.

[–]csci250guy4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

“I don’t like talking about this bc to me it’s not important. whether you’ve only been with 2 guys, or 15 guys, it doesn’t matter.” (i use a low number like 15, but when i say it, i say it as if it’s high. i say ‘2 guys’ with a dull tone to show its small, and i say ‘15 guys’ with a higher pronounced tone to imply it’s a large number. why? because most girls have slept with 15 or more... so it’ll instantly and subconsciously make her insecure about her real number, instantly realizing that she will have to lie when it’s her turn to reveal her n count, and she’s more likely to drop the subject."

The way you explained your tone. Tone is arguably more important than what you actually say, especially to women. Wish there were more posts like this on the internet.

[–]antidoxthroway5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy

"i dont kiss and tell" practice being witty.

[–]rad_dynamic3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

Common man, this isn't how normal conversations work. They can see you avoiding the number and will ask multiple times over & over. Witty is nothing to it. You just have to keep saying I'm not telling you until they get bored. Usually if they're really into finding out my n-count, I tell them it's up to them to figure it out based off my behaviour & that I never tell anyone my number.

[–]antidoxthroway4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Them asking over and over is the opposite of a problem, youre doint something very right. Some chicks ask once and you can be witty and end it, if theyre REALLY into it, like you said, keep frame untill they get bored

[–]1chopping_livers4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

You're throwing her in an ocean with no land in sight. Give her your boundaries. Tell her these questions were fun in the beginning, but it's starting to irritate you. Either she knocks it off or you find more exciting things to spend your time on.

And actually stick with what you say.

Don't be a retard and make it as a threat or come over as butthurt, however.

This way you are putting boundaries in the wast, frightening ocean and it in time becomes a friendly and cosy pool she enjoys dipping her cardio bunny body in.

[–]rad_dynamic0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You can quite clearly see me setting a boundary of "that I never tell anyone my number." They almost always never bring it up again.

[–]1chopping_livers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're being autistic about it.

The more you have to stress this the more they know you lack the experience to deal with shit.

Don't get me wrong, it shows some value if it mostly isn't brought back up again. Good for you.

But for the times they do, they are "quite clearly" disrespecting your boundaries, aren't they? Until you acknowledge that and point it out, you're translating lack of skill to handle this shittest.

Dude, take this personal and try it out. You're here to grow, right?

[–]Ashes_ASV1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I usually go with " I don't bang and brag!" Has never failed me.

Edit :typo

[–]sawyer941172 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What's sad is that most guys get into the PUA lifestyle to get closer to women and most of the advice - which admittedly works - has to do with keeping one's distance. Like there has to be an emotional distance for the physical distance to be removed.

So women have many an opportunity for the intimacy men crave but if men are found seeking it they'll be shooting themselves in the foot. In other words women have what men want but if men ask for it they can't get it.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

She may seem impressed and call you a fuckboy,

Is this term used interchangeably? Most girls I know use it to describe thirsty dudes. Most dudes are never going to have a high n count anyway. So it's probably about the ones that try a lot. That's how it is everywhere I've read it.

[–]Trp272727213 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fuckboy = code for guy who has sex with lots of women

As society we are told the term ‘fuckboy’ is a bad thing but every individual knows what it really means. It’s just a new version of the word ‘player’.

Girls want guys that have sex with lots of other women even if they don’t explicitly say it. They will instantly view you as more attractive when they find out you have a high N count. They don’t want to be with the guy who can’t get any.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Fuckboy = code for guy who has sex with lots of women

This guy will always exist in minority numbers. That is why I suspect they use it interchangeably since most guys don't make it to that level.

[–]Happy_Soup4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

“I don’t kiss and tell.” Classy and helps create trust in your intimacy. Gossiping in general can bite you in the ass anyways.

I personally don’t even keep track of my number though so I couldn’t honestly answer. Just give a ballpark estimate.

[–]bestsparkyalive3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I never thought about it like this. That is an excellent way to frame it. You're not revealing it out of respect for her at the end of the day... That's classy.

[–]DTron23321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah it’s not smart to try and brag about it, or be obnoxious about, but revealing sexual experiences with past women in my experience has done me wonders. Instead of talking about the women, I say I like this, or this is what I love doing... I take it through my frame. If she asks me what kind of girls I’m into, well I tell her. Simple as that. She asks me how freaky I am? I will usually give some bait to attract or straight up tell her I will fuck the stupid out of her 🤷🏻‍♂️ it doesn’t matter, if a women wants you enough that’s not much you can do wrong, trust me.

[–]fuddubandha1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I met a post wall 45 liberal single mom, who spilled her own beans about guys and sexual experiences with me. As the talk continued by the end of the talk I was feeling so disgusting as she was talking about the past experiences as well as guys and still talking about what she wants from a next guy. I told her straight that basically you were hookup type of gurl who is still fucking her ex and looking for new guy to be different. She was executive for este Lauder. She blamed me for not pursuing her and not buying her tea Starbucks then blocked me.

[–]girlpearl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My boyfriend had a "list" with "ratings" that I saw. I was on it, around 3/4 to the end. There's probably around 30 women on it.

We've been together 7 years. Don't worrry guys. She'll probably think it's hot

Edit: not the list lol the list is pretty cringe. I just mean your past in general. If she asks then she asked for it. Nothing you can do about the end result. Would denying her REALLY be better anyway? Imagine her response to that instead of what she asked for.

[–]Lurkingnopost2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP is being overly simplistic and overgeneralizing. I once had a woman ask me my most enjoyable blowjob experience because she wanted to top it. She was not worry at all about my talking about her. At all.

I have noticed on this sub that many posters are throwing low effort or simply incorrect statements up just to karma whore lately.

[–]buttgoogler0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Eventhough I do agree that you shouldn't brag about your past shenanigans to anyone, sometimes you can still share a funny story or two while drinking beer with your buddies or whatever.

[–]McBlakey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've experienced the opposite of this. Not saying the principle isn't valid, but my experience has been different. I'm talking about older women when I say this, maybe that makes a difference?

[–]Thizzlebot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yah I know not to do it and keep doing it with the same result. Just stfu!

[–]spartanblood10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I wish i knew this earlier

[–]1arakouzo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Women like stories both among each other and occasionally with guys, but only casual guys not boyfriend prospects. If you're a boyfriend prospect, hide and be vague with your sex history because there is no right answer that won't seem like you're either qualifying yourself in her frame or less of a man than she initially thought, neither one of which is good.

But if you're a fun casual guy in her world, fun stories are okay, but just stories, not information.

Girl sex stories go something like, "Oh yeah. I dated a guy once who was into that. One time we did that in the parking lot behind my office. I was so nervous!"

No names. No number of times or number of guys. No specific time when it happened. No specific description of positions or foreplay or graphic acts other than she "dated a guy who was into that". Just the story that makes her seem fun, not the information itself.

If and only if you are a fun casual guy, if she starts swapping stories, vague stories of your own that are similar can be fun for her. Not information, just stories.

[–]RagingMayo0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Does this also count for virgins? 29-year-old virgin here. I am not expecting to get laid anytime soon anyway, but I wonder if it would bring any harm to tell a woman before that I haven't had sex before.

[–]Dark_Nate1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm no virgin but... There are women out there that I call virgin hunters. They want to fuck virgin men so there's that. My ex was one.

[–]RagingMayo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh well, I haven't heard of that, but I am from Germany.

[–]TrenWarrior0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pure Gold... i always tell my boys they need to STFU.... stop bragging about getting laid... by this broad or that broad... word spreads quickly especially amongst females.

[–]onlycrazypeoplesmile0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Huge difference between bragging and being open/honest. If you don't answer the question or you lie, you ain't ready for a partner.

[–]ShawnSimoes1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her desire for casual sex now has a potential to be leaked to the public because you have just shown her that you will likely speak about your sexual experiences with her to another person.

You're just wrong about this. Most women don't care. Certainly not to the extent that you imagine. If they know you've slept with a lot of desirable women, it only works to your benefit.

Yes, there are situations where it might be a better idea to just shut up about this stuff, depending on the dynamics of your social circle, particularly if you happen to have many mutual acquaintances.

But for the most part... no. This isn't the big deal you're making it out to be.

[–]Inappropriate_Comma0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've always communicated openly and honestly with *all of my partners*. If they hit me up during the week to hang out and I have a conflicting date with another woman I'll even happily tell them that. The way I see it is everyone deserves the opportunity to decide for themselves if they are OK with that kind of lifestyle. There are plenty of plates to fill your cabinets with out there, but the biggest lesson I've learned is the more honest I am with myself and my partners, the more I attract open-minded humans into my life. Any woman who doesn't sleep with me because of my honesty is simply a bullet dodged in my book.

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[–]isthisalreadyused9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mgtow might be more your speed, partner

[–]aloneseeker-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

how do you explain an STD where someone lied to you, how to describe the situation and still maintain frame, any advice?

[–]mugatucrazypills-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

> But then she doesn't sleep with you.

Not been my experience.

although the strongest endorsement(since anything you claim will be discounted) will come from seeing another woman trying to sleep with you, they go insane at that point.

[–]oooKenshiooo-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeha, IMHO Rollo is dead wrong about that part. Maybe back in his day that was a thing, but my experience is quite the oppsite.

I always reveal my n-count when asked. I first start out with "probably way more than you" and if she presses on, I will tell her straight away. (My n-count is high double digits and during my man-slut times I would probably have had sex on the same day already.)

It has NEVER cost me any pussy. Ever.

[–]Magicus1-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s funny, because women always assume, correctly, that I have a lot of sexual experience.

They usually figure it out when I know how to turn them on, what buttons to press, and how to takeoff their bra incredibly quickly with only one hand.

They try to walk me into a trap by saying things like:

”Woah! You’ve got a lot of experience.”


”Someone knows what they’re doing.”

At which point the only correct answer is what they want to hear: I’ve been a lot of long term relationships.

They don’t want to know how many threesomes you’ve been in, they don’t want to know how many girls you’ve been back to back, they don’t want to know about the time you were overseas, and they definitely don’t want to know about all the pictures you have stashed somewhere.

In fact, they would ironically think you were disgusting.

Tell them what they want to hear: relationships.

It’s, after all, how she learned to suck a mean d¡ck — “relationship sex”.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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