Quick field report here. Had a fun/interesting date last night that I'd like to share.

Initial Contact

Last Wednesday I matched with a girl on Hinge, 23 YO cute blonde HB8 former sorority type with a nice athletic body.

We matched around 8 PM and messaged over the course of a few hours. By the fourth message we were talking about meeting, and I snagged her number before going to bed, telling her that I'd hit her up soon.

I texted her the next day (Thursday) for logistics only and scheduled a date for Saturday night at 7:30. Like I've written in previous posts, make the date no more than 72 hours out. On Saturday afternoon, I pinged her with my usual "Hey, I'm still down to meet tonight." Maybe that seems needy to some of you, but if she's gonna flake I wanna know so I can make other plans. She confirmed that she was still down though, so I let her know that I'd text her when I head out (important - I suspect many girls don't even leave their homes until you confirm that you're en route).

Date

I live in a major city where nightlife is more or less nonexistent due to Covid. The few outdoor bars require advance reservations. It's a huge pain in the ass.

Instead I took this opportunity to experiment with a new idea. Rather than going for the typical drink at a bar, I met her at a waterfront park. Brought a blanket and some wine. She seemed to really like the idea when I first proposed it. It was a good vibe - lots of college kids in the city were down there drinking as well. Kino was a breeze because we were sitting so close together on the blanket.

After an hour or whatever it was, I really needed to use the bathroom...and I mean badly. This not being a bar, of course there were no toilets around, and eventually it got to the point where I just couldn't hold it (pro-tip: don't drink a ton of water + have a cup of coffee before doing a date like this). I told her something like "hey, hate to cut things short, but I need to go to the bathroom really badly." I couldn't even think about escalating or anything at this stage - all I could think about was how I was going to relieve myself.

Fortunately she made things easy for me and offered to let me use the bathroom at her place since she lived close by.

Sealing the Deal

After taking a nice long piss, we chatted in her room a bit and get on the subject of first impressions. She tells me I'm intimidating.

"Why's that?" I ask.

"Because you're hot as fuck."

Obviously we start making out furiously, and here's where it gets interesting. As I start taking her clothes off, she starts hitting me with the usual LMR/ASD fare - "I don't have sex on the first date," "This is my one rule," "I don't want to be a one-night stand," etc. But while her words said one thing, her body language and tone indicated something totally different. She said it playfully; I could tell she didn't really mean it.

I backed off just a little bit and said something like "yeah?" as if I was only half listening. We chit chatted a bit, but I kept up kino by lighting stroking her hand. When our faces got close, I waited for her to kiss me, which she soon did. This back-and-forth went on for some time, with her continuing to insist that we weren't going to have sex.

Eventually when we started kissing again, I gently tugged a fistful of her hair, which made her moan a bit.

"Oh you like that , huh?"

"Yeah. I like domination."

"Yeah? What about this?" I said, putting my hand around her throat and pressing lightly.

"Yessss"

I withdrew again, just giving her little kisses. "You're thinking about what it going to be like, aren't you?"

"Yeahhhh"

I teased her a bit more before I took her by the throat and shoved her down into the bed, then pinned her arms back above her head. She fucking loved it. In the heat of the moment, I got up and yanked her pants off. This time she didn't resist. Before I entered her, I made her beg for it.

"Please Daddy, give it to me, I need it..."

Takeaways

Hot Girls Are Easier: For some of you, this field report might not be that interesting. Honestly I don't feel like I did much to get in her pants. This girl made it pretty easy compared with others who were much less attractive. YMMV, but in my experience, hotter girls are generally easier to lay and more fun to be with in general.

Hinge: I checked out the Hinge sub to see how many other people are getting SNLs. By and large, it seems that the bloopers over there are waiting multiple dates or even months before having sex. Fuck that noise.

Don't be boring: Due to the pandemic, I've been experimenting with different date ideas that aren't the usual "sitting at a table in a generic bar." I think the wine and blanket park date excited her because it was different. Think outside of the box.

ASD/LMR: I'm still not convinced that these concepts are real. On some level, this girl wanted the D from the moment she met me. Clearly she knew the implications of inviting me back to "use the bathroom." If anything, the "LMR" was just a minor shit test. Probably she also wanted to convince me (and herself) that she wasn't "easy." She had already put in a lot of legwork by bringing me back. Now it was up to me to "wear her down" (as she would later put it) and make the actual sex my doing.

Many guys get very confused on this point. I think there's a difference between a girl giving a shit test in the bedroom and a girl who is genuinely hesitant about fucking you. In the first scenario, she'll be playful, and her body language will indicate that she's very much into the thought of banging. It's token resistance.

But when a girl is hesitant, she'll take on a flat, business-like tone of voice, and her body language won't be receptive. She just isn't that into the thought of banging you. There's not enough genuine desire. In these cases, I terminate the interaction. I have neither the patience nor the desire to bang a girl who isn't desperate to bang me back.