Have most guys on married red pill discover red pill before or after marriage?

man_in_the_world · 2020-10-28T02:34:32+00:00

Me: reddish since my teenage years, long before The Matrix movie and the World Wide Web...

I married because I wanted to raise a family, and I was fine with the idea of partnering for life with a good woman and mother of my children whom I also liked and loved. I dated with that in mind, found one, married her, and raised the family of kids that I wanted. I remain pleasantly married to her 35+ years later.

Marry only if raising a family is one of your personal life missions and goal. If it is, select a woman appropriate both for that goal and your relationship goals. Become and forever remain a man capable of attracting and retaining the desire, respect, and affection of such women. MRP teaches you some of the realities of doing so.

If it isn't a goal, or you aren't yet such a man, don't marry.

rn7889 · 2020-10-28T01:45:48+00:00

1 year into my marriage and I couldn’t figure out why even though I did all the chores, cooked, cleaned, stayed up late for events I hated, sacrificed my hobbies, ignored my own needs, etc..She still wouldn’t fuck me. He a realization that I married hot and put it on a pedestal. It took 1 hour of reading red pill philosophy for my entire life to make sense. I was pissed. Angry and felt lied to. Went through Rambo real bad. Leveled out a little bit a year or two later. No where near perfect, but having the blinders off has changed everything.

ancient_resistance · 2020-10-28T02:14:31+00:00

Why are guys who are red pill married?

MRP is red pill on hard mode. I want strength. Strength takes challenge. Constant, evolving, unrelenting challenge. My wife provides that better than any tinder thot could.

I’m 24 and wondering about my future.

So what do YOU want?

Rock_Granite · 2020-10-28T02:10:42+00:00

I don't think most guys are red pilled, whether they are married or not. Most men are blue pilled white knights.

Some married guys get red pilled when their wife's stop fucking them. But most men never make the transition to red pill.

Cam_Winston21 · 2020-10-28T11:30:58+00:00

Married, then found.

After vetting her for almost a decade, I married a southern submissive woman of faith with an n-count of me who had been a wonderful help meet. After many great years of marriage, I thought she had become a woman of lower value (lazy, weight gain, lazy and lazy) & found this place after doing a search on "no longer find my wife attractive" and going down a click-hole. Come to find out, her issue wasn't laziness but rather a severe vitamin D deficiency. Basically turned her into the female version of a guy with single-digit T-levels. My issue was that I took my foot of the pedal as a response & basically had unplugged (aka, f@ggot).

After I read most of the sidebar + she got her health in line, it's been bliss. Only 'change' for me was to put my foot back on the gas. Changes for her include losing 20+ lbs, joining me at the gym and performing lots of fellatio upon request/demand. God, I love BJ's. Last 5 years have been better than ever and she says so consistently. Previous 25 were pretty good, low D levels & a temporary case of f@ggotry from me were really the only problems.

I'm a better man for being married to her, I have a wonderful family and life is good. I vetted well.

InChargeMan · 2020-10-28T11:20:53+00:00

I like being married.

RicoDunne · 2020-10-28T12:00:35+00:00

I found the RP and MRP after I got married a second time. The RP stories about beta males getting the short end was the story of my first marriage. It was like Rollo was spying on me and writing about it. I had some alpha moments in the first marriage but it ended anyways. I made myself a beta by falling for the PC crap that TV and magazines were putting out about gender equalism.

The wife had nothing to do with it, and actually I don't think she was happy with it either. Looking back its obvious, but at the time my BP decisions/lifestyle seemed to be the norm due to social conditioning. My father was an old school guy, so it wasn't learned from him. Hypergamy took over and we broke up.

Getting zero'd out does require some reflection on how to do better. I made some course corrections even without knowing about RP and got remarried. Some corrections were RP like and some weren't, but it wasn't enough for complete satisfaction for me or for her.

I found the RP, for reasons other than marriage, and stayed to learn more about myself and society. I have implemented MRP ideals in my marriage, some smoothly and some awkwardly resulting in a happy and stable relationship now. MRP works for men. If the man is happy, the wife will be too.

Would I get married again? Yes I would, because I understand the system's strengths and weakness. It's no guarantee of anything, but understanding the real playing field helps.

P.S. Married a total of 30 years (10 first time and 20+ current woman).

business---travel · 2020-10-28T02:19:30+00:00

You spend a lot of time over at TRP... I would stop that...

Hit the sidebar over here, lift heavy, develop a mission, and you can then choose what you want in your life.

SteveSan82 · 2020-10-28T06:29:29+00:00

After marriage. TRP is really the only reason I’m not divorced yet since my wife completely changed once I began implementing TRP.

Only problem is she still remembers me when I was a blue pilled beta bitch which I can see at times. I still haven’t fully applied everything though. So who knows How long this marriage will last.

good_looking_man · 2020-10-28T13:34:15+00:00

For me there was many aspects of red pill that I learned at different points in my life (most important ones I'm learning now at age 47). So it isn't a matter of learning it before or after.

For instance, 30 years ago I learned the hard way (after my first girlfriend) that a girl will look down on you and take you for granted if you put her up on a pedestal. So I stopped doing this before I met my wife. It's one reason she said I stood out from the other guys.

The lifting and its benefits with women also seemed obvious for Gen-Xers growing up (at least in my area). My V-taper and shoulders were one of the things my wife said she was drawn to in the beginning.

I also understood early on that women were just as shitty as men when it came to temptation, but usually in cases where the other guy was more attractive in some way compared to the guy she was with. So I learned to be attractive and not unattractive early on (although I started letting myself go 5 years ago).

My biggest mistake was believing in covert contracts and that there was such a thing as relationship equity. My biggest mistake was never understanding why I felt the way I did in certain situations, and challenging negative core beliefs I carried throughout my life. Frame is the most important thing above all else, and I'm grateful to some of the guys here for helping me realize this.

austinography · 2020-10-28T14:17:45+00:00

I only recently found MRP, and I’ve been married for 11 years. I feel like I was sprinting full speed toward a 100 foot cliff and MRP was a voice in the dark screaming at me to change course. Knowing what I do now, I have no regrets about my blue pilled life. I understand that I was subject to extreme social conditioning. I am one of the lucky ones though. My wife is great, and stood by thru all the beta bitch behavior. And now that I am beginning to turn things around, she has responded amazingly to my changes. And, at the end of the day, I do it for me. The marriage improvements as a byproduct are fantastic, but still, the stay plan is the go plan. Conversely, I have no doubt that my wife and I would not be together if I had found TRP earlier. And that could have been a mistake. We’ll never know.

nantucketghost · 2020-10-28T17:04:29+00:00

Figured it out before marriage thankfully. Was due to an exgf that crashed and burned because I wasn't red-pilled. I was doing everything "right". I learned not to care.

My wife is awesome and my life is amazing with her. The key is to always always be able to walk out that door. No matter how much you love her, or how much it will hurt. The moment you are unable to leave that relationship, is the moment they know they have power over you and will have the ability to abuse it to get their way.

tightsleeves · 2020-10-29T15:58:10+00:00

Most men got stuck on the 'ride' of life.

Finish School > Get a Job > Get a Girl > Have Kids

We didn't realize you could get off and assess what you want and 99% of us found MRP after hitting some sort of 'rock bottom' somewhere in life.

threekindsoflucky · 2020-10-28T01:57:18+00:00

What a fucking dumb post.

Title	Have most guys on married red pill discover red pill before or after marriage?
Author	berttbeans996
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Comments	46
Date	October 28, 2020 1:39 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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