We've all seen them floating around the internet. Posts like this one where the guy has a ridiculously long list of (mostly self contradictory) "preferences"

In reality these guys are always desperate as fuck and would probably date any woman who showed even the slightest interest.

Now, I've personally never dated someone so stupid and socially inept enough to actually post something so pathetic on social media, but I have dated guys who expressed "preferences" and guess what! Those preferences were almost never aligned with how I actually looked.

When I was chubby, they wanted to date someone thin.

When I am fit, they want to date someone more "curvy"

When I was blonde, they said they preferred women with dark hair.

When I dyed my hair black, they say they prefer blondes.

I have light eyes, and they say they like brown eyes.

When I was 18-19 they admonished me for being childish and immature.

Now that I'm over 25 they say I'm over the hill.

And yet, even though I supposedly didn't meet their "standards" they continued dating me.

Hmmm... I wonder why.

The reality is that men are almost never actually that picky. Most will settle for literally any warm body if they are desperate and horny enough. The reason why they are so outspoken about their "PREFERENCES" is so that they can devalue any woman who doesn't meet every single "preference". So, basically every woman.

They'll tell you that you aren't their preference but that they love you anyways. Sounds cute, right? Lol nope. It's just a manipulation tactic meant to make you feel like shit about yourself, and worry that he might leave you for someone "better"

These guys have the mindset of an emotional abuser.