God I look back at myself and just cringe. Also any mention of red pill related stuff really triggers a lot of anxiety in me. Some advice as well

Jamonde · 2020-11-03T07:32:03+00:00

I think I am able to post and reflect on it now because I am in a much better place in terms of my mental well being. Reflecting and thinking about things is important but you have to be ready for it.

This is HUGE. Building healthier mindsets is less about getting out of bad ones and constructing healthy ones to actively replace the bad ones. If something triggers a lot of emotional distress or anxiety for you at the moment, you should likely still give it some space, and then return to and reflect/address it more when you can do so more reasonably. You may never be perfectly free of emotions and negative feelings associated to something when you come back to deal with it, and that's okay.

I hope you recognize that looking back at your old self and cringing at your previous behavior is a completely normal and healthy thing to do as you mature and learn things.

And welcome :) this subreddit is a solid place to hang out in! I also suggest r/malementalhealth for mental health discussions focused on men, it's a pretty positive place, and r/menslib is generally a solid place to discuss issues related to men and masculinity in a way that doesn't blame women or feminism-at-large like some other places do; it's usually solutions-focused and action-oriented, and less focused on outrage porn (though there are plenty of times where something ridiculous is shared and discussed).

xvszero · 2020-11-03T13:30:01+00:00

I used to be a pretty right wing guy and a lot of what I VERY LOUDLY stated all over the Internet makes me cringe now when I think about it. It's good to acknowledge our pasts and learn from mistakes, but it's also important to move forward into something better without dwelling too much.

deranged_berserker · 2020-11-03T11:05:15+00:00

Hey, we've all done things in our life that's made us cringe, the best thing about it is that you've learned to do better and that's what life is all about. This post is the best I've seen here in a while. You have my respect for leaving red pill it's not easy to do but you now have made a future for yourself which is much healthier.

I hope others take your advice, it's very good because the more you feed yourself the things you don't want the harder it is to leave it behind. That's why I gripe in this sub about posts that covertly endorse red pill. It's like leaving bottles of alcohol around the house of a alcoholic and still expecting them to stay sober.

2020-11-04T22:18:58+00:00

Very good advice right there. Hope you eventually get through this anxiety and hey, don't be harsh on yourself for believing in redpill bs, all of us do cringy crap we regret and anyone can get fooled into an unhealthy mindset...

I know I'm just repeating what ppl in the comments already said but... thought i'd try saying something anyway, have a nice day :)

Title	God I look back at myself and just cringe. Also any mention of red pill related stuff really triggers a lot of anxiety in me. Some advice as well
Author	Selfimprovement5272
Upvotes	26
Comments	6
Date	November 3, 2020 5:16 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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