Something I've noticed is that guys around here seem to think women are terribly worried that men won't like them past a certain age or whatever.

First of all, even if you're the hottest woman in the planet, you'll never fit every man's tastes. There will always be a guy who only like redheads or asians or fat girls. Every woman knows this.

Women only care about the approval of men who are close to them. They don't care that a random 40yo thinks she's too old at 35 when she's already married to the man she likes.