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Was that a comfort test from my LTR?

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lyniaa
February 11, 2020
75 upvotes
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Hey basically i was with this girl for 8 months, she is 18yo, im 26, i took her virginity, first boyfriend she had

Everything was going well and out of nowhere she started being distant with me, less text, less meet up, i went a little beta during this time, telling her i want to see her etc ... and then soft next since no efforts from her

And then she sent me a text few days after "Im not sure about us, should we continue our relationship?"

I answered "No, im fine, good luck"

After that i started to meet other girls, posted some stuff with me and other girls in insta story, and she got completely made, spammed me of text telling me she is crying everynight because of me, that im a huge douchebag since i already meet other girls etc

Now she text me all the time and shit

Was that a test or she geniuily wanted to dump me? I dont get it


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Title Was that a comfort test from my LTR?
Author lyniaa
Upvotes 75
Comments 56
Date 11 February 2020 04:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/332562
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/f2b6pt/was_that_a_comfort_test_from_my_ltr/
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[–]OracleofFl166 points167 points  (9 children) | Copy

She is 18...she is a child. She childishly thought that she could soft next YOU and that it would cause you to come back crawling to her. When it didn't work, her hamster wheel started spinning and now she is freaking out because she thinking you are banging other chicks. You have an opportunity to take her back under your terms inside your frame or move on. Your call.

A lot of people on this sub say just to move on but I think you need to remember how inexperienced she is in relationships and this is causing her to over estimate her SMV to you. She is moldable at this age if you want her to be.

[–]RPOpenUp53 points54 points  (1 child) | Copy

Very moldable indeed. OP would do society a huge favour by letting her know her behaviour is not okay

[–]jrr6415sun7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

I mean I’ve been with 36 year old girls that do the same immature things

[–]OracleofFl7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

They are not so moldable....those are more likely to be damaged beyond repair.

[–]Ill_mumble_that5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Still as emotionally mature as a child tho regardless if 40+ years old.

[–]Rispy_Girl5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oldest teen in the room

[–]beardestbird9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s what I thought too. At the very least why not plate her? Too many people suggesting hard next and I get it but that’s only if he’s way too in his feels over her. If he just wants pussy meet ups then why not

[–]blissfullyaware002 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the correct response, op.

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

problem is he has oneitis (went beta with an 18yr old when she withdrew because he didn't have abundance, and likely has feels after 8 months).

it's hard for most in this situation to demote to a plate and not become an orbiter, which is why 'next'/move-on, is the safer advice for most guys.

if he has internalized the "guide to managing your bitches" type strength, great, if not have fun becoming her bitch and be one of the many recent "it's been a year and I still think of Becky even after I've fucked 20 other chicks" posts.

[–]i-am-the-prize108 points109 points  (3 children) | Copy

who cares. stay out of her head. if she's drama and headache, next.

she'll learn to not be a flake for her next BF, or not.

she wants to be wanted, that's human, but that's not your problem to fix. do not be a fixer of others, only fix yourself.

move on.

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[–]i-am-the-prize2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I prefer to find women who don’t require fixing.

LOL

I prefer to find women who don’t require as much fixing.

fixed it for you ;)

[–]MisterMarbles19880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You’re not wrong. I am generalizing. Yes no one is perfect, but I prefer to date women whose lives and mental health are not in disarray.

[–]2redhawkes35 points36 points  (6 children) | Copy

Beta bait, don't even think of going back. Her branch swing didn't work out, and now she regrets the decision, let alone that she's 18 and wants to explore the Dicksneyland.

As to why she's pulling the guilt trip on you, it's classic tactic. Her hamster won't stop spinning without closure, hence the douchebag and crying part. Most of all, how come you shitlord are not crying and begging for her to get back to you, so she can boost up her ego.

Why she's not blocked and deleted on everything, or you too enjoy the bitch ass teen drama?

[–]beardestbird0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

What is OP wanted to keep her as a plate though? If she’s willing to come back then she should give all benefits and obtain little reward if she wants him

I’m asking cause I’ve more or less had a similar situation.

[–]2redhawkes7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

That's what she wants tho, to be wanted, but only until she gets the validation.

He can plate, only to be reminded of why he dumped her. This is power play game.

[–]theyearsstartcomin-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

He can plate, only to be reminded of why he dumped her.

Long as he knows, nothin wrong with that

[–][deleted]  (2 children) | Copy

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[–]2redhawkes2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well, if you have a habit of licking your puke, go on.

Again, think why he's posting this.

[–]redditor67tny7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like FOMO. Sounds like, in her head, you're a huge prize that she fucked up on by taking you for granted, and since you can easily get other girls whenever you want, she wants you more. Basic stuff

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[–]Haytch123410 points11 points  (6 children) | Copy

Girls up until 20-21 are retarded

[–]xandrewsxano22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

Girls from 21-23 are retarded too. And after 28 most of them are damaged from their past relationships.

We have to make the best out of it.

[–]Haytch123410 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

I found after 21 they are not as retarded.

Up until 21 they are just dumb as rocks.

[–]MisterMarbles19880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. My last gf was 20-22 when we were dating and it was like raising a child.

My current girl is 30 and say what you will about the wall and smv, she gives me zero headaches and is a pleasure to be around.

[–]kagewolf6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Say it louder for the people in the back!!!

[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude, I've dated women up to 44 years old. The only thing that changes is their looks and how much baggage they have. You might as well date the 18 year olds and trade them in when they hit Leo's Wall.

[–]Haytch12340 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with the point you are making.

But what I am trying to get at is the fact at such a young age girls up until 21 are dumb. Hot but dumb

[–]VisiblePlan8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well, she's trying to re-hook you. Don't let her. Reel em in, don't let them catch you. You may be the prize, but you are never won by anyone.

[–]redpilledjoe6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bro if there's one thing I've learned is that 18 year old women are the most childlike and volatile people on the planet. Not to rag on you but there is a huge, and I mean fucking enormous maturity disparity between an 18 year old woman and 26 year old man.

[–]muricanwerewolf14 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Branch swing gone wrong. She thought she could do better, didn’t, saw you killing it, and realized she fucked up big.

I wouldn’t say she wanted to dump you, I’d say she wanted to fuck other dudes. You’ll be in her head a while though, you’re the first and it lasted a while so I’m sure she feels a certain way about you, especially now that you’ve “gotten away”.

[–]Whatdoin271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No, what happened was you didn't conform to HER frame and she got pissed about it. So she tested you.

Tell that girl to kick rocks man. Shit'll save you time.

[–]subaruguy141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It was a test, you passed too well. Now to some better ass. If you want, you can plate her.

[–]SeasonedRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It sounds like she wanted to dump you and was hoping that you'd be devastated. When you handled her text properly and started seeing other girls, which was a good move, she freaked out and got mad. She wasn't expecting it to go the way it did.

[–]secureMPC0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's extremely difficult to keep a girl if you were her first. Modern society has made women believe that sleeping around is essential to a happy life so she will crave that after a while. It's sad, because she will do this for a couple of years and realise it's not worth it but then it will be too late.

I think she has these feelings of 'missing out'.

[–]RodDiddy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Personally, i dont think she was savvy enough to comfort test like that at 18yo virgin. No. She got comfortable, and wanted to spread her wings. At that age she doesnt want to be a whote and fuck someone else being your girlfriend, so she cut you loose to try someone else. It didnt work out, and your lack of emotional attachment shocked her. Bring her back in...make her come clean about fucking someone else. Now you can lock it down now.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most girls eventually try to lock down the relationship with the "where is this going?" question.

You either care or you don't, and you either want an LTR or you don't.

[–]Cryptomineand690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Plate

[–]ProFriendZoner-6 points-5 points  (2 children) | Copy

You're 26 and dating high school age girls?!?!? (shudder)

[–]TRPCops[M] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

14d ban for moralizing

[–]RedDeAngelo4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

As a 28 year old, I would definitely plate them, but even most undergrads are way too immature for me to have a LTR with.

[–]DrizzlyShrimp36-10 points-9 points  (6 children) | Copy

I know this sub doesn't give two shits about stuff like this but why the fuck are you sleeping with an 18 year old at 26. She was 12 when you were 20 for fuck's sake. She's an actual child.

[–]RedDeAngelo14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's an actual child.

Her tits and hips say otherwise.

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wheres the line before you feel comfortable with other guys getting laid?

[–]XT3M30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

is it too late to bring up that age ÷2+7 thing? lmao

[–]XT3M34 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

i mean i get your point and all and i have the same thoughts when i see things like this but fuck it shes legal. people like what they like. the part that makes me laugh is when the older person expects the younger one (moreso when he or she is a fresh adult) to act " mature" . nah bruh dossnt work like that

[–]TRPCops[M] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

14d ban for moralizing

[–]WiterS20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And she will be 80 when he will be 88

[–]PhaedrusHunt-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Send her back to plate land for a couple weeks.

Would you miss her? Are you ready to completely walk if necessary?

[–]catsdontsmile-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

Don't date below 24; you could push it down to 22, but to be safe 24. Women are fucking up to 23. Not that you can't fuck them, that's another thing.

[–]WiterS2-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Women are the hottest until 22/23

[–]catsdontsmile0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Wrong. Female peak SMV is 24.

[–]WiterS20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's not peak. That's the end of their peak.



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