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For men who work 9 to 5 jobs, what do you do in the evenings after work?

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February 12, 2020

I usually wake up around 5 am and hit the gym. So my evenings are free, other than cooking dinner. How do you guys spend your evenings?

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Title For men who work 9 to 5 jobs, what do you do in the evenings after work?
Author slip-down
Upvotes 92
Comments 100
Date 12 February 2020 05:49 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]WIA20XX189 points190 points  (18 children) | Copy

Work on things to get me out of my 9-5

[–]nimdroid22 points23 points  (15 children) | Copy

Such as?

[–]Ill_mumble_that37 points38 points  (9 children) | Copy

Rich people don't share tips on getting rich over the internet for free.

I will say this:

A 9-5 job will never net you enough money to stop working. You need to work for you. A 9-5 can get you started and supporting yourself, but you need a side business that eventually becomes your main business - and your goal needs to be to make enough to hire other people to run the business for you.

Exceptions if you work for a large enough company and can move into upper management where senior managers are making $200k+.

Live below your means.

I will repeat this because its very important in accumulating wealth.

Live below your means.

If you make 60k a year, you should be driving a used Honda/Toyota and living in a <$1500 month home. You should be eating every meal at home, whether it be frozen stuff that you heat up or fresh cooked stuff you make - you can feed yourself for <$500 a month and eat like a king at home.

Any recurring expenses should be kept at minimum. Netflix, spotify, all that type of bullshit is just a drain on your time and money.

Save every penny you can. If you don't have at least $5k in your bank account then you are not prepared for emergencies or investment opportunities.

Once you start to accumulate thousands of dollars, you can use it to invest. I generally dont think putting money into any startup is a good idea unless you have a lot of money to blow; this includes your own startup business. Put your time in, not your cash. If your business needs cash, get a loan for it.

The safest bet for your cash is to put it into stock index funds like Vanguard or dividend paying stocks that have reliable paid out for >20 years. This will earn you anywhere from 8% to 40% growth on the cash you put in every year.

The gains on these accounts compounds over time. If you are young and can put in 100k by the time you are 30, then when you are 60 you'll be a millionaire if all you do is sit and let it grow for the next 30 years.

So long as you are beating the average 2.3% inflation rate, you are doing decent.

[–]Velebit3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

Spending extra time when you are 20-40 to have it a bit easier when you are 40-60 is bullshit and does not make sense. From evolutionary/scientific perspective that is shit because it means lowering chances to reproduce and raise viable offspring and from personal perspective it means wasting your best years on grind. When you are 20-40 it makes sense to either reproduce and have kids who you can rely on when you are older if you raise them well or go full hedonist and enjoy it traveling and fucking around. When your pet project 'starts paying for itself' when you are 50. And this is IF it starts paying off... you will already be an old dog.

Fuck apps.

Besides. Fuck developing apps.

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[–]Velebit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Evolution or who/whose genes are alive is the judge. You doing x y or z is irrelevant unless when comparing to the evolutionary judge. You spending time banging 50 chicks and impregnating one is Darwin rolling on the floor laughing. You spending your youth developing an app so you can work slightly less when 53 is Darwin just pittying you for what a waste you are.

You do realize the bachelor gene is a death sentence. Living inside your dumb ass head. Thinking your insane mind is reality. Thinking you are your god. Utter sickness. Like a dog who refuses to breed. Sick, disfunctional creature... sick brain creates all sorts of rationalizations for why its disease is sensible kek.

[–]kingofclubsmorde4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wise words!

Living in the moment fully is the real reality. Past is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift, that's why they call it a present.

When you only have one life, that time should be enjoyable fully.

Wise Jim Carrey said something like this: "I think everyone should get rich and famous and do everything they've dreamed of so they can see that it is not the answer."

[–]ddd13371 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Being rich can be not an answer, but being poor is definitely a low point in everyone's life.

[–]Chamallow813 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you are young and can put in 100k by the time you are 30, then when you are 60 you'll be a millionaire if all you do is sit and let it grow for the next 30 years.

Do you know many 30 year olds that can afford to put in 100K in investments?

[–]dtyler862 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I know a couple, they don’t have student loans, their parents gave them their cars, they have very very cheap mortgages because their parents gave them the gift of about $15,000 to put down on a house. As a 33-year-old business owner burning close to $200,000 a year, I can tell you firsthand by 30 I was overdrafted my checking account almost every other month borrowing money from my mother, and I was very fortunate even to have that opportunity. It’s definitely something worth striving for and I do know a couple of people they probably were able to put A couple tens of thousands of dollars into savings or investments, but not one of them had student loans and all of them Drove a car they were not paying for they had held onto since they were in high school. There is a lot of assumed privilege in his post but also incredibly good advice otherwise

[–]clickherebaby0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You had a successful business and im sure you had more than enough helping hands along the way. A car from mom isnt going to be the difference between saving and not saving. Thats a defeatist, weak mentality.

I paid off $25,000 in student tuition and school fees (probably more) while i went to school. It was like 1100$ month. Yea i lived at home but so did literally everyone else who commutes, and yet they chose to get shit faced and just waste in general. I had a great time nonetheless, i was just far more disciplined. (I also took a semester off to work full time)

[–]WolfofAllStreetz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good post. Most people live WAY outside their means.

Get rid of all payments that aren’t your house, then work on that one.

[–]DerpJungler13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy

Not OP but im building my own website and designing my own workout programs, so I can sell them. (dont know if it will actually work)

Also, hitting the gym

[–]Ill_mumble_that6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

I started my own business with Amway Global! Now I'm a double triple platinum diamond excalibur and selling overpriced protein shakes to suckers all over the place.

Jk this is a terrible idea don't do this.

[–]DerpJungler3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol yeah the supplement industry is fucked up. Im well aware.

But are you referring to my workout program business? My rationale is that I have been training for 5-6 years so far (both powerlifting and bodybuilding) and have also finished multiple courses on programming (nothing to do with my actual degrees).

I just wanna sell real programs to beginner and advanced lifters because Ive seen the generic shit that goes around nowdays..

Oh, you wanna lose weight? Do 3x20 on every exercise fast!

Oh, you wanna gain weight? Do 3x5 on every exercise slow!

Fuck that. Periodization, RPEs, percentages, RIRs, frequency, volume. People have the right to be informed. /rant

[–]bombgg1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

all things considered, that would definitely work lmao

[–]Ialev2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best reply

[–]daddysash52 points53 points  (0 children) | Copy

I go straight to gym

[–]bourbonhipster67 points68 points  (1 child) | Copy

  • Raise a family.
  • Work on side projects for additional income
  • Read for both knowledge and mental stimulation
  • Home improvement projects & general keeping shit together maintenance
  • Lots of cooking, pasta & bread making
  • Passion projects to expand & sharpen professional skill sets
  • Meetups

Not an exclusive list.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I like cooking too. I'll try the Meetup thing.

[–]InflatableRaft31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

MMA, public speaking and latin dance.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Latin dance? Is that Salsa and Bachata? I've been doing that for years, but I might start classes to actually get better.

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[–]Hungboy69694204 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wanna get on this. My cooking skills are limited to cooking meats at this point

[–]WolfofAllStreetz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Every man should know how to cook, I actually enjoy it a lot now.

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[–]second-last-mohican11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mean = awesome.

Dudes probably from oz or nz

[–]Auspexel5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

In this context, mean means “really good”

[–][deleted] 38 points39 points  (7 children) | Copy

Gym for around 90m then home, eat, read, chat to girls, then sleep. I just don't like working out in the morning, I prefer to read in bed for an hour when I wake up and then get ready for work.

I rarely do anything else on weekdays. The week is for me to work on my career, work at the gym, enjoy my reading (I've been a huge bookworm my whole life, mostly fiction) and get enough sleep to be healthy and benefit my gym progress. Weekends is when I do other stuff like socialising, studying for my career, shopping, dating, and fucking (it's rare I'll even have a girl over on a weeknight even if it's just a quick fuck - I save it for the weekend).

A lot of people look at my weekday schedule and consider it boring and lonely. I consider it training, and the results are observable and very satisying. Also, I was raised without brothers and sisters by a single mother who was always working so I've been very self-reliant for company my whole life anyway. I actually enjoy my alone time an awful lot, especially since my job is so socially active and I am actually a huge introvert.

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[–]DerpJungler4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. No hang out, no binge watching tv series until friday.

Grind the weekdays, relax and have fun during the weekend.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Does "weekdays" include Friday night/afternoon?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Generally, yes, but sometimes I'll go out in the evening after I've finished with the gym because I can sleep in on Saturday mornings.

None of this is absolute btw. Occasionally of course I'll break routine, but so long as most of the time I follow it a few breaks from time to time is fine. Life is about breaking rules sometimes, right? Only fools and obsessed types refuse to break routine for anything.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sure. I'm unemployed at the moment but as soon as I get work I'm super keen to follow a structure similar to yours: full of productivity. However I fear social isolation if that makes sense...

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I have to admit I get a bit lonely SOMETIMES, but that's just part of adult life if you live alone and go to the gym in the evenings. I simply do not have time for anything else if I work, gym, and sleep long enough. You can throw an active social life in there but you'll have to sacrifice either gym or enough sleep to do it.

I don't "live" for the weekends, since I'm fortunate enough to actually enjoy my job and I love going to the gym, but the weekend is the only time I have "fun" as seen by an outsider. That's fine by me, might not be for you but everyone's different. I'm sure some guys can manage it, but I am just one of those guys who needs at least 7-8 hours of sleep every night to function properly. I broke my pattern and only got 6 hours last night and I'm feeling it today.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep sleep is #1 priority for me. Bit weird now as I can sleep in with no job. My friends are dwindling so even if I have a boss week like yours on the weekend I just end up sitting around on the computer all day. It's kind of sad to think about.

[–]Forsaken432117 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

Go to sleep to enjoy the soft touch of oblivion, to ease the pain of existence.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol. Ain't this true.

[–]pragmaticminimalist-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

the good ol' -sleep for dinner approach. I like

[–]OfficerWade6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

BJJ and like the top post said, contemplate ways to get out.

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[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I like this, I've done salsa for years. Maybe it's time to actually get lessons and try to get good at it.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

I read this as “balloon dancing classes”

[–]RicoGemini4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

I do photography and videography on the side along with my 9-5 so I usually edit photos or videos. Sometimes I go straight from work to an event or shoot. So it can be a long day going from waking up at 4:30 and hitting the gym to getting home at 1 am to have to repeat the next day

Sometimes I'll catch up on any Netflix shows or throw on my Xbox.

I have a whiteboard that I use to update goals and plan my week out so I make adjustments to that if necessary.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

That's quite the schedule. I'm going to steal the whiteboard idea.

[–]RicoGemini0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't do all of that in one night. Just those are my go to things any given night

[–]kenpachitz10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

  • Improv on Monday
  • Martial Arts on Tue, Thu and Sat (starting next week)
  • Household chores
  • Catching up with people on WhatsApp
  • Planning a dinner party on the weekend every 2-3 weeks
  • Unwinding by watching my TV shows / YouTube / reading this week's manga (more than I should tbh)
  • Updating my expenses in my Google Sheets

And thinking of other income streams beyond the 9-5. Still haven't settled on something to start.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I like this. I'm not big on Manga, but I read other books. I use YNAB to track my budget, makes it easier to keep up on the fly.

[–]kenpachitz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I should mention I do weekly food prep because I don’t mind eating the same dinner every night.

Books are better. I kinda burnt myself out on reading during an intense “self-improvement” phase in my early 20s which was just years of mental masturbation as I read pretty much every major title you can list. So now, I prefer documentaries or certain YouTube channels for brain food. Otherwise, I don’t really read unless I’ve got a specific personal project in mind. I hope you don’t fall into the same trap I did.

And I’ve heard of YNAB and all the others. I live in a cash-based country so they’re all useless. I fill out my transactions in a Google Form that feeds it to a Google Sheet that summarizes everything.

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[–]slip-down[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nice schedule. I haven't read Mediations yet. Working my way through Letters from a Stoic by Seneca. I play guitar as well, acoustic. Right now all my plates are broken lol. Working on getting more. I like the idea of the Thanks for sharing.

[–]think_90909092 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bouldering (good workout and good way to socialize), gym, reading, learning new skills, gaming girls (1 or 2 quick approaches at a mall on my way back from work), relaxing

I don't do all of these things everyday. I switch it up

[–]volfan682 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I make beats every day. I’m also currently working on a course to educate other producers how to produce at an industry standard.

I highly recommend experts of a craft to monetize their expertise towards it. It will give recurring revenue when marketed properly.

[–]AceZentura1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You got a youtube channel? i’m also a producer

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You mean like working on Motorcycles? I was thinking about teaching an evening course in my field.

[–]ma-agentz1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Work on myself / read when i Come home for about an hour then I eat . After that I go to the gym at 8:30pm. When I come home from the gym I usually chill for a bit and go to sleep

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is about what I do, minus the gym part.

[–]dimmy6661 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wake up

Work 0800-2000

Hit the gym



[–]SupremeBBC1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bikram yoga or muay Thai, cook, and developing plans for my side business (real estate). I work in a very stable job with great work-life balance so I'm never taking my laptop home to do work-related stuff (especially when they don't pay me extra for it). For reference, I'm an intermediate level financial analyst at a large hospital, making 60k CAD after tax.

[–]dietstarts_tmrw3 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy

come home. take a shit. smoke a bowl. jerk off. go to the gym. hang with friends/gf. eat dinner then relax (play video games, listen to music, watch tv)

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[–]dietstarts_tmrw0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

i’m glad u asked. there are 2 types of weed, indica and sativa. indica makes u super lazy and tired, and sativa just makes everything feel good. i use sativa. weed is an amazing pre workout. in the gym, you are able to do more reps because you feel less pain. you can also feel the muscles being worked wayyyyy more, and the pump is insane. you are able to have razor sharp focus

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[–]dietstarts_tmrw-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

try it yourself! tons of guys use weed pre workout it is amazing. feeling the muscles in a whole new way

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[–]dietstarts_tmrw1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

well it has different effects on everybody, all i’m saying is don’t knock it til you try it. you may be pleasantly surprised

[–]Hungboy6969420-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah don't think I could do that either, especially smoking weed

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[–]sehns1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Affects people differently, for some it can be a mood booster and can be more productive on it (like compulsive desire to organise that box of shit you've been putting off). Also probably depends on the strain and frequency of use

[–]dietstarts_tmrw-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

i’m glad u asked. there are 2 types of weed, indica and sativa. indica makes u super lazy and tired, and sativa just makes everything feel good. i use sativa. weed is an amazing pre workout. in the gym, you are able to do more reps because you feel less pain. you can also feel the muscles being worked wayyyyy more, and the pump is insane. you are able to have razor sharp focus

[–]Greek-God-Brody1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

u/slipdown Do you not have a social life? Waking up at 5 means you go to bed at 9 - 10?

[–]RedPillAlphaBigCock7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can have a social life with that sleep schedule- you just need to get out of the mindset that night = social life

Sleep is SUPER Super important

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's about right. I've always been a morning person. I do happy hours from time to time, or dates in the evenings. Most evenings I just chill. Sometimes I read and sometimes I play games. I guess I'm trying to get a gage of what other men do.

[–]leotard-princess1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

public speaking and stand up comedy - that and the gym

[–]HeresToTheNext201 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Where do you go for public speaking

[–]leotard-princess0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well I did a speaker's club - it was non affiliated in a big US city. I understand Toastmasters is good for beginners - but you need to get out there and start finding yourself gigs where you do it for your company etc. Nothing gives you confidence like it.

[–]grillinsteaks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not all every night: Gym, cook, eat, read, hang with friends, social media, laundry.

[–]MisterMarbles19880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Jiu-jitsu. Spend time with my son. Dates. Movies. Read. Cook/meal prep/shop.

[–]beachbbqlover0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow fancy.

I work 0530 to 1730.

[–]Naboo_the_enigma0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


- Gym 3-4 times/week

- Write and produce music

- One night per week I eat with family

Weekends :

- The gym sesh I still need to be doing from the week

- Stuff I need to sort out

- Whatever I want

[–]Haytch12340 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Weight training and MMA. 5 days a week.

Evening job on friday and saturday nights as a bouncer.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I see why you do MMA then.

[–]Morjumba10 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Read, chill with friends, go to the gym, go to school, do homework. I have cut a huge chunk of video game playing out of my life in the past month. I have seen great benefits to my over mental health.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I've cut back on video games and I've deleted all my social media, besides Reddit of course. Definitely noticed a boost in my overall happiness as well. Sometimes we're too close to the trees to see how much damage it does to us.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t work 9-5 lol

[–]Bone_Coat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

gym,rest and other stuff

[–]Pokeylaw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Workout for 2ish hrs, homework, then depending on if I'm ahead of schedule I can party once every 2 weeks or so Otherwise more work.

[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My evenings are primarily occupied by hitting the gym and working on my side hustles to get a business off the ground.

[–]1XXXMersenne0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

  • Clean the house (Vaccum, Dusting, Organise, Bathroom & toilet, Incense)
  • Read ~1hour
  • Meditate 20mins (Sit face blank wall, practise holding attention on single point)
  • Do Face exercises
  • Hit the gym
  • Freshen up & Go out to bars/clubs 12am.

Normal routine. Before that I'll shop, cook, chill. but this is typically how it goes down afterwards.

[–]PB00341 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

For how long have you been doing face exercising? Have you noticed the difference yet? If yes, how big or small. Also what age group you in?

[–]1XXXMersenne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've been doing the exercises inconsistently since June last year.

Here are my major observations:
  • My face attains a toned, tightened & relaxed appearance of a 'Gorgeous Villain'.
  • My face looks more muscular overall, with lumps forming along my jawline.
  • Exercise 6 grows the muscles around my mouth, especially to the sides of my lips, making my cheeks more concave.
  • My head feels lighter & clearer after several workouts.
  • My jaw tightens along with the area to the back of my throat.

I am 22 and would attest to its effectiveness being significant; especially if done consistently over even a year. However these are quite tedious, taking me a good 30-40 mins when done thoroughly. They're also tiresome when you first start—mostly because you're exercising muscles that are rarely used (to such an extent). But I guess in that sense it's the same as lifting. You'll adapt.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What are face exercises?

[–]1XXXMersenne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Let me know if the link's back up. I'd pm to you but apparently 115 people have gotten to it from here already so might as well put it back up for all.

[–]beardestbird-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

I’m in college for engineering but I can say that I’m already thinking of ways to get out of that 9 to 5 shit as soon as I can.

[–]ColossalEngineer0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

why? if you can land a good job in a respectable company, 9 to 5 is actually pretty good, especially if you can climb the ranks it pays really well,

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm doing this now. It's not so bad.

[–]AceMav21-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Get drunk and be a 25yr old Doomer.

[–]slip-down[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What's a Doomer?

[–]banica240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think a twist of the word boomer but one that is doomed cause his lifestyle is trash.

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