are you doing what YOU WANT to do? We are all influenced by others, whether it is the media, family, friends, women, or just society collectively. This can be achieved, through peer pressure, shaming tactics, punishment, or some other handicap to prosperity. Others are quick to tell you what YOU SHOULD be doing, what job YOU SHOULD have, whether to have a girlfriend/marriage or not, whether to have children or not. They think YOU SHOULD do what they think is RIGHT. But what is right? Some people for example, grind 7 days a week in a shit job, to provide for a partner and child, just because 'that's what you do'. I know a guy in his 50's with some fat ugly bitch of a wife, that completely dominates him, tells him what to do, when, and for how long, she screams his name when she wants his assistance, he works long days to provide and then comes home and helps with the housework, the guy is fucking miserable but he continues to feel pressured into living this life, when there is no doubt he could be much happier, I could sort his life in about 10 minutes, starting by picking up his fat wife and throwing her out the damn door, (don't worry i deadlift) to which he owns. Now don't think I have anything against an LTR or having children, the traditional nuclear family, This can be extremely fulfilling for some men and gives meaning to their existence. However this rant is referring to the people that live lives not for themseleves but for OTHERS, to varying degrees, of course. I realised myself at one point, that I was almost on autopilot with my own life, going where the wind took me, or allowing others to persuade me to what I SHOULD be doing, or what I SHOULD THINK. A good friend of mine would easily persuade me into doing things, such as moving to a certain destination with him or going into business with him,because I didn't know what I WANTED. now his motives were not malevelant, but it did cost me a lot financially that would have been better spent else where, now that I realised what I WANT, which is living somewhere completely different and doing a completely different career, with a completely different outlook on life. People are also very quick to tell you what is RIGHT, even in the manosphere, in fact particularly in the manosphere, and I am not alluding to observable facts based on many observations/studies etc that may work to your benefit. I am talking about things like, how YOU SHOULD live your life, what morals you SHOULD have. Things like ''if you don't leave a legacy, then your not a man'' or anything akin to basically saying that your life has no meaning unless you do what I THINK is RIGHT. whether it's spreading your genes, having a family, building your empire, having a certain amount of material assets, changing the world etc. Now again I'm not saying any of these things are bad, or good for that matter, Having a focus, a meaning, a purpose, for example, tends to make one happy, we know that, but what that focus is, is up TO YOU. I have personally been one of these dogmatic guys, that vomits his opinions and then proceeds to shove it down everyones throats. Im not saying don't have beliefs/opinions but realise that's all they are, opinions. Not immutable laws. There is a difference between advice based on experience, science and saying what has worked for you, and a dogmatic set of beliefs/ opinions that anyone differing from you, is beneath me, when in reality it just is. I think we all need something to believe in, to give us meaning to life, but at the end of the day, you do you, and ill do me. These opinions on right and wrong or morality are not a law of nature, (bar the internal and individual conscience, to non psychopaths, at least) like say, gravity, even societies laws, they are YOUR CHOICE whether you adhere to them or not, now, you will have to accept the consequences of any choices you make in life but it's still a choice. I am also not saying don't strive to achieve or become great at anything because 'life is pointless' I am just saying strive to achieve because you truly want to, and not because some douchebag on the internet says that's what you SHOULD do, don't do it for women, don't do it for your parents, Do it because that's what YOU WANT to do. There is no point living a miserable existence just because of other peoples expectations of you. There may be times in life where we have to do things that we don't want to do temporarily, in order to do what we do want to do, there may also be times where some sort of compromise is needed from a machiavellian perspective, for the greater good. (whatever that is to you) This is not my excuse to be lazy, hedonistic etc, (although if that's what i wanted...) I am a highly motivated individual, I also greatly respect many people that have devoted their life to a cause, a passion, changing the world, BUT it doesn't mean that you have to. Do what makes you happy, doesn't compromise your morals or sense of self whatever that may be. It's not like we are in the times of our ancestors that lived in small tribes, and you could be at risk of being ostrasized or even killed for going against the grain, things were often setup for the benefit of everyone and the continuation of the species. I THINK that often the people that do what THEY WANT in life are the happiest, most fulfilled, and most sucessful people around, look at entrepeneurs. a man only has himself to answer to, at the end of the day when he sets down to rest. And if your happy with yourself and not fatasizing of a time, a place, a situation, a day.... that it will all be better, WITHOUT putting any ACTION behind those thoughts, then it's just a FANTASY. It's like fapping instead of meeting real women, those fantasies are you validating your ego, so that you don't have to actually do anything, and by the time you wake your motivation has gone and you do nothing to get what you want, maybe you don't want it afterall in which case, fine. Anyway that's my rant, I just hate being told what to do and what is right, particularly when it is something that could seriously impact your life and your happiness. We are so used to people telling us what to do, that we don't even question anything anymore, do you ever see those pedestrians waiting for the green man on an empty road? I just got a ticket for going through a red light just as it was changing, now it was perfectly safe to do so, to anyone with a critical brain, it's clear as day, of course it's the local authorities way of making money under the guise of public safety, so that's a fine and a driving course for me, but ill take the consequences of my actions, and ill probably do it again, because I don't agree and ill do what I WANT to do.

Now you just have to find out what it is that YOU WANT, WHAT YOU LIKE, and DO IT.