I really hate it when people say "natural female hypergamy". I am male by the way. To me it seems like every single human is innately built with a sense to go find the best partner available. Maybe females have more opportunity to find partners that are "above them" in some way. But that doesn't make them more "hypergamous" then men. Its their environment that is allowing them to be hypergamous not their nature forcing them to be.
But I'm not going to focus on women here. I would rather focus on men.
I would like to lead off with a question....
What would Hypergamy look like for men? For women it is defined as trying to find a partner that is either
A) better looking
B) has a higher status
C) has significantly more resources (usually money but not always)
What about men? I think you could narrow it down to
A) better looking
Men don't seek partners of higher status or higher resources. We want a pretty chick to impregnate because it is fun to impregnate them and the children have a good chance of being attractive.
Now ask yourself. Would a typical guy prefer a woman who is more attractive then them or a woman that is identical to them in terms of physical attractiveness (a looksmatch if you will)? I think the answer is pretty obvious.
So how does this explain sexlessness?
There is an actual scientific theory about looksmatch. The scientific name is "Matching Hypothesis". You can read about it here https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matching_hypothesis. They don't know why but couples tend to be matched in terms of physically attractiveness, education, social status etc.
Now I personally only care about the physically attractiveness part. I could give 2 shits if the woman I am dating is poor or has a bad career. It just doesn't matter all that much.
Do you decide who you are sexually attracted to? The same way that you decide whether to cross the road or what shirt you will wear today. No ofcourse not. It's a natural subconscious reaction.
Ok are you ready for the meat and potatoes of this essay?
The human brain is more interested in reproducing than anything else. If given the opportunity to it will reproduce with someone with "superior genetics". However that is not an imperative. The imperative is to reproduce period. If you are in an environment where the people with "superior genetics" are not available sexually your brain will naturally start to temper your expectations.
In other words your brain will naturally adjust your subconscious patterns to find LESS ATTTRACTIVE people more acceptable. This happens very gradually. This is a natural process that most humans go through while maturing.
The key to this whole thing is social maturity. The more time you spend with other humans the more your brain learns what it can and can not snag. If a man constantly has sex with attractive women he has no reason to lower his expectations. The best looking people tend to have the highest standards for these reasons. When you do find an attractive person with lower standards it is almost always a result of poor self image.
So how are incels and femcels created?
Yes in some cases they are just so hideous that nobody wants to sleep with them. But in most cases they are simply socially immature. This happens to both men and women. They spend most of their time indoors surrounded by Netflix, Youtube, Pornhub, Instagram, TikTok etc. Our brains have a hard time discerning the virtual world with the real world. People who are isolated have unrealistic expectations about the opposite sex.
A man who is properly socialized will gradually titrate his expectations to match what the environment has to offer. A man who does not spend any time socializing will have unrealistic expectations. Couple that with the fact that the truth hits them hard anytime they do socialize. Which causes them to develop anxiety issues. This further compounds the problem. They become even more isolated. It is a vicious cycle.
The most important part is that this happens naturally and subconsciously. A man who is properly socialized genuinely finds women attractive that a man who spends all his time jacking off to PornHub will not. This is something that takes time. You can't just socialize for 1-2 months after years of isolation and expect everything to fall in its place. It is a slow process that is supposed to take place when you are maturing.
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