I've been seeing this therapist over the last few months.
I mentioned to her about an encounter I had with my ex's best friend (also F). She would incessantly throw subs at me even though I literally did nothing to her. That is, she would get mad at me for things going south between my ex and I. When she heckles me last night out of the blue, I don't lose frame (or so I think) and throw an insult questioning her femininity. When I mention this to my therapist, she goes nuts and starts calling me a "bully" and admits to "coming to the defense of another woman." She sits there and keeps throwing insults at me while I sit holding frame (for sure this time), ignoring her attempts to stimulate a reaction. I mention my experience with bullying in high school, and how it taught me a lesson, she accuses me of "enjoying it" and being "a bigger bully." I calmly sat until our time was over, only to leave without scheduling another appointment.
This just goes to show how the sisterhood is intact even in professional women - even to those who are paid to help you navigate through your own issues. Let this be a lesson for anybody out there suffering clinical depression and anxiety as I am to never opt for a female therapist.
My question to you guys is, did I hold frame when I think I did? I understand if this comes out as a rant. Feel free to report it as spam.