Social media is cancer to your life: A simple philosophy to become a tribe builder instead of a lone wolf.

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December 21, 2020


Literarily everyone in our western culture has in some shape or form a sense of being alien to our society. We want to connect to people around us but we don’t. It is often said that the way to the top is a lonely road. But that’s only said by lonely people and it conveniently fits their lone wolf mentality. Become a tribe builder everywhere you go, and you will live a good life, an experienced life, a powerful life. These are your first steps to unplug yourself, to open your eyes.


Our reptilian brains are not adapted to our metropolitan world. We’re out of date models and we’re hungry to hunt, hungry to build shelters, hungry to trek, hungry for a band of brothers. But tribal life is never coming back and city life has its benefits, among which, a high volume of women to spin. The one true test on your heroes’ journey, in becoming who you are, to shed your boyhood and become a man, above all you must learn how to build and lead tribes.


Call your mom, your brother, your sister. Stop hiding behind your rectangles. Shed your passive frail consuming mentality and start engaging with the world around you. The number one key to become a tribe builder is to become assertive, to take initiative, to act instead of react, to tune in with the creator within you. The path to become superhuman is laid stone by stone. If a simple phone call makes you feel uneasy, here’s your first stone. Make a habit of calling family and close friends instead of texting them. Make a habit of greeting people and dogs on the street, greet the hobo, greet the cashier, greet the bartender smoking outside, greet the hiker, greet the old lady feeding pigeons, greet the guy next to you on the bus, greet everyone next to you in the gym. Call your mom again.


There are four key activities that mold men into brothers: chasing girls, globetrotting, friendly competition and dining. They all generate wealth in its purest form: power. For millennia, the status a man has in his society is build and reflected by the women he fucks, the places he travelled to, his athletic strength, and the men who dine at his table. Western culture has almost entirely lost touch with the last one. But it’s a powerful thing, to feed someone. Dining has been the backbone of many societies and it’s easy to see that men in societies who still maintain that tradition have stronger relationships with family, with neighbors, with fellow men in town. If you’re looking for some motivation to learn how to cook (looking at you who only eats microwaved junk): lifting will help you master your body, cooking will help you master your network. Make a habit of inviting a friend over for dinner on any given boring worknight. Everyone is bored. Everyone is tired. Everyone has to eat. Girls in our society have mastered the art of brunching for an hour from the age of 16, it’s not that fucking hard. Dining is the easiest way to bring people together. Bring people together. People will admire you.


You’ll spend your 24 hours and you’ll spend it on what you planned to do. If you don’t plan shit, you’re planning social media, or cheap shitty entertainment. Get busy. Cram your days to the point snoozing simply isn’t an option. The bare minimum on any given day should be: 7 hours of sleep, 8 hours of work, read 10 pages, sport 30 min, meditate, work 1 hour on your next passive income stream.


Lift, yes, but find a team sport too. Don’t know where to start? Call your brother or sister. Ask a friend to go for a run tonight. It doesn’t even have to be a close friend. You’ll be amazed how many guys go running alone and would love to find a running pal. Every university offers a wild range of sports where you can tag along and get to know many great people. In Europe, you don’t even have to be in university to join the sessions.


You become an adult when you realize there’s no such thing as adults in this world. You become a social guy when you realize everyone is awkward and most people remain awkward until they die. Most lonely guys I know always tell me the same crap: ‘No one ever asks me to go anywhere.’ Make a habbit of inviting people to dine, sport, go for a walk, go shopping. It doesn’t have to be planned. Just call when you’re on the way.


Your life only begins when you figure out everything you do together, you can do alone.


Your life is outside. Or did you really think that one day staring at this rectangle in front of you would become life-fulfilling?


If you take away the rectangles, how many rooms did you visit in the last week? How many people did you actually have a conversation with? Social media is cancer, the illusions they give us of being in the world are paralyzing, utterly soul-destructive.


When you have your own life outdoors, meeting people comes naturally, inviting people to come along comes naturally.


If there are no people in your life, it’s because you don’t have a life. Go outside. Create a life. It is the only way.


If you don’t know what to do: be bored. Sit on a chair and do absolutely nothing. Sometimes it can take ten minutes, sometimes half an hour. But when you move you will understand that anything is better than getting a quick shot of life through the eyes of a movie character or social media. Creating a life is hard. It’s difficult. But the smallest creation - like getting out of your fucking door, fixing your bike or cleaning your shoes – can be bliss if you see it for the greatness it is.

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Title Social media is cancer to your life: A simple philosophy to become a tribe builder instead of a lone wolf.
Author paul_ernst
Upvotes 1327
Comments 116
Date 21 December 2020 11:01 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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[–]1scissor_me_timbers00328 points329 points  (18 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]Existing_Nature_877696 points97 points  (13 children) | Copy

In this world men worthy of forming a brotherhoods are a rarity, instead we have masses of insecure, jealous, desperate, backstabbing, berating, betas.

Till we find worthy brothers, lone wolf iis the best thing to do.

[–]Sigma-Angel_of_Death33 points34 points  (2 children) | Copy

Agreed, but we should be mentoring other men so they don't continue in those traits.

[–]lvxvl11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

The only way to influence others is to ignore them and build yourself in to something they want to be when they see you. Mentoring is a lagging indicator just like women are.

[–]Sigma-Angel_of_Death7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Almost all successful RP guys I know had mentors at some point, still have them, and/or are currently mentoring someone else. It's basically men doing the job that other men's fathers were too lazy/BP to do.

[–]redandnarrow11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

You go and make worthy men out of finding the teachable and salvageable humans. Waiting for perfect men to come along is as foolish as waiting for a perfect women to come along.

[–]redandnarrow4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh... and you can fashion women too, in your own image while your at it. They are dying to find an orderly city in a man that their chaotic waters can’t flood. They are water and you a vessel. Passing shit tests turns them on. They found a worthy shape.

[–]lvxvl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It doesn't have to be one or the other. As a baseline I'm a lonewolf, but not really. I tribe build all the time. It's just a sliver of the people around me. The oceans of beta backstabbers are sidelined. I have a social kingdom made of several circles (some overlapping) that is excessive compared to the average person. Social proof is a snowball that the bulk beta factor can slow down, but never enough to halt. I'm currently trying to figure out how to locate and associate with even higher quality people. Covid has put that on hold.

[–]Phottesega1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know where you guys find friends who go out to chase girls, most betas will shame me and call me obsessed

[–]SalporinRP0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

In this world men worthy of forming a brotherhoods are a rarity, instead we have masses of insecure, jealous, desperate, backstabbing, berating, betas.

I agree completely. So many guys on here complaining about the state of women today and trust me, I get it.

But the gossiping betas and white knights are 10x worse. I've had to leave behind so many "friends" and acquaintances because of shit like that.

Luckily for me I am still friends with a core group of buddies that I've had since high school that are pretty red-pilled.

[–]Dystopianlost0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The worst characteristic of all these are the backstabbers. Have never understood this type of dude. As a laid back guy, I have always valued my male friendships over any and all female friendships except my mother. The thought of talking shit about a true friend just doesn't sit well w me.

[–]Safar19970 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes there are too many jealousy betas out there!

[–]1scissor_me_timbers000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah I mean I’m a lone wolf for that very reason. But you can still engage w the world and become known as a stud in your general vicinity. I just like OP’s theorypoasting of manhood beyond just the sexual conquest.

[–]MRPTriangle5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you want a friend who's worthy of brotherhood, make one.

Find a guy who's teachable, put him under your wing and teach him how not to suck at life. Not terribly hard, not terribly expensive, and building value in someone is fairly analogous to building value in yourself, because eventually you'll be able to extract that value from them, with interest.

[–]Remarkable00317 points18 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]Kakashi_hatake70713 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]theoriginalkingcoder6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is quality TRP content

[–]r32_skyline104 points105 points  (9 children) | Copy

"Right right" everyone agrees.

*Continue returning to Reddit social media and logging in

[–]logosolos26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know you're joking but like most things in life, moderation is key.

[–]ChadBreeder125 points26 points  (6 children) | Copy

I hate when people consider Reddit as “social media.” It’s an anonymous platform for learning, much like reading a book. Sad!

[–]Thinkingard14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's basically a gigantic forum. Back in the day, when I was a part of a small (like a few hundred) forum I felt like I was involved in a large fraternity. We always argued and shared stuff and I got to know better some of the names over the years. Reddit is like that but on a much larger scale where you end up becoming anonymous.

I don't like how reddit is considered social media because it's a lot harder to follow people or make yourself known by creating content. Also, there's a lot of content theft, hence the memes on reposting/karma whores.

[–]Carboneraser-5 points-4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I agree. As a note, adding "Sad!" to any of your communications reminds people of a certain somebody and evokes cringe. If people associate you with trump, it won't be for anything cool. People associate speech patterns that mimic his with insecurity, tantrums, dementia, and social inadequacy.

I'd advise never using it for any outward communications (or stop using it altogether).

[–]ChadBreeder12 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Haha you’re the first person who’s ever picked up on the reason why I often add “sad” at the end of my texts and it is indeed because of Trump. Well done. He is alpha and I love him.

Edit: Not be political, but since you brought it there, most of TRP is conservative and one can argue that TRP is actually inherently conservative as we seek out women who are “trad cons” among other things. Most liberals are EXTREMELY beta.

[–]Keith_Valentine6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think almost everyone got the reference.

Trump is funny though. But im so tired of hearing the left and the media bitch about him. They cringe at everything he does but many of their behavior has been worse. I saw people wishing for the economy to crash to make Trump look bad. And im kinda jaded but that was somewhat shocking to see people that mentally fucked up.

[–]youcanthandlethelie-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I come here when I’m doing a shit. I’m ok with it.

[–]Philosophipster30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy

“Easy choices, hard life” or “hard choices, easy life”.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

once a man sheds the need for delusion and comfort he is unstoppable

[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

when you realize everyone is awkward and most people remain awkward until they die

Remember this when you confidently enter a room and maganimously put everyone at esse with your social grace

[–]koovermann7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

A little late to the party here, but this is quality content. I love seeing shit on here that I resonate with before even reading the full thing. I knew from the second I started reading that you would be picking words straight out of my brain. I've come to realize that I fucking hate social media. Especially Instagram. Insta is like the literal poison to modern society. I say this as a 24 year old, therefore I feel sort of out place sometimes. Its basically a platform that gives people the feeling of importance when in reality they aren't jack shit.

Honestly, the final nail in society's coffin was Instagram stories. That shit is the most self absorbing, narcissistic crap ever invented. Like seriously, what on earth makes you think that ANYONE gives a flying fuck what bar you were at last night? What you ate for dinner? Where you went on vacation? Its basically created a world where everyone tries to flex on each other - but heres the thing - most people don't have shit to flex. It's all just smokes and mirrors, an illusion to get you playing the game.

I've taken social media breaks in the past, but last week I decided to log off for a very long time. I decided to take it one step further this time and ditched my smartphone (bought a cheap ass flip phone to use for the following year). I can't even begin to explain, how fucking good it feels and I've barely even done anything yet as I'm currently on vacation visiting family. Looking very forward to life in 2021 and beyond

Edit: reading a lot of comments about how social media is a tool and how you should use it as such. If you are a business (whether in a literal sense or not) that's using it to promote your brand, engage with your followers and ultimately monetizing it, then yes you're absolutely right. You NEED social media.

[–]Lukasbauwz1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’m usually a lurker around here, however since I can’t sleep I decided to reply after reading your comment. I too have a similar mentality of in regards of social media. I fucking hate it. I realised how toxic it was and took like a 2 year break from instagram and snap until recently, when I bought a new phone.

Feel like I’m slowly falling back to ground 0 again wasting time on endlessly scrolling to the shitty stories that literally have no value to me at all.

But we still do it anyway because we chase that short dopamine hit. Anyways, like yourself I’ve considered getting a shitty flip phone, but can’t help to think of losing out on the convenience of a smart phone these days. Streaming music, easy access to info, camera, internet banking etc.

Maybe it would be better to just block the social media apps or just simply not using them. Idk, that’s assuming if you’ve got strong willpower. I guess I need to try purchasing a flip phone before assuming anything.

[–]koovermann0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

its not ground 0 if you're self aware about it. just do whatever it takes to cut down or eliminate usage. personally I wanna be productive as humanly possible this year, because I see it as the the final opportunity to truly get ahead of the rat race (while all the normies are jerking off to netflix binge watching sessions and moping, I'm gonna be getting shit done) so I decided to go with a more extreme route

[–]darkstar103114 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the kind of shit this sub needs.

[–]armenian_UwUcide31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid gold bars. Thanks for the quality content

[–]JustDoMeee11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great post. You mentioned many times social media is cancer, I agree, but I realise that the path our society is heading in, social media is the future, and technology is evolving like never before. I wanna utilise social media to benefit me and not to be used by it. If anyone has been able to grab social media by the balls, I'd love to read about it.

[–]ChilliPepperoni4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is what i need to

[–]Fifa_Guy9950 points51 points  (6 children) | Copy

Lol. I've met some cool lone wolves in real life. They are pure sigma males and have been since their childhood. They still attract girls, have excellent social skills and are self employed. Some people are wired that way. I don't know why you are shitting on people like them.

They are not lonely either. They excel in solitude and are constantly improving themselves. Think Raymond Reddington from The Blacklist.

[–]idonthavtitsbcimaguy45 points46 points  (2 children) | Copy

He’s not shitting on them. True ‘sigma males’ understand the value of the above. They understand the value of human connection. Sigma males aren’t loners. They will still invite people over for dinner, get togethers, parties. They don’t participate in hierarchal structures and for this reason might be considered a “lone wolf” but they aren’t lonely people. Don’t conflate being a sigma male with being a loner.

[–]chomponthebit22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

And don’t confuse being alone with being lonely. People who hate themselves can’t bear to be alone

[–]Fifa_Guy996 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, they have friends, obviously, but they can go long periods of time alone without mentally deteriorating.

Unlike most people.

They'll only invite people to dinner who are in their trusted inner circle. They don't want randoms to know where they live.

[–]inkwind9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

One observation that I have about lone wolves is:

One sigma tier lone wolf always has connections to other sigma tier lone wolves. And these connections are very strong even if there is close to no communication. It's like being together separately.

They are simply playing a different game more suited to their ways, instead of playing this common hierarchical game by these rules.

It looks damn fascinating from the outside.

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[–]30RITUALS7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am one of these guys. Can confirm.

[–]SaintJaen35 points36 points  (7 children) | Copy

It's really hard to do that right now. People are nervous and discontented because of the pandemic.

[–]armenian_UwUcide25 points26 points  (2 children) | Copy

It’s a double edged sword. There are people more desperate than ever for some connection, and will praise the Lord if you reach out to them with an olive branch of value.

[–]MRPTriangle36 points37 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hard, but more fruitful. The people that aren't nervous and discontented because of the pandemic tend to be high value people. Those that are, tend to be low value people, especially the nervous ones. I can respect someone bunkering down and being well provisioned to wait out the bullshit while doing things that add value to themselves, I can't respect someone who sits around all day plugged into the glowing blue rectangle of doom while pulling their hair out.

This is a great opportunity to allow circumstance to filter your social circle, and there are reasonable opportunities to do so that don't present much risk.

[–]El0vution4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Doesn’t matter, that is timeless advice

[–]kfd_capital9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or even easier, real Gs will go out despite the pandemic. MEN YEARN FOR ADVENTURE AMIDST DANGER

[–]Zacuard13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

That shit hit me and hit me hard. You called me on all my bullshit so fucking directly... that shit just made me change how seriously I take my life and I thank you for that. I won't waste this. I'll read it over again 100 more times

[–]Zech4riah12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

It is often said that the way to the top is a lonely road. But that’s only said by lonely people and it conveniently fits their lone wolf mentality.

Oh but it usually is. There is rarely anyone who can guide you through the journey. You are the one who has walk the walk. It's extremely rare that you can find a tribe of high achievers to company you on the journey and even then you have to make most of your decisions alone for you and for your inner circle.

[–]LondonFox-jr4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great post brother. Definitely a forgotten skill these days. Simply doing some of these things will make you stand out head and shoulder above 99% of people.

[–]AshyLarry273 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Golden write up! The key take away is to stop bitching about people not inviting you out, and that you need to be the one to cast the first invite or plan things out. We are naturally creatures of habit. If your habits have been of just sitting around in front of a computer waiting for someone to text you, you need to make serious changes.

People are already committed to the friends they hang out with and talk to now not out of just some blind loyalty, but out of habit. If you make active attempts to reach out to people, you become apart of their habits and they will in turn reach out to you. Not everyone is used to reaching out to others, so don't feel so offended by this. And if you feel like you do all the work in a friendship and it isnt worth preserving, then just stop contacting that person. They will other contact you back if you matter enough when they sense the distance, or they won't and that's okay too. You can't force yourself into people's lives and expect to super glue yourself there.

[–]alaxoskl42 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you. I've been dealing lately with constant overthinking about my low scores in social media. It was hard to notice that I'm no one in social media, I even cried. But then I realized my few real friends (around 4) that I have on WhatsApp, I've lived true experiences with them, and that doesn't compare with numbers on social media or likes.

So, I've been overthinking about deleting or not my social apps. This reassured my decision of delete them all. All I need is WhatsApp to stay connected with my true friends.

[–]Dystopianlost0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A good decision man, let us know how it continues to go for you!!

[–]MaroonMen20 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

Social media makes people care way too much about other peoples nonsense.

When you are constantly scrolling through social media feeds, reading about all the trivial things in peoples lives, it tricks your brain into thinking that this stuff matters. Many people find themselves constantly scrolling social media, even reading the same posts over and over again, because their brain is hooked on it. Its like a drug, in the same way that junkfood is like a drug. You're much better off without it.

Furthermore, alpha and beta qualities are a part of this. An alpha wouldn't spend time listening to all the trivial things people say. Alphas don't care because they are worried about themselves, not others. A beta, on the other hand, would care. They want to know the gossip and drama going on, because betas care about trivial things like that. Similar to how a celebrity doesn't give a shit about drama in regular peoples lives, but regular people care about drama in celebrities lives.

Don't be a beta. Quit social media.

[–]niki_noodlez46 points47 points  (1 child) | Copy


Social media is a tool.

Use the hammer to hit nails, not your fingers.

[–]CaucasianPanther2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep messenger, delete FB... This is the way

[–]kabir_5436 points7 points  (9 children) | Copy

Thank u sir. I needed this, being a 16 year old I feel blessed to know all this at such a young age.

[–]rickson1s2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

Same bro. Crazy how my life has changed since finding TRP when i was 15 and I’m about to be 17

[–]kabir_5432 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Happy to know that brother. Cheers

[–]Dianded11 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

What red pill stuff do you think has improved your life the most these past 2 years

[–]rickson1s2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lifting and plate theory. I’m still not where I want to be exactly but I’m improving and trying to get out of a bad depression I’ve been dealing with since 7th grade.

I’m still not big by any means but I’ve gotten more aesthetic and my T levels are up. I’ve always been self-concious about my body because I have pectus excavatum but I don’t care anymore.

Plate theory and an abundance mindset is probably the most helpful thing for getting girls. I used to talk to only one girl and it would always fall through. Having that abundance mindset and multiple plates is nice. I’m in an LTR now but I still keep girls as “friends” (I don’t cheat) to let her know I’m the prize still.

I’m thankful I found this sub at the age I did because I used to be a fucking beta.

Also, NoFap isn’t technically redpill but it’s helped me a lot. I was masturbating and watching porn daily since I was 7. I’ve kicked the habit but I still relapse every once in a while.

[–]Dianded11 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’m on the same path right now I just broke a 50 day Nofap streak and I’m tryna get back on it, I’m gonna try to build plates from cold approaching because that’s the only possible way of meeting girls for me right now

[–]rickson1s0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Same, was on a 20 and I relapsed the day before yesterday. Are you still in high school? Snapchat is a very easy way to get plates if you are

[–]Dystopianlost0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Read this post every month. You will grow into a strong-minded person. Good wishes my young bro.

[–]kabir_5430 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I will read it brother. Thank u so much.

[–]Traditional-Lie-73815 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

1 hour on building a passive income stream, haha.

[–]alekhineX8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

it takes less than 1hr to put some saving on a index fund. checkmate beta

[–]luguxd1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need knowledge for this.

[–]Traditional-Lie-73810 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not counting investments, but you need the capital to start. Most people who own enough money to live off interest would have a substantial income and will spend many hours maintaining that income. Nothing comes free. every income takes time investment wether growing capital initially or running business. Continue being foolish, it will serve my spite well.

[–]betacrucis2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great content. The question is about discipline: how do you build this, stone by stone? How do you catch yourself before or even during staring at yet another rectangle for yet another hour? How do you BEGIN being constructive rather than passive consumer?

Tips, please, gentlemen.

[–]smashway0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Check the book Atomic Habits out

[–]reedabosco3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is nicely put, the later points are less attractive than the first few though.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

One of the BEST posts in a long while.

Aside from number 4 - I’m not saying this isn’t a worthwhile goal, but people going around saying “hey cram your day” and expecting people to turn round one day and think “oh wait yeah, now I’ll cram my day and be really productive”. That shadow side of the psyche will still control you, to borrow a Jungian idea, but make small incremental steps to change just one thing and do that daily, or weekly. That is, I believe, why lifting is important (in reality I think TRP needs to drop lifting and just say become extremely proficient at something physical), because it makes at least one part of your life under your own control.

[–]nilosinal1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, that was fucking amazing!

[–]GuapoGiney1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for this post you’ve just helped me getting out of my little hole 👌🏽💯

[–]Disastrous_Respond_11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy of the best content I have seen on trp. The thing about social life and the thing about dining with your neighbors,family is spot on. Just look at tribal communities like sicilians,Jews,Muslims they will do anything for their tribe. I will take action according to this post..

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you have not travelled the world. You do not even understand what you are missing. Go to SE Asia right now. Thank me later when your pounding away on a ten that thinks your are gods gift to the world(No matter what you look like). I still cannot believe the women I have seen hanging on some of the biggest goobers in the world.

[–]Fakercel1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking beautiful brother, saving this post to reread later.

Just learned that parent shit the other day, almost learned that everyone is awkward.

[–]Downcast-VII1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love how this came up when I decided to take a break from my music on Instagram to focus on my mental the end of the day I was chasing validation and seeking comfort. When in reality, I'm unfit, not where I want to be, and I'm miserable. I guess my only worry is my progress online getting messed up. But in the end, it wouldn't matter if my mental health was so bad that I kicked the bucket.

Thanks for this OP.

[–]Gackt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you I needed this (as a reminder, because I already know all of this shit).

[–]nandemonaidattebayo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Most of you won't realize this but 12 is the golden one on this post. It is extremely important to learn how to do *nothing*

[–]Dystopianlost1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wanted to thank you bro. Read this and it brought tears to my eyes.

[–]AdiBaby91 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amazing post. I feel the thing holding me back the most is a seemingly trivial issue called parsuresis, meaning anxiety when it comes to peeing in the presence of others.

[–]rp26261 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Top post. A practical part that spoke to me is just greet people. I find myself avoiding conversation with strangers just because I expect them to be awkward to talk to. But who cares. We should strive to talk to everyone. It brings the community together. Everyone likes meeting new people if they're friendly.

[–]cupofroy1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Really good post. Thank you.

[–]cupofroy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why I can reply but cannot post in this subforum? Reddit prevent me posting saying that it is quarantined. But how can you guys post then?

[–]Gunnder1311 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Excellent post, had to save this in my notes, since saving on Reddit would be the opposite.

[–]najati1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the post I needed this.

[–]CloudDunker1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you brother. This is absolute gold.

[–]usedtimecapsule2 points3 points  (10 children) | Copy

You’re out of touch, you need to get with the times

You want to build a real tribe? Get the fuck on social media and make your tribe thousands of people instead of the few you see in real life.

Social media is a tool, if you don’t have the discipline to use it then get off it. You can either use the tool, or it can sit there in a box. Your choice.

[–]monadyne31 points32 points  (2 children) | Copy

the few you see in real life.

There's your answer: real life.

The people in your real life are the ones who'll come get you when some asshole T-bones your truck at 2 a.m.

And it's not the ones that say, "Ah fuck! I just got into bed, and it's snowing! ...Oh, well...", it's the ones that say, "Hang tight. Be there in twenty. -click!-"

Would your Facebook friends be up for a mission like that? ...I didn't think so.

[–]PassiveNathan5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

exactly, look at Dan bilzerian, everyone looks up to this guy and wants his life, everyone is his best friend and sucking up to him, but as soon as everything goes wrong for him and he needs ppl to stick by him, they're gone.

[–]CommonFable1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dan Bilzerian is a fucking tool haha. Fucker is 100% responsible for everything that goes wrong for him. Anyone who looks up to him is pathetic.

[–]PassiveNathan7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Motherfucker do you think these fake bitches on social media are going to support you when time gets rough? When there's no money? No, as soon as your perfect social media lifestyle disintegrates they're GONE. Build real connections, with real people, who will stand the fuck by you.

[–]PopePalpatineTheWise3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wtf are you talking about? "Bitches in real life" will also abandon you when there's no money and your circumstances are rough. All women will, that's how thyelley are hardwired. Instagram is the marketing page of your already awesome life.

[–]usedtimecapsule2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly, they have absolutely no idea what they’re talking about.

People won’t come rushing to your aid just because they know you in real life.

[–]usedtimecapsule1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Learn how to make money from social media. Get with the fucking times.

You think people won’t abandon you in real life? You’re funny.

If anything if you have a fan base on social media, they’ll be more willing to help you because they respect you a lot more.

Like I said, it’s a tool. You can either hit the hammer on the nail or you can hit it on your head like a fucking idiot.

Obviously have real life friends, but saying social media is useless in 2020 is just a dumb take.

[–]102117991071 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I have two buddies that would drop everything at any time of day to rush over. And it's happened before. I told the girl I was with "buddy needs me gotta go". Not waiting for bullshit "yes you can go" or anything.

It sounds like you don't have that type of friends. Yet. This post is ideas for you to get to that point. Along the way of implementing these tactics there will be a dude who you click with and you might become very very good friends.

That is the point of this post.

[–]usedtimecapsule0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

that is the point of this post

Read the title. This post is about shitting on social media.

[–]102117991071 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don't understand the subtext of this post nor what a tribe means.

[–]randarrow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

[–]WeDontLetHateWin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Doesn’t apply on monk mode. Does it?

[–]spacecommanderfap0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Does reddit count as social media as well?

[–]AltezaHumilde0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pure gold, I would add another tip I figured out long ago.

If you are sucesfull you have to figure out the way to not show it, but get value od it (hiding sucess is quite stupid, right?) people in this society are SO easily offended by others sucess.

I live in a big ass house, have nice salary, have nice stockmarket side business, mi gf is pretty as fuck, my car is thr one I always dreamed.

When I invite people over to dine, they are automatically frightened and ego-hurt, ans I don't even opened my mouth...

You have to show high value without showing high value to be able to be accepted by others.

[–]lvxvl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The 'Normie' in you is going to peg me to be some sort of cultish vegan type (which is the furthest from the truth) when I say this. I watch about 30 hours of TV a year. I haven't driven my car in about 2 years, my year old $1200 cell phone has never been hooked up, and I spend a lot of time meditating and downtown. I ride a bike 10-27 miles a day typically and catch buses like a flea, and eat very healthily. Everything I do takes effort, and since I have the logistics in place, and know them like the back of my hand, it's easy and rewarding.

The point isn't to brag. The point is you can do anything, but whatever you do that's what you have. I'm mysterious to people/women. Not the 'quiet introvert' mysterious, the 'why is that fit guy so different then everyone else in the room?' mysterious. I have to remember, 'It's easy, but never give up what I'm doing because it's almost impossible to get back if I re-enter the normie state of mind.' It's like dieting. You can switch up good eating, but never go back to bad eating.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good advice 50 years ago, bottom feeder of society today

[–]MindfulStoic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The irony of this post is amusing. How much of your day was spent staring at your rectangle to type this? If you’ve somehow found a way to monetize the time investment you’ve spent to write this then kudos to you. But if not, it’s equivalent to a fat person giving advice on losing weight.

[–]FamilyLegacyWealth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This should be on the sidebar Great Shit Family

[–]Red_Cat690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great points.
I don't think it's necessarily cancer.
It's more about the use that one does of social media. But yeah, many (most?) guys use it the wrong way.

[–]99Fuzzy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Finally something that doesn't focus on pussy, thanks OP. Many guys underestimate the power of creating their own world.

[–]DifficultContext0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do guys use Instagram for any other reason than checking out women?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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