There's a big hullabaloo of beta male bitching (the second most common front page content) about how "men are trash" posts have declined exponentially thanks to gifts being on the table. Here's something to consider....


Are you feeling like your relationship is worth it?

Great question to ask yourself. Between now and January 1st those of you "with a girl" will probably have put forth A LOT. In fact, if you're here right now you probably already know something is up. There's good news:

Breaking up is not hard.

Did any of the following things happen to you, or do you think they will?

  1. Gifts weren't "good enough"
  2. You haven't "spent enough quality time" this year
  3. Demands for more of your time and energy in 2019, or "we need to work on the relationship"

Put more simply, do you have any doubts that you are getting all of what you want out of your relationship(s)? If the answer is yes, then I have a mantra for you...

"I do not need to explain myself to anyone once my mind is made up."

A man does not question himself for no reason - if this post resonates with you at all YOU ARE PROBABLY RIGHT. When a man decides to end it, only two things matter:

  1. You have made a decision
  2. The decision cannot be changed

Be a broken record for 2-3 iterations, then get out of there. Nothing further to be gained.


The Moment Itself

There will be crying and begging. You will be the direct cause of her temporary unhappiness. Do not lose frame in the face of this facade - you have decided not to be responsible for her feelings any longer. That is the definition of ending an LTR.

AGAIN - End it quickly. She has plenty of other emotional support. She'll call and text and insta and facetime a shitload of them once you leave. Guaranteed.

She is their problem now.


Mod addition:

The Exit Strategy

I will add that if you're in a particularly messy relationship and firing her could post a personal risk to you, then there's a solid option for extracting yourself without fear of a bunny boiler situation which we've come to call the "Exit Plan". I didn't come up with it, but I've written about it before.

The gist of it is think about all the times you've been in a relationship and changed slowly over time to be how she wants you to be and then eventually dumps you for changing and becoming overly beta. Well, that's the end game:

Dote on her, become clingy, needy, and eventually she'll dump you without any fuss. It's not ideal, but if you have any reason to believe she could become violent against you, falsely accuse you of rape/beating her up, kill your pets, or destroy your property, then this is a solid option to consider.