tl;dr How working out (having a goal and taking it seriously) made me dump my ex, and now have standards for the first time ever!

Why it may seem almost obvious to most RP guys on here I came to a conclusion whilst dating my overweight and lazy ex girlfriend.

Not butthurt at all, as if you see in my previous post, I sent an email to myself 2 weeks into our "relationship" just so I reminded myself how she was wrong for me. But fuck it, banged her every weekend and fooled around with others until she wanted things "really serious."

However, in this relationship of 5 odd months I did several things.

I noticed that I had changed my goal. I wanted to become lean. I was getting tired during sex. That was my first alarm bell. I was doing little to no cardio. Just lifting heavy and eating lots and lots of meat.

So I started Intermittent fasting 17/7 daily and a one day cleanse aka 24 hour fast (eat stop eat).

Whilst virtually impossible at first, it got easier. Then my clarity came to me. I started tracking my lifts (not too heavy im not that strong), my workouts, and I even hired a personal trainer to help me focus on my weak points.

Wow, what a change, and not to mention counting calories.

The results are insane, I started this May time seriously. I fast for 24 hours twice a week, and still do IF. I ofcourse cheat and eat and drink with friends and family, but I fast straight after. My goal is to be 10% bodyfat. I even bought a super expensive scale to monitor my progress.

My point is, I was making enormous strides in my fitness and health. And opposite me was a fat blob that just joined the gym aka "my ex"

I used to ask her what she did at the gym that day, legs, arms etc she would reply "just gym."

Thats like me saying I went to work to day and did "just work" what no specifics? Moronic.

The epiphany has changed my life. I am infact hungrier, and more energetic. I'm healthier, I'm leaner and I am going places. I have zero in common with people and even a girl who doesn't take pride in her appearance at 25 or younger.

I'm no elitist, however the time, work, pain and sweat I go for me (not for girls, this is to prove to myself anything is possible), should be relative in partner.

I by no means want to date a personal trainer, but even as to seeing a girl drinking a huge pint of beer or eat a mcdonalds and not do anything about it is scary to me, and not to mention a huge turn off.

Its like being wealthy and successful after years of hard work and dating that average chick who didn't like you before but now youre a BB shes all over you.

If in their primes they cant look good, look after themselves in 10 years time its going to get worse.

You only live once do not settle for average. I am happier alone right now, and am even selective on who I go for. Because I have standards and for the first time in my life on aesthetics I am starting to believe i deserve it.

Find your fitness goals, reach them, and change your life. But you probably know about that already.