Does therapy work? If anyone been to therapist, did it really help you?

Nastynatee · 2020-02-27T01:50:17+00:00

U gotta find the right one but yes it does for sure dude

gcharleswilks · 2020-02-27T03:49:00+00:00

I believe you get out of therapy what you are willing to put in. It is not some magic one stop fix all solution. It takes work. Hard work sometimes. And you have to be honest with yourself. It’s not so much about the therapist (although finding one you can trust is key) but about what you’re willing to allow yourself to explore. The therapists job is to listen. To get you to see things from alternative perspectives. Eventually you’ll come to your own conclusions about your life, and essentially what it is you need to change heal and fix for yourself. It is a journey of self discovery, with the goal of healing the broken parts of yourself, which is done both in and out of therapy. The therapist gives you the tools and insight. You have to be the one to apply them.

pjordanx · 2020-02-27T03:27:34+00:00

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StrangePrize · 2020-02-27T05:11:36+00:00

Absolutely try therapy. Changed my life for the better and infinitely improved my experience with women.

People in this reddit shit on women therapists. But it really depends on the person. My first therapist was incredible and I openly talked to her about dating, approaching women etc. She was incredibly supportive and actually helped me understand my mission and took my dating game to a new level. Unfortunately, I moved and had to see a new therapist.

The most important thing is to find someone who you click with and whose advice seems reasonable to you.

If you don’t like them, move on.

Theebenedetto · 2020-02-27T02:05:01+00:00

I thought therapy was helpful. I went for about a year. I think it’s beneficial to get advice/speak with someone who isn’t a friend or family to get an objective point of view. There are different types of therapist and counselors and can be tough to find one. Years ago, I went to a guy, didn’t like him (he actually recommended I go to church) and waited 2 years before trying again and it worked out. I believe he was a counselor or social worker, not called a therapist. I did not take any medicine, he only asked once and asked only in a way if I ever thought about it. Medicine is for folks who have some deeper shit going on. I don’t think therapy should have a negative stigma against it.

sir_shitfuck · 2020-02-27T05:46:46+00:00

> I tried meditation; it didn’t work

Probably cause you didn't meditate.

There's a difference between actual devotional selfless meditation, and MUH redpill lift weights fuck bitches meditation, a huge major difference

Libertyordeath1214 · 2020-02-27T04:47:02+00:00

Getting into therapy was one of the best decisions I've ever made. And like others have said, if you're not satisfied then move on to the next one

vullnet123 · 2020-02-27T02:22:10+00:00

Make sure you get a good male one. go to Pyschology Today and see if you can find one that specializes in what your looking for.

HillaryLostTheEC · 2020-02-27T04:20:58+00:00

I'd give it a shot dude. What's the worst that can happen? Your mental health is extremely important man, don't fuck around with it. You don't want to spiral down, fix your problem now.

AJ_KG_JG · 2020-02-27T06:37:12+00:00

I have suffered (mostly past-tense, I'm doing awesome now) from many of the same things you mentioned. IF you find a good therapist, therapy can be golden. Unfortunately, I wasted a lot of time on therapists who were, shall we say, less than stellar. Then I found an absolutely great one, and bam, my progress (which was already pretty good) skyrocketed.

My advice: Trust your gut if you think a therapist isn't helping you, and pull the cord sooner rather than later. PM me if you'd like my advice on the specific therapist I found.

frognads · 2020-02-27T07:12:44+00:00

What's up with all these extremely subjective questions?

The question is really whether it will work for you, and there's only one way to find that out.

GGrub8 · 2020-02-27T10:02:34+00:00

A therapist's job is to make you an average, functioning member of society who isn't one day going to kill himself or pick up a shotgun and go for a killing spree.

If what you desire is an existence that goes above mediocrity, to be in the 80 percentile, therapists will not and can not help you.

second-last-mohican · 2020-02-27T03:57:56+00:00

Yeah go for it, no harm in trying, try another one if the first one isnt right.

Also if you find psychology isnt your thing, you could always try a life coach or something similar, never hurts to have someone with your best intentions and possibly someone to point you in the right direction

2020-02-27T06:41:53+00:00

Whatre your test levels?

TFWnoLTR · 2020-02-27T15:15:06+00:00

Yes, therapy works.

I started seeing one after the breakup with my kids mom. I only started going because she suggested it might convince her to reconsider leaving me.

Man, that was the best decision I ever made. I had already been somewhat familiar with TRP, but the stuff I learned about myself in therapy really opened my eyes to how real it is.

What's funny is I started reading No More Mister Nice Guy while still going and realized my therapist was essentially leading me towards the same goals in that book, but it was personal and tailored to my unique personality.

The trick is finding a good therapist. A big factor is location. I'm in Michigan and it seems like good therapists are abundant here. Im told the opposite is true on the West coast, where 9 of 10 therapists are new age morons or just completely incompetant. Avoid places claiming to have some unique style of therapy.

Most importantly, avoid female therapists. The overwhelming majority of female therapists could be replaced by a statue that listens to your venting and their services would actually be improved. That shit may work for some women, but it's not helpful for a man.

One thing I'll add that may seem counterintuitive: don't rule out therapists because their bio says a lot about their ability to improve self esteem. What the average person means when they say self esteem and what professionals mean are two different things. To most therapists, self esteem means making your own needs a priority.

Also, you shouldn't become dependant on therapy. If you're still going after three years, your not resolving the issue that brought you there in the first place.

2020-02-27T15:43:08+00:00

You're really going to discuss your problems with a female? you know how that shit is gonna turn out

Also theres a good chance that a male therapist is gonna be beta blue pill as fuck and give you some PC bullshit advice. He may even be passive aggressive and be jealous of your success. That is not out of the realm of possibility. Beta professionals are some of the worst motherfuckers on earth and will hurt anyone with a higher SMV than them. They have a feminine mindset.

"I was skinny but now I have gained 27lbs. I look better and feel better. I have started enjoying my hobbies but the best thing is, I don’t act needy around women anymore. I also got a nice job that I really enjoy. On the side I fuck escorts, which I also enjoy a lot. "

Excuse my candidness but WHAT THE FUCK are you so depressed about? You should be proud of yourself THE FUCK. holy shit man, you are a fucking God for accomplishing this shit.

Forget your blue pill past, if you keep dwelling on that shit you will cross back into the blue pill world and relive all that shit again.

An alpha does not get depressed or anxious. He is living and enjoying the moment. He isn't worrying about the past or the future. He's just living now.

ProfessionalCoffee8 · 2020-02-27T16:42:58+00:00

I've been seeing a therapist for more than a year and it's helping me overcome my insecurity and jelaousy issues.

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-02-27T23:32:17+00:00

Only if you take action instead of just using it as an outlet to complain about the same problems every week.

It works well for non self-aware people to work out their feelings and thought patterns. But I have always been very self-aware. I know exactly what's wrong in my life and what I have to do to fix those problems. So just take action.

Imo therapy isnt needed unless you actually have a mental disorder or ptsd. If anything it might help having someone to hold you accountable and check up on you to see if you made any progress.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2020-02-27T02:05:19+00:00

Yes... IF you find someone that is open minded and is willing to work w you and your healing and goals.

If you do try it don’t be afraid to hard next a therapist, seriously.

I’ve got some experience in this area but this slut won’t bang her self...

Taipoe · 2020-02-27T05:09:54+00:00

Therapy is good but in my experience you have to find the right therapist as my first one felt like it didnt help but my second one helped a lot. Beginning feels weird opening up to someone you dont really know but once you get past that then it starts to really help

DirtyBastard13 · 2020-02-27T05:39:25+00:00

Went for a couple of sessions, after spending two hundred dollars for an old hippy to tell me that I had nothing wrong with me despite a fucked up childhood, i didn't go back. Still looking, but all of the ones in my area are women or soyboys under 30.

__Archaeus__ · 2020-02-27T05:43:35+00:00

Please look up Dr. Doug Lisle, or his website ‘esteem dynamics’. This is groundbreaking evolutionary psychology that will help you easily.

Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits · 2020-02-27T07:22:49+00:00

I liked it, but I think LSD trips probably precipitated more life-changing insights than therapy ever did.

Greek-God-Brody · 2020-02-27T07:27:39+00:00

Subliminals

Nergaal · 2020-02-27T08:50:58+00:00

CBT with the right therapist can be very useful. Good therapists are pretty rare, so be open to the possibility to drop the therapist if it feels iffy.

PersonalDevKit · 2020-02-27T09:02:30+00:00

Been using Betterhelp an online counsiling service, I travel a lot, and it has been great.

Has really helped me clarify what are issues I can work on and giving me steps I can take to work on those issues.

For me anger can build up and cloud my judgment in situations. I learnt a few tips and strategies to work within my limitations in the short term and then expand my scope in the long term.

Professionals are pros for a reason. Your friends and family may be able to give you advice, the pros give advice for hours a day for years. They know things about the brain and people that your friends and family don't know. As with people though you won't get a long with every counciler. In my life I have seen 4 different mental health pros, 2 of them have had positive effects on my life, 1 did nothing and the other told me "this is just how you are get used to it". Up to you to stick with it long enough to find someone who you can relate to and get help with

Good luck brother

fkinguy223 · 2020-02-27T09:35:00+00:00

But I still have something which holds me back sometimes. Like childhood memories, past failures, insults, insecurities, guilt and very strong anger. I can’t handle sometimes.

CBT works and the reason it works is because it's basically unbullshitting all the ideas you have in your mind about the past, the "Learned you".

Think about it, you got it good now, except for the "past" stuff - well, that's what made you stronger! You used the anger the sadness and all the bad stuff and you are doing better now, continue that.

Do not give it power over you, accept it, accept what happened and be "OK" with whatever happened in the past, it's done.

But do not make the mistake of thinking that if you accept what happened in the past this means you will permit it in the future.

Then go from there.

Diche_Bach · 2020-02-27T09:59:14+00:00

Yes. But it has to be a good fit therapist. Not just any will do.

latrobe1000 · 2020-02-27T11:49:41+00:00

didn't really work for me to e honest.

MrTheFalcon · 2020-02-27T12:37:37+00:00

Try writing all the junk from the past down, then burn the pages. Do it as often as you want. It helps, and its a good reason to light a fire.

Counselling was helpful for sorting out feelings, but not solutions. Cognitive Behavioral therapy has actual tools and measures for improvement. That's been helpful for me.

Heavy lifting, especially squats, has been the best therapy so far for me. Stoicism helps me separate myself from my feelings, my present from my past. Everyone is different though.

FineBet0 · 2020-02-27T13:46:54+00:00

Contrary to everyone else it seems, it really didn’t do anything in my situation other than waste money. The two male therapists I went to either told me to take meds or basically give up on my career (he was assuming that I was dreaming like him when he was younger) luckily we didn’t waste too much money as I was still trying them out to get a good feel of how things would be going.

What worked for me was figuring out if my beliefs in my career were irrational or not and then changing those beliefs to align with reality.

cluelessguitarist · 2020-02-27T14:24:51+00:00

You sound like you are in your head alot, do things out of your comfort zone that forces you to be in the moment, things like bjj,kickboxing sparring , even skateboarding. I used to overthink alot of things but doing martial arts has helped me alot to stop thinking about the past or what others think about me etc.

RaughKee · 2020-02-27T14:27:45+00:00

I went to a therapist during my divorce. It was an incredibly traumatic time and I needed help. It helped a lot, I keep meaning to find another therapist (mine retired) and go in more infrequently for a "tune-up". If you invest some effort into finding the right therapist, are willing to open up and be truthful you will get a lot out of it.

conk2000 · 2020-02-27T14:36:27+00:00

I have been in the social work/mental health field since 2014.

Therapy does work, but the quality of the therapist is an inverse ratio to how "big" the company/practice is. The bigger the production, the more it will lean left and/or feminist. Big companies are also required to do lots of "trainings" (read: indoctrination) on diversity training, toxic masculinity, female superiority, etc. They also have a shit ton of paperwork and hoops to jump through, and all of those involve cookie-cutter leftist goals.

Recommend looking for an independent office or practitioner, and a male therapist. There are good female therapists out there, but they still cannot empathize with the male experience. Therapist doesn't even need to be Chad, the best qualities of a therapist are being client-focused which is neither an alpha or beta trait.

Jcorb · 2020-02-27T15:09:17+00:00

Absolutely. I'm still not totally where I want to be, and I only had a few sessions last year, but it made a world of difference.

You definitely have to kind of "shop around" for the right therapist or psychologist (not a psychiatrist; at least not initially, unless a psychologist tells you they think you may need medication). But it's absolutely worth it.

A post, somewhere here on reddit, is what convinced me to finally seek one out. Some poster described it as "mental maintenance", just like the sort of maintenance you would have on a car or something like that.

You gotta take care of yourself, man. Not just physically, but also mentally. Your brain is a muscle, after all, and if it's left in poor shape, it will affect everything else.

EDIT: In the off-chance you're located anywhere in the Northern Virginia or DC area, let me know and I'd be more than happy to DM you the guy I went to. He's an extremely interesting, very inspiring guy, and I think resonates with a lot of RedPill stuff without ever having actually mentioned it. He honestly changed my life, and I intend to go back to him if I'm ever going through serious stuff again (or even if I just pay down my debts and can afford to go regularly).

screenmagnet · 2020-02-28T15:32:55+00:00

If you feel weird talking to a therapist, you can find some good therapy workbooks (CBT or DBT) for anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc. on amazon. Mind Over Mood is a classic.

breakdatass · 2020-02-27T01:44:35+00:00

camaraderie!

SalesAficionado · 2020-02-27T03:53:51+00:00

Go see an older man. Useless to see a woman

SteveSan82 · 2020-02-27T05:29:38+00:00

Made things worse. They pushed psych meds and gave wrong diagnosis because they need to diagnose You on the first day.

Things only got better when I stopped going.

Now finding mentors helped though

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-02-27T07:15:25+00:00

The Rapist?

There’s a reason they got Rape in their name.

They rape your mind then rape your wallet,

Fake made up bullshit that wouldn’t be needed if people had a strong family and support structure.

Silas1067 · 2020-02-27T01:44:53+00:00

I did therapy once and it helped to some extent.

But I really wouldn't be able to do it for an extended period of time, or get really deep. My ideology, politics, and especially my past, would become a huge issue.

Some neoliberal, or leftist, academic isn't going to like me. They would probably throw me out of their office. So for certain people, such as myself, therapy isn't an option.

I get much better results through writing fiction and poetry (getting it all out), talking to like-minded friends or my wife, exercising, etc.

bnnmmh · 2020-02-27T02:22:47+00:00

Therapy is for the physically injured and the seriously mentally unwell.

Therapy for us is the biggest scam of the 20th century. Therapists are narcissists who have learned some stock phrases and solutions for various situations and as such have found a way to milk money from bored and depressed rich people who want to complain to somebody and feel like they're special and they're the only ones with problems, or that their problems are harder than everyone else's, instead of finding solutions and getting on with it like most people do. What do you think people did before Freud came along? They didn't have therapists, and people got along with things just fine, in fact better, since depression and suicide has gradually risen since then. People would have laughed at you for paying a "doctor" just to talk with you. People weren't dumb back then, they just hadn't been indoctrinated into the scam that is the "talking cure".

Everyone has their issues my man. You are capable of solving them on your own with some capabilities of self reflection and drive to solve them. Just living a healthy life and finding a job you like works absolute wonders. Depression and anxiety and shit like that is solved with actions, not words.

Source: both my parents are therapists and they have a lot of therapist friends. I love my parents and their friends are nice people, but their profession is nothing but ego masturbation for both the therapist and the client. Go get ripped in the gym and then masturbate to your reflection in the mirror - you'll get more out of it and it's cheaper.

Also, unless you're rich you won't be able to access a good therapist anyway. Waste of time and money.

PhaedrusHunt · 2020-02-27T03:09:33+00:00

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Quo210 · 2020-02-27T05:10:56+00:00

Find a male doctor. Don't be satisfied with the first one. Explore.

It can help as much as it can hinder you, depending on the proffesional's aproach. Remember the indoctrination is part of the government's modus operandi

agjrpsl · 2020-02-27T13:02:23+00:00

Find a female therapist and plate her.

Title	Does therapy work? If anyone been to therapist, did it really help you?
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