Does therapy work? If anyone been to therapist, did it really help you?

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February 27, 2020
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Since I started lifting I have improved a lot. I was skinny but now I have gained 27lbs. I look better and feel better. I have started enjoying my hobbies but the best thing is, I don’t act needy around women anymore. I also got a nice job that I really enjoy. On the side I fuck escorts, which I also enjoy a lot.

But I still have something which holds me back sometimes. Like childhood memories, past failures, insults, insecurities, guilt and very strong anger. I can’t handle sometimes.

I tried meditation; it didn’t work. I have blood and testosterone test done, everything is normal. So the problem is only mental. I have never tried therapy because I feel weird to open up with someone.

If any of you tried therapy, did it really help you?


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Title Does therapy work? If anyone been to therapist, did it really help you?
Author bnnmmh
Upvotes 76
Comments 83
Date 27 February 2020 01:34 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Nastynatee66 points67 points  (1 child) | Copy

U gotta find the right one but yes it does for sure dude

[–]sftriguy2118 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was lucky enough to find a male masculine therapist. It works just don't find someone who makes you only talk about your feelings. It should be action based therapy.

[–]gcharleswilks14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

I believe you get out of therapy what you are willing to put in. It is not some magic one stop fix all solution. It takes work. Hard work sometimes. And you have to be honest with yourself. It’s not so much about the therapist (although finding one you can trust is key) but about what you’re willing to allow yourself to explore. The therapists job is to listen. To get you to see things from alternative perspectives. Eventually you’ll come to your own conclusions about your life, and essentially what it is you need to change heal and fix for yourself. It is a journey of self discovery, with the goal of healing the broken parts of yourself, which is done both in and out of therapy. The therapist gives you the tools and insight. You have to be the one to apply them.

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[–]pjordanx7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Name checks out

[–]StrangePrize8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely try therapy. Changed my life for the better and infinitely improved my experience with women.

People in this reddit shit on women therapists. But it really depends on the person. My first therapist was incredible and I openly talked to her about dating, approaching women etc. She was incredibly supportive and actually helped me understand my mission and took my dating game to a new level. Unfortunately, I moved and had to see a new therapist.

The most important thing is to find someone who you click with and whose advice seems reasonable to you.

If you don’t like them, move on.

[–]Theebenedetto22 points23 points  (4 children) | Copy

I thought therapy was helpful. I went for about a year. I think it’s beneficial to get advice/speak with someone who isn’t a friend or family to get an objective point of view. There are different types of therapist and counselors and can be tough to find one. Years ago, I went to a guy, didn’t like him (he actually recommended I go to church) and waited 2 years before trying again and it worked out. I believe he was a counselor or social worker, not called a therapist. I did not take any medicine, he only asked once and asked only in a way if I ever thought about it. Medicine is for folks who have some deeper shit going on. I don’t think therapy should have a negative stigma against it.

[–]bnnmmh[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

How long it took you to see the difference in you when you started again ?

[–]Theebenedetto1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

A few visits. I went for 1.5 years before feeling that I got enough out of it. I think I went weekly in the very beginning but changed to every other week eventually, sometimes 3 weeks between. When going through my insurance, I must of called/left messages with a dozen people before getting an appointment. Personally think worth the effort in the end.

[–]keeperteeper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I tried for months to find a therapist that would take my insurance. None would take/had openings at the same time.

[–]Nergaal1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

after a few sessions you should have some sort of revelation along the lines "I guess I never thought of it this way but it makes sense"

[–]sir_shitfuck8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

> I tried meditation; it didn’t work

Probably cause you didn't meditate.

There's a difference between actual devotional selfless meditation, and MUH redpill lift weights fuck bitches meditation, a huge major difference

[–]OlderRedBrother1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Can you expand? I’m tryna step up my meditation game

[–]INFPUserLearning1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Would be curious to know about this too

[–]Libertyordeath12143 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Getting into therapy was one of the best decisions I've ever made. And like others have said, if you're not satisfied then move on to the next one

[–]vullnet1237 points8 points  (7 children) | Copy

Make sure you get a good male one. go to Pyschology Today and see if you can find one that specializes in what your looking for.

[–]MrBreitling23 points24 points  (5 children) | Copy

I've had a male one that was the most cucked femoid in the universe

Then multiple females who were actually, surprisingly, based af.

It really matters who you end up with, vote with your feet.

[–]PhaedrusHunt18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

Best one I had was actually a little gay Mexican dude. He was fucking awesome.

[–]IATAsshole5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Tbf a little gay Mexican dude sounds like someone I’d party with

[–]PhaedrusHunt17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

Bro it was DARK DAYS.

I was in my last semester of grad school. Just couldn't with my ex wife anymore. Left the relationship. Two kids (9&4 at the time). Trying to get through school but my focus was shot.

I had moved out of our main house and into a room in a rent house we owned.

Started dating again, rebounded for a chick that should have been a fling bad.

Then the ex pulled some shit man. Next level. I'll tell my story one day. But she couldn't get me out of the rent house (she was being spiteful), so she put a false restraining order on me for her and the kids, and falsified documents to show she lived in the rent house. I was so shocked when I was served papers that I missed that I was prohibited from being in my own place. So I didn't move out.

She shows up the next day, calls the cops, bam, I'm in jail for almost a week.

Get out, rebound ghosts. I can't go to either of my homes, I can't see my kids, I have the clothes on my back, a 94 Tercel, a 73 F100, a few grand, and no clue. We were doing an amicable divorce with no attorneys and she pulled this. Fucking blindsided.

I was coming apart at the seams. I've been through some tough stuff. When I was 8 my cousin/best friend died. When I was 18, another best friend died. When I was 21 my sister blew her brains out. And despite all that, this shit took the cake.

Then this little gay dude just brought me back from the utter abyss.

I wasn't suicidal, but I was falling apart. Like, I don't know, about to have a break or something? It's hard to describe. Dark days.

[–]IATAsshole1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hey man glad you’re doing better!

Nobody should have to go through all that shit.

[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks.

I lost that battle but it's a war, not just one battle. I've had to come around to the same savage tactics my ex took but it's fight or lose my kids. I had to train myself to hold her in contempt, and I've come to realize she's a flat out evil person.

Eventually I'd like to sponsor people in similar situations with legal help.

[–]drsherbert3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can usually tell by the pics of the male therapist if he’s a beta cuck soyboy in psychology today.

[–]HillaryLostTheEC2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd give it a shot dude. What's the worst that can happen? Your mental health is extremely important man, don't fuck around with it. You don't want to spiral down, fix your problem now.

[–]AJ_KG_JG2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have suffered (mostly past-tense, I'm doing awesome now) from many of the same things you mentioned. IF you find a good therapist, therapy can be golden. Unfortunately, I wasted a lot of time on therapists who were, shall we say, less than stellar. Then I found an absolutely great one, and bam, my progress (which was already pretty good) skyrocketed.

My advice: Trust your gut if you think a therapist isn't helping you, and pull the cord sooner rather than later. PM me if you'd like my advice on the specific therapist I found.

[–]frognads2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What's up with all these extremely subjective questions?

The question is really whether it will work for you, and there's only one way to find that out.

[–]GGrub82 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A therapist's job is to make you an average, functioning member of society who isn't one day going to kill himself or pick up a shotgun and go for a killing spree.

If what you desire is an existence that goes above mediocrity, to be in the 80 percentile, therapists will not and can not help you.

[–]second-last-mohican1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah go for it, no harm in trying, try another one if the first one isnt right.

Also if you find psychology isnt your thing, you could always try a life coach or something similar, never hurts to have someone with your best intentions and possibly someone to point you in the right direction

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whatre your test levels?

[–]TFWnoLTR1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, therapy works.

I started seeing one after the breakup with my kids mom. I only started going because she suggested it might convince her to reconsider leaving me.

Man, that was the best decision I ever made. I had already been somewhat familiar with TRP, but the stuff I learned about myself in therapy really opened my eyes to how real it is.

What's funny is I started reading No More Mister Nice Guy while still going and realized my therapist was essentially leading me towards the same goals in that book, but it was personal and tailored to my unique personality.

The trick is finding a good therapist. A big factor is location. I'm in Michigan and it seems like good therapists are abundant here. Im told the opposite is true on the West coast, where 9 of 10 therapists are new age morons or just completely incompetant. Avoid places claiming to have some unique style of therapy.

Most importantly, avoid female therapists. The overwhelming majority of female therapists could be replaced by a statue that listens to your venting and their services would actually be improved. That shit may work for some women, but it's not helpful for a man.

One thing I'll add that may seem counterintuitive: don't rule out therapists because their bio says a lot about their ability to improve self esteem. What the average person means when they say self esteem and what professionals mean are two different things. To most therapists, self esteem means making your own needs a priority.

Also, you shouldn't become dependant on therapy. If you're still going after three years, your not resolving the issue that brought you there in the first place.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're really going to discuss your problems with a female? you know how that shit is gonna turn out

Also theres a good chance that a male therapist is gonna be beta blue pill as fuck and give you some PC bullshit advice. He may even be passive aggressive and be jealous of your success. That is not out of the realm of possibility. Beta professionals are some of the worst motherfuckers on earth and will hurt anyone with a higher SMV than them. They have a feminine mindset.

"I was skinny but now I have gained 27lbs. I look better and feel better. I have started enjoying my hobbies but the best thing is, I don’t act needy around women anymore. I also got a nice job that I really enjoy. On the side I fuck escorts, which I also enjoy a lot. "

Excuse my candidness but WHAT THE FUCK are you so depressed about? You should be proud of yourself THE FUCK. holy shit man, you are a fucking God for accomplishing this shit.

Forget your blue pill past, if you keep dwelling on that shit you will cross back into the blue pill world and relive all that shit again.

An alpha does not get depressed or anxious. He is living and enjoying the moment. He isn't worrying about the past or the future. He's just living now.

[–]ProfessionalCoffee81 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've been seeing a therapist for more than a year and it's helping me overcome my insecurity and jelaousy issues.

[–]BruhMoment458861 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only if you take action instead of just using it as an outlet to complain about the same problems every week.

It works well for non self-aware people to work out their feelings and thought patterns. But I have always been very self-aware. I know exactly what's wrong in my life and what I have to do to fix those problems. So just take action.

Imo therapy isnt needed unless you actually have a mental disorder or ptsd. If anything it might help having someone to hold you accountable and check up on you to see if you made any progress.

[–]Adorable_FecalSpray4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes... IF you find someone that is open minded and is willing to work w you and your healing and goals.

If you do try it don’t be afraid to hard next a therapist, seriously.

I’ve got some experience in this area but this slut won’t bang her self...

[–]Taipoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Therapy is good but in my experience you have to find the right therapist as my first one felt like it didnt help but my second one helped a lot. Beginning feels weird opening up to someone you dont really know but once you get past that then it starts to really help

[–]DirtyBastard130 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Went for a couple of sessions, after spending two hundred dollars for an old hippy to tell me that I had nothing wrong with me despite a fucked up childhood, i didn't go back. Still looking, but all of the ones in my area are women or soyboys under 30.

[–]__Archaeus__0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Please look up Dr. Doug Lisle, or his website ‘esteem dynamics’. This is groundbreaking evolutionary psychology that will help you easily.

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I liked it, but I think LSD trips probably precipitated more life-changing insights than therapy ever did.

[–]Giagle1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or psilocybin

[–]Greek-God-Brody0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Subliminals

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

CBT with the right therapist can be very useful. Good therapists are pretty rare, so be open to the possibility to drop the therapist if it feels iffy.

[–]PersonalDevKit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Been using Betterhelp an online counsiling service, I travel a lot, and it has been great.

Has really helped me clarify what are issues I can work on and giving me steps I can take to work on those issues.

For me anger can build up and cloud my judgment in situations. I learnt a few tips and strategies to work within my limitations in the short term and then expand my scope in the long term.

Professionals are pros for a reason. Your friends and family may be able to give you advice, the pros give advice for hours a day for years. They know things about the brain and people that your friends and family don't know. As with people though you won't get a long with every counciler. In my life I have seen 4 different mental health pros, 2 of them have had positive effects on my life, 1 did nothing and the other told me "this is just how you are get used to it". Up to you to stick with it long enough to find someone who you can relate to and get help with

Good luck brother

[–]fkinguy2230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

But I still have something which holds me back sometimes. Like childhood memories, past failures, insults, insecurities, guilt and very strong anger. I can’t handle sometimes.

CBT works and the reason it works is because it's basically unbullshitting all the ideas you have in your mind about the past, the "Learned you".

Think about it, you got it good now, except for the "past" stuff - well, that's what made you stronger! You used the anger the sadness and all the bad stuff and you are doing better now, continue that.

Do not give it power over you, accept it, accept what happened and be "OK" with whatever happened in the past, it's done.

But do not make the mistake of thinking that if you accept what happened in the past this means you will permit it in the future.

Then go from there.

[–]Diche_Bach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. But it has to be a good fit therapist. Not just any will do.

[–]latrobe10000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

didn't really work for me to e honest.

[–]1MrTheFalcon0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Try writing all the junk from the past down, then burn the pages. Do it as often as you want. It helps, and its a good reason to light a fire.

Counselling was helpful for sorting out feelings, but not solutions. Cognitive Behavioral therapy has actual tools and measures for improvement. That's been helpful for me.

Heavy lifting, especially squats, has been the best therapy so far for me. Stoicism helps me separate myself from my feelings, my present from my past. Everyone is different though.

[–]bnnmmh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Heavy lifting actually help. First time in my life I’m loving my body. It made me look much better and now I started getting women attention to sometimes.

Problem comes if something negative happens to me then it put me back to the similar mental condition I used to be in years ago. Smaller things can trigger those emotions. That’s the problem.

I really appreciate so many users gave advice. I would try the therapy or CBT. I would learn about more about CBT.

[–]FineBet00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Contrary to everyone else it seems, it really didn’t do anything in my situation other than waste money. The two male therapists I went to either told me to take meds or basically give up on my career (he was assuming that I was dreaming like him when he was younger) luckily we didn’t waste too much money as I was still trying them out to get a good feel of how things would be going.

What worked for me was figuring out if my beliefs in my career were irrational or not and then changing those beliefs to align with reality.

[–]cluelessguitarist0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You sound like you are in your head alot, do things out of your comfort zone that forces you to be in the moment, things like bjj,kickboxing sparring , even skateboarding. I used to overthink alot of things but doing martial arts has helped me alot to stop thinking about the past or what others think about me etc.

[–]RaughKee0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I went to a therapist during my divorce. It was an incredibly traumatic time and I needed help. It helped a lot, I keep meaning to find another therapist (mine retired) and go in more infrequently for a "tune-up". If you invest some effort into finding the right therapist, are willing to open up and be truthful you will get a lot out of it.

[–]conk20000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have been in the social work/mental health field since 2014.

Therapy does work, but the quality of the therapist is an inverse ratio to how "big" the company/practice is. The bigger the production, the more it will lean left and/or feminist. Big companies are also required to do lots of "trainings" (read: indoctrination) on diversity training, toxic masculinity, female superiority, etc. They also have a shit ton of paperwork and hoops to jump through, and all of those involve cookie-cutter leftist goals.

Recommend looking for an independent office or practitioner, and a male therapist. There are good female therapists out there, but they still cannot empathize with the male experience. Therapist doesn't even need to be Chad, the best qualities of a therapist are being client-focused which is neither an alpha or beta trait.

[–]Jcorb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely. I'm still not totally where I want to be, and I only had a few sessions last year, but it made a world of difference.

You definitely have to kind of "shop around" for the right therapist or psychologist (not a psychiatrist; at least not initially, unless a psychologist tells you they think you may need medication). But it's absolutely worth it.

A post, somewhere here on reddit, is what convinced me to finally seek one out. Some poster described it as "mental maintenance", just like the sort of maintenance you would have on a car or something like that.

You gotta take care of yourself, man. Not just physically, but also mentally. Your brain is a muscle, after all, and if it's left in poor shape, it will affect everything else.

EDIT: In the off-chance you're located anywhere in the Northern Virginia or DC area, let me know and I'd be more than happy to DM you the guy I went to. He's an extremely interesting, very inspiring guy, and I think resonates with a lot of RedPill stuff without ever having actually mentioned it. He honestly changed my life, and I intend to go back to him if I'm ever going through serious stuff again (or even if I just pay down my debts and can afford to go regularly).

[–]screenmagnet0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you feel weird talking to a therapist, you can find some good therapy workbooks (CBT or DBT) for anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc. on amazon. Mind Over Mood is a classic.

[–]breakdatass0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

camaraderie!

[–]SalesAficionado0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Go see an older man. Useless to see a woman

[–]PhaedrusHunt5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

I guess. I'm still close with a counselor I had when I was a kid.

She got me through some dark, dark times.

My grandmother was the one in the family that carried the torch of wisdom.

Women are still humans, and the human mind is an incredible thing.

But I'm sure you're smarter than Marie Curie was.

[–]SalesAficionado4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

I have no idea what you are trying to convey with that rambling of yours. The reason I'm telling the guy to see an older man is because men can relate to other men's issues. But sure, he should go and talk to his grandmother about how much fun he has fucking hookers.

[–]PhaedrusHunt1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe his grandmother was a hooker! This is a judgment free zone!

[–]SalesAficionado2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

True. I stand corrected.

[–]HillaryLostTheEC0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This^ how do you expect a women to teach you to be masculine?

[–]SteveSan820 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Made things worse. They pushed psych meds and gave wrong diagnosis because they need to diagnose You on the first day.

Things only got better when I stopped going.

Now finding mentors helped though

[–]theUnBannableHulk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The Rapist?

There’s a reason they got Rape in their name.

They rape your mind then rape your wallet,

Fake made up bullshit that wouldn’t be needed if people had a strong family and support structure.

[–]Silas1067-1 points0 points  (9 children) | Copy

I did therapy once and it helped to some extent.

But I really wouldn't be able to do it for an extended period of time, or get really deep. My ideology, politics, and especially my past, would become a huge issue.

Some neoliberal, or leftist, academic isn't going to like me. They would probably throw me out of their office. So for certain people, such as myself, therapy isn't an option.

I get much better results through writing fiction and poetry (getting it all out), talking to like-minded friends or my wife, exercising, etc.

[–]Theebenedetto6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Therapist are objective. They aren’t going to argue politics with you. You’re way off the mark.

[–]PhaedrusHunt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Meh they're support to be objective but I haven't met an objective human being yet

[–]Silas10670 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No one is objective, and no one operates outside of ideology and social norms

[–]Theebenedetto0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh, ok

[–]PhaedrusHunt2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Some neoliberal, or leftist

Jesus Christ this is the second time in as many days I've seen someone use the word neoliberal incorrectly.

It's an economic philosophy-- laissez faire capitalism more or less.

It has nothing to do with being a leftist. Actually leftists hate it.

Google it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Neoliberalism is just the long road to communism, in line with Marx's reasoning that capitalism is a necessary step before evolving to communism.
Both ideologies have the goal of a borderless global society and an equally borderless marketplace.

[–]PhaedrusHunt1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Why do leftists hate it so much then?

The first time I heard the term it was actually Hugo Chavez, probably 15 or more years ago

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Because leftists are complete fucking idiots.
Neoliberals and communists have the same end goals, but lefties' reflexive hatred of capitalism prevents them from seeing the long-term track of neoliberalism.

[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting. Thanks for the insight. Granted, I'd not looked into it too much, but what you're saying makes sense.

It's certainly the long game.

[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Therapy is for the physically injured and the seriously mentally unwell.

Therapy for us is the biggest scam of the 20th century. Therapists are narcissists who have learned some stock phrases and solutions for various situations and as such have found a way to milk money from bored and depressed rich people who want to complain to somebody and feel like they're special and they're the only ones with problems, or that their problems are harder than everyone else's, instead of finding solutions and getting on with it like most people do. What do you think people did before Freud came along? They didn't have therapists, and people got along with things just fine, in fact better, since depression and suicide has gradually risen since then. People would have laughed at you for paying a "doctor" just to talk with you. People weren't dumb back then, they just hadn't been indoctrinated into the scam that is the "talking cure".

Everyone has their issues my man. You are capable of solving them on your own with some capabilities of self reflection and drive to solve them. Just living a healthy life and finding a job you like works absolute wonders. Depression and anxiety and shit like that is solved with actions, not words.

Source: both my parents are therapists and they have a lot of therapist friends. I love my parents and their friends are nice people, but their profession is nothing but ego masturbation for both the therapist and the client. Go get ripped in the gym and then masturbate to your reflection in the mirror - you'll get more out of it and it's cheaper.

Also, unless you're rich you won't be able to access a good therapist anyway. Waste of time and money.

[–]bnnmmh[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

You are capable of solving them on your own with some capabilities of self reflection and drive to solve them.

I have been trying for so long but I could not. For example: I’m scared from confrontation, if someone raised voice at me it triggered childhood memories when I got bullied. No matter what I say to myself; doesn’t help. even I look much stronger than before... still doesn’t help because it’s automatic. I have zero control on these emotions.

If therapy is just a scam as you said then I have no idea what to do next. Maybe I have to find a way to just to live with it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You need to face your fears. You put yourself in situations where you have to deal with what you're afraid of. You'll suck at first and make a fool of yourself, but over time it'll get easier and then eventually you'll be fine.

Join a martial arts class.

There, I did more for you than a therapist could. Honestly. And it's for free.

[–]bnnmmh[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I had so many rejections in the past and situations where I tried to get out of my comfort zone but ended up in worse situation than before. All these negative experiences are pilling up all those years. So now If I put myself in fearful situations and if it doesn’t work out then My mental situation would be worse than before. That’s a risk. People say overtime things get easier but it’s not always true.

[–]throwawaycunt19970 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Make sure you have a stable foundation to fall back on. And take calculated risks. Once you can figure this process out, then you can start giving yourself some much needed exposure therapy.

The only one who is going to teach you to fly here is you.

[–][deleted]  (3 children) | Copy

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[–]PhaedrusHunt1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Just go to a strip club. But also ummm, learn to fuck girls?

[–]DirtyBastard131 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Strip Clubs are a waste of money, Beta Bux with even less chance of scoring.

[–]PhaedrusHunt4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't like strip clubs personally.

I just meant if he wants a call girl, a strip club ain't a bad place to look. A lot of those girls turn tricks too. Hookers ain't my thing either, I've never had problems getting laid, I'm just throwing a dog a bone lol

[–]Quo210-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Find a male doctor. Don't be satisfied with the first one. Explore.

It can help as much as it can hinder you, depending on the proffesional's aproach. Remember the indoctrination is part of the government's modus operandi

[–]agjrpsl-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Find a female therapist and plate her.



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