There’s a thread right now about how sex should happen early in a relationship or there’s no love... but if women have sex with every man she goes out with, she’s inevitably going to rack up a huge N-count.

These same dudes will bang on about how women should vet for better men, but dating someone is how you vet them - which I always assumed to be why they don’t all rush to fuck. They’re still trying to figure out if you’re even compatible as people. And when chicks do put out quickly, and it turns out badly for them, they’re told it’s their own fault for not waiting.

None of the people I hang with think this way (by design, they’re weeded out pretty quickly; Sex-positive hippy types don’t have a lot of compatible with tradcon edgelords) Is this just another one of those “I want a virgin who waits until she meets me, then becomes a slut only for me” fantasies?

(I’m saying this as a bi dude who’s dated both men and women— having weird impossible expectations makes someone very hard to date or fuck, because if they can’t even picture what an ideal would look like, it’s gonna be really hard to meet it even if you find a chick who does like you.)