Since my wife telling me she is pregnant last Friday, I have been presented with a variety of challenges. On Saturday and Sunday, I was woken up at 4 AM to make her the food she was craving (one night it was a waffle, the next it was steak). Over the weekend she was craving wings twice (40$ total), on Monday she goes Moes at work (10$), and then she bought Chinese for dinner (20$). Granted these have lasted for multiple meals but her cravings are getting out of hand. This morning I got fed up because I saw she spent 10$ on some Jamaican food (I noticed on Mint since our bank accounts are linked for financial purposes).
I confronted her about this over text (about an hour ago) and told her this is getting out of hand and I am setting a food budget with her tonight. Granted, I understand that women have cravings during pregnancy and all of their senses get intensified as well as they start liking certain foods they did not like and hating foods they used to like (based on smell, taste, etc.)
She tried using the whole "But I am pregnant thing again....I cannot control what I want to eat, IDK what I want to eat until 30 mins before I eat it, I am stressing her out, it is hurting the baby, I made her cry at work, etc.
I can handle the additional hormones (basically just seems like a 9-month long comfort test so far), but if I cannot set an immediate boundary with this early I know it will get out of hand and will affect our savings plan.
I also still want to be considerate, but within reason. I can workout 100$ a month if she craves different items that often, but 80$ in one week is crazy to me. I have not told her this plan yet and she is throwing a tantrum over text, but this is what I want to present tonight as well as other things. The past three nights she has also refused to cook saying she does not like the smell of food cooking and if I want to eat I need to make it. (Our old dynamic was she cooks and I clean the dishes after we are done eating). Granted I know that fatigue is common in the first trimester but part of me also feels like she is milking the situation to be lazy and spend money.
I know other members on RPC have gone through dealing with a pregnant wife before so I was also wanting to get some input on how you handled this and other things I should expect etc.